Learning to empathize is a person's highest accomplishment.

Confucius said, "Bow is thick and blame others lightly. It means that a truly cultivated person will not blame others for no reason, but will constantly put himself in other's shoes and reflect on himself more, and finally be able to understand others and be strict with himself.

Everyone has everyone's responsibility, and everyone has everyone's worries and joys. Only by putting yourself in others' shoes can you understand others' thoughts and behaviors.

Only when we learn to put ourselves in other's shoes can our life be smoother.

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Learn to put yourself in the other's shoes to make the relationship between husband and wife more harmonious

See such a joke:

Once upon a time, there was a man who was tired of busy work every day, and when he came home every day, he always envied his wife for her carefree and comfortable appearance.

So one day he prayed to God, hoping that God would turn him into a woman and let him and his wife exchange roles. As a result, the prayer came true the next day, and he became like his wife, and her became like him.

He was so happy that he thought I could enjoy a wonderful leisure life in the future, but before he finished thinking, his wife protested, why don't you make breakfast? I'm going to be late for work.

So he quickly got up to make breakfast. After breakfast, he woke up the children, dressed them for breakfast, packed lunch and sent them to school. After returning home, he began to clean, wash clothes, buy food in the supermarket and prepare dinner.

after only one day's work, he can't stand it. He is too tired, even more tired than he is at work.

when he woke up the next day, he prayed and asked God to change him back, but God said to him, it's ok to change you back, but it will take another 1 months, because you were pregnant last night.

This story is very interesting. It is about empathy. Don't think that others' work is easier than yours, and others' life is easier than yours.

If all husbands can understand this joke, learn to be considerate of their wives' difficulties and tolerate each other. The relationship between husband and wife will be more harmonious.

Empathy is not only an attitude, but also a moral character. People who know empathy deserve respect from others.

If you don't want others to deprive you of your life, then don't smoke in front of others. If you don't want others to spit in your face, then don't spit everywhere.

If you don't want others to say dirty words about you, don't abuse others casually. If you don't want to be looked down upon, don't look at people with colored glasses.

Don't do to others what you don't want them to do to you. Put yourself in others' shoes and treat others as you want them to treat you.

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If you want to catch a fish, you should think like a fish.

Empathy is actually a well-known way of thinking. It really takes a lot of thought to put it into practice.

Just like if a person wants to catch a fish, he should think like a fish.

a marketing expert said that when he was a child, he went fishing with his father, and every time his father came home with a full load, he found nothing.

He asked his father, "Why can't I catch any fish? Is my method wrong?" His father told him, "It's not that your fishing method is wrong, but that your idea is wrong. If you want to catch fish, you have to think like a fish."

what does this mean? It turns out that fish are very sensitive to water temperature, and they like to stay in warmer waters. However, the sunlight is also strong in places with high water temperature, because fish have no eyelids, and sunlight can easily stab their eyes.

Therefore, fish will choose to stay in cool shallow water and have sufficient barriers, such as dense aquatic plants, so that they can easily avoid external hazards. Therefore, you can only catch more fish by putting the hook here.

This reminds us of the cartoon of a rabbit fishing. The rabbit uses carrots as bait, but it can't catch any fish. The same is true.

In interpersonal communication, we usually use our own standards to measure other people's behavior. Overconfidence makes our thinking ignore the unique personality of the things around us, which may lead to the opposite result.

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Put yourself in the other's shoes and let the children learn to take responsibility.

A father told a story about his parenting:

When his son was 2 years old, one day, he hit his head on the corner of the table and grew a big bag, crying.

After a minute, he went to the table and asked loudly,

"Table, who hurt you? Crying so sad? "

The son stopped crying and looked at him with tears in his eyes. He stroked the table and asked his son,

"Who is it? Who hurt the table? "

"I, Dad, I hit it!"

"Oh, you hit it, so why don't you bow to the table and say you're sorry!"

With tears in his eyes, the son bowed to the table and said, "I'm sorry". Since then, my son has learned responsibility and responsibility!

This father is very clever. He grasped children's psychology, guided his son to put himself in other's shoes, and made his son understand the meaning of responsibility.

Because in children's world, everything is alive, even a table.

don't think that children are too young to be sensible. In fact, they will imitate their parents, and they will learn whatever their parents teach them. I believe that this child will grow into a man who dares to do things and is not afraid of setbacks in the future.

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Only by learning to put yourself in the other's shoes can you be considerate of others.

A wife is cooking in the kitchen, and her husband keeps telling her what to do. One minute I said don't put too much salt, the next I said the soup should be cooked for a while, and the next I said which sauce is better.

At first, the wife listened to her husband patiently. Later, she couldn't help it and shouted for him to go out. She said that she was cooking now and didn't want her husband to tell her what to do.

The husband said to him, I did this because I hope you can understand that when I am driving, you can sit aside and shut up.

Only then did the wife understand what she had done wrong.

Only when everyone learns to put themselves in the other person's shoes, can they deeply observe each other's inner world, understand others, do what the other person wants you to do and say what the other person wants to hear, so as to bring their hearts closer and their relationship closer.

This is an absolute golden rule to win, whether at home or in the workplace, whether for lovers, friends, bosses or even children.

A truly cultivated person will always put himself in the other's shoes, and put himself in others' shoes first, so that he can be respected and loved by others.

Therefore, more people trust him and follow him. His interpersonal relationship will be more comfortable, his family will be more harmonious and happy, and his life will be more complete and successful.

I hope you and I can learn to put ourselves in the other's shoes, be more tolerant and understand others, and the world will be better.