The lower the cognitive level, the more people like to show off.

It is not difficult to find that people who love to show off can be seen everywhere:

Showing off their father is a government official; Show off your children's outstanding achievements; Show off the expensive watches and bags that my husband bought for himself; Show off your food ...

Show off is everywhere, only you can't think of it, and you can't show off without him.

Some people are wearing a pair of brand-name shoes, so he has to fly. Every time he meets someone, he takes off his shoes and shows them off.

I saw a video on the Internet: the poor boy bought a new car and went back to the village, deliberately stuck in the middle of the road to show off, and the result was not good.

Because when he entered the village, he found people who grew up together, some were polishing their BMWs, some were polishing their Audi cars, and others were parked on the side, and each car was higher than his grade.

And they usually ride tricycles and battery cars, and never show off.

The sense of superiority that the young man tried to show off before is gone.

Some people hit the nail on the head: they are still too young, and they are all raised by a village head. There is absolutely no need to show off in front of everyone.

by being young, I mean my mind is immature.

as the saying goes, a bucket of water is silent, and half a bucket of water sloshes.

the less mature people are, the lower their cognitive level is, and the more they like to show off in front of others for fear that others will not know.

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The less knowledgeable people are, the more they like to show off.

In the fable "Show off", there is such a thing.

Italian jeweler Maleki went to London to attend the gem auction. He saw an ordinary old man sitting next to him, wearing a watch with several gems.

Moleki asked, "Is your gem watch valuable?"

The old man smiled and told him that it was just an ordinary watch.

After hearing this, Moleki flaunted how many gems he owned, and ignored others' cold eyes and talked about the methods of identifying gems.

Towards the end of the auction, Moleki took a peacock sapphire for 5, pounds.

When Melleki got the gem, the old man came up to him and said, "You just showed off that you are an expert in identifying gems. I didn't remind you, but I bought it without thinking of you. You spent at least 2, pounds more on this gem."

Only then did Moleckey realize that the ordinary old man in front of him was Graf, a jewelry tycoon with 2 billion pounds and the richest man in the jewelry industry in the world.

Many of us will make the same mistake as Moleckey, such as a frog in a well. The less we know, the more we think we have seen the best and know the most, and the more we like to show off and be complacent.

Franklin said, "Lack of modesty is lack of knowledge."

The more knowledgeable people are, the more they know how to show off their money, and there are more people who have more money than themselves. If you show off your power, there are many people who are more powerful than yourself; If you show off your connections, the real big shots may not know you, but they will only know people who are better than themselves.

no one can claim to be the best in the world. They know that there are mountains outside the mountains and there are people outside.

the more knowledgeable people are, the higher their cognitive level is, the more they know that there is a wider unknown world besides themselves, and the more humble they are, and they are not showing off and arrogant.

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The more self-righteous a person is, the more he likes to show off.

There is a kind of person who likes to show off because he thinks everyone else is a fool.

his ostentation is to fool others for pleasure, so as to gain inner superiority and satisfaction.

I once read a story about Ji Xiaolan and He Shen.

Ji Xiaolan and He Shen were drinking in the garden when suddenly a dog ran by. He Shen asked in surprise: "Is it a wolf (assistant minister)? Is it a dog? "

at that time, Ji Xiaolan was the official residence assistant minister, and He Shen was the official residence minister. Ji Xiaolan smiled casually: "The vertical tail is a wolf, and the vertical (Shangshu) is a dog."

In order to insult Ji Xiaolan, He Shen pretended not to know a wolf or a dog and showed off himself. As a result, Ji Xiaolan used the difference between a wolf and a dog to humiliate him. He was really clever and was mistaken by cleverness.

I was deeply impressed by a plot in the TV series Mr. Love.

When Lori was in charge of the hotel administrative class, a colleague accidentally spilled a glass of orange juice on the skirt of a female guest, and Luo Yue came to mediate.

The female guests took the opportunity to show off their skirts, which cost more than 3, yuan. If they can't be cleaned, you can't afford to pay for them.

Lori saw at a glance that this skirt is the latest style in cavalli, but it is a high imitation, which has been copied to nine points.

Lori said, "The genuine washing label has two marks on its iron and only one underline on the internal label. Your skirt doesn't match."

The female guests began to be arrogant. When Lori said that there was a boutique street near the hotel, she could ask professionals to appraise it, the female guests dared not show off any more, saying that the skirt was only worth 3, yuan.

It's not uncommon to show off your jokes by treating others as fools:

It's delicious to show off foreign water dragon fruit when you're abroad, because foreign countries are red and China water dragon fruit is white;

The young man spent 1, yuan to buy a "Ferrari" black horse to show off everywhere. As a result, people found that it was transformed from second-hand Geely loong, but the Ferrari prancing horse logo was taped on the back.

Schopenhauer said, "Showing off one's talent and cleverness is just an indirect laugh at others' stupidity and incompetence."

The lower the cognitive level, the more self-righteous, and the person who treats others as fools is the real fool.

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What a person shows off

indicates what he lacks in his heart

There is a good saying: "The more he shows off, the more he lacks in his heart."

the more a person cares about, the more he feels inferior.

The more I feel inferior, the more I want to come to shattered glass by showing off. I don't want to be known because of the lack, so I will cover it up with showing off.

Lu Zhiwen wrote in My Proverbs of Mortals:

Why do you show off, because you value it;

why do you attach importance to it, because you are eager;

why do you want it? Because of lack.

if you want to know what a person lacks in his heart, just look at what he shows off; If you want to know what a person feels inferior, just look at what he hides.

According to Records of the Historian, when Yan Ying, the short prime minister of Qi State, was out, his coachman sat under the hood of the cart, flogging four horses and shouting loudly, which attracted the general public to watch. He was very proud.

It happened that the driver's wife saw this scene and wanted to break up with him. The driver was puzzled.

The wife said, "Yan Ying is less than six feet tall (one foot in the Warring States period is equivalent to 22.5 centimeters now, and Yan Ying is less than 1.35 meters tall). As the prime minister of Qi, he is famous but has a deep expression. Don't you feel ashamed that you are arrogant and show off when you are a coachman at eight feet?"

the more a person shows off, the more he expects.

The exploiter shows off his wealth, which shows how much he longed for money.

Bao Ma shows off her children frequently because she lacks spiritual sustenance and is eager for attention and praise from friends around her.

The girl is crazy about taking beautiful photos, which shows that she lacks someone who knows herself, feels insecure and wants to seek comfort.

The lower the cognitive level, the more people want to show off to gain others' recognition and satisfy their vanity. Because they don't believe in relying on their own strength to gain real self-confidence.

Ryunosuke Akutagawa said in River Boy: "What we want to show off most is exactly what we don't have".

People with low cognitive level gain a sense of superiority by showing off themselves. Little did they know that another name for the sense of superiority is inferiority.

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People with higher cognitive level

The richer their hearts are

People with higher cognitive level are richer their hearts, and they live in their own spiritual world, never showing off or making public.

Farewell My Concubine, the top Chinese film, won the highest award at the 46th Cannes Film Festival: the Palme d 'Or, and was later selected as one of the top 1 films in the world by American Time magazine, with a score of 9.5 on Douban.

the birth of a good movie is inseparable from a good script and a good story.

This film is based on Farewell My Concubine, a novel of the same name by Li Bihua.

Li Bihua's novels "Green Snake" and "Rouge Kou" have been made into enduring films, and she herself won the best screenwriter in the Hong Kong Film Awards.

It stands to reason that such a talented and well-born writer enjoys the reputation of "the first romantic person in the world" and has his own capital and confidence to show off, but Li Bihua is very low-key.

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Few people know her appearance and her family background, because she insists on not revealing her true colors, never giving interviews to any media, and never taking part in any publicity activities.

She said:

Don't be so curious about my face. I am the kind of person who is not easily recognized in a crowd. There is nothing to describe. It's good for me to keep a proper distance from the outside world. I don't always remember my influence, I don't think about how many people are reading your writing, and I don't always regard myself as a beacon of misery before I can write

Lv Bihua's "Don't cry oranges"

Ji Xianlin has written three laurels: a master of Chinese studies, a leading scholar, a national treasure, a respected and respected one.

In order to be quiet, he would put a notice on his door that he refused to receive visitors. For people to call him a "master of Chinese studies", he said that he was not even a "master of Chinese studies", let alone a "master"!

The higher the cognitive level, the less they care about others' affirmation, because they know that life is like drinking water, and they don't need to live in other people's eyes and mouths. They have a normal mind to watch flowers bloom and fall, and the tide ebbs and flows.

People with rich hearts don't need to show off at all. They don't like things, they don't care about themselves, and they live calmly and freely.

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Improve your cognitive level

You need to do these three things

There are four levels of people's cognitive level:

The first level is that you don't know what you don't know;

the second level is knowing that you don't know;

the third layer is knowing what you know;

the fourth layer is not knowing what you know.

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most people who love to show off are at the first level of cognition, that is, they don't know if they don't know.

For example, a young man who shows off his car just doesn't know that he doesn't know that others have better cars than him; Another example is a female guest who shows off her skirt worth 3 thousand yuan. She doesn't know that she doesn't know that Luo Yue knows that brand.

if he knew that the villagers had better cars than him, would he still show off? Similarly, if a female guest knew that Lori knew the goods, she wouldn't show off.

So, to improve your cognitive level without showing off, here are three suggestions.

1. Read more

Reading is the lowest cost way to know yourself and know the world.

some people say: if you don't study for a day, no one can see it; If you don't study for a week, you will start to explode; If you don't study in January, your IQ will be lost to pigs.

people who don't study will stay on themselves and the people around them, but of course their knowledge is limited.

how humble a learned person is.

2. Experience more

Experience more people and things, and your knowledge will be improved. Go into the crowd and don't avoid real life.

if you have seen the whole forest, you won't be confined to one tree. With more experience, people will mature.

3. Get to know more people who are better than themselves

Have you noticed that people who love to show off are all showing off in front of people who he thinks are not as good as him?

For example, if he has 1 million yuan, he will only show off in front of people who don't have 1 million yuan, but not in front of people who have 1 million yuan or even 1 million yuan.

get to know more people who are better than you, and you will realize your own smallness and inadequacy, and your cognitive level will rise with you.

Bacon said:

People who show off are despised by wise men, admired by fools, flattered by flatterers, and at the same time they are slaves to their boasting words.

the higher the cognitive level, the less they will show off. Because their hearts are full and full, they live what they want.

May we all become people who don't show off, strong and humble, rich and open-minded.