When I went back to my mother's house, I was told by my father that I would never come again because of a small matter. Should this be angry?

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When a woman gets married, she is a guest

When I went back to my mother's house, I was told by my father that I would never come again because of a small matter. Should this be angry?

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When a woman gets married, she is a guest in her family and an outsider in her husband's family. There is no home that really belongs to her, and she has no sense of belonging. So now many women don't want to live with their in-laws after marriage, and want to have their own independent wedding room, so that they can have their own small family.

But not all women can have their own independent families. Some women have to live with their in-laws. In this case, the bride's family becomes a woman's patron. If her family is strong enough to support her daughter, her husband's family will not dare to bully her daughter-in-law easily.

Women have feelings for their parents, so many women will take care of their parents. When something happens to their mother's family, they always go all out to help her. It is also right for women to help their parents properly, but if it exceeds a certain level, it will often affect marriage.

After Huang Lishan married her in-laws, she lived with them. Mother-in-law often gives her a look, and her husband doesn't look at her. Huang Lishan takes care of her family everywhere because she is unhappy in her husband's family and feels that her family is good. No matter what food, use or money she keeps sending to her parents.

The more Huang Lishan cares about her family, the greater the opinions of her husband's family, and the more favorable she is to her family, thus forming a vicious circle. Because Huang Lishan always sends things back to her family, her family naturally treats Huang Lishan well, and her brother-in-law and parents often praise Huang Lishan for being good.

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Sister-in-law's children go to school, and Huang Lishan contracts the children's school expenses, and Huang Lishan also bears a large part of the parents' usual food expenses. Huang Lishan's own money is subsidized by her family. She also often takes her husband's money and supplies it to her family. Of course, this is done in secret.

Later, Huang Lishan's mother was ill in hospital and spent 30 thousand at once. It stands to reason that Huang Lishan's brother and sister-in-law should also pay the money, but Huang Lishan was very generous and gave it all, without letting her parents and sister-in-law spend a penny.

When my husband learned about this, he quarreled with Huang Li Shan. He felt that all the money should not be paid by Huang Lishan. Why should the brother-in-law's family bear some? But now that the money has been given, my mother-in-law will not pay back the money no matter how noisy she is. After her husband lost his temper, she had to give up.

The second week after her mother-in-law was discharged from the hospital, her mother-in-law also fell ill, and the doctor asked her to be hospitalized immediately. It is natural to pay a deposit for hospitalization, because the young couple's money is kept by Huang Lishan, and her husband asks Huang Lishan for money to pay the deposit.

Huang Lishan prevaricated and refused to take out the money, and her husband was very angry. Huang Lishan paid 30 thousand yuan for her mother-in-law's illness. Now that her mother-in-law is ill, Huang Lishan won't even pay a deposit of 10,000 yuan, and her husband is still quarreling with Huang Li Shan.

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Huang Lishan had to explain that it was not that she refused to take it out, but that the couple had no money at all. Except for their own meals, all their savings were made up by her. The 30,000 hospitalization fee paid to her mother-in-law last week was their last deposit.

Hearing this result, my husband couldn't believe his ears. He worked hard to make money outside, and now his mother is ill, but she can't come up with a penny. Huang Lishan is a family thief, stealing all the money from home, and her husband is so angry that he quarrels with Huang Lishan.

When the son and daughter-in-law couldn't pay the deposit, the mother-in-law asked her father-in-law to take out the coffin book. Fortunately, the old couple still have some savings, otherwise they would have borrowed money. My husband feels very sorry for his parents and his heart is full of guilt.

So after her mother-in-law became ill, her husband immediately filed for divorce with Huang Lishan. Huang Lishan doesn't want a divorce, but her husband is determined. He doesn't want to live with Huang Lishan anymore. Finally, my husband divorced Huang Li Shan and awarded it to Huang Lishan because the child was still young.

Huang Lishan secretly rejoices that she has always taken care of her family, and now she can go back to her parents' home after divorce. Her family has always been very kind to her, she has a way out, there is nothing to be afraid of in divorce, and it is her husband who suffers.

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But after Huang Lishan returned to her family, the situation was not as she thought. Sister-in-law and her parents immediately changed their faces when they heard the news of her divorce, blaming her for not getting divorced. Hearing her say that she would take her children to live with her parents, my sister-in-law immediately said, "Married daughter, how can the spilled water come back?"

When my sister-in-law finished, my brother immediately stood on his wife's side. When parents saw the attitude of their son and daughter-in-law, they immediately disagreed with Huang Lishan's living in her house. Huang Lishan was very wronged and said angrily, "I divorced because of you." I gave you all my money, and now you don't want me! "

Her father gave her a white look and said, "Don't rely on others if your own life is not good!" Your own money, you can't control it yourself! No one is forcing you to take out your money, but you can't manage your own money and spend it indiscriminately. Now you blame your family. No wonder your son-in-law wants to divorce you! "

Mother said to Huang Lishan, "Don't say anything. You and your children will stay here for one night today, and you can find another place tomorrow! " My daughter is married and will come back to live. Where should I put your father's face? The villagers will laugh us to death! "

Huang Lishan suddenly felt extremely cold. She never dreamed that her family, who had been kind to her, heard that she would do this to her after the divorce.

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The next day, Huang Lishan left her family with her children, and her feelings for her family were broken. She secretly decided not to go back to her mother's house in the future. She regretted losing her marriage for her parents, but she didn't stand in her own position, making her not a person inside and outside and hurting her children.

After a woman gets married, she must be clear about her position and adapt to the new role. Although the bride's home is near, it has left this family of origin and can no longer be centered on family of origin.

Just married into her husband's family, it is inevitable that you will encounter difficulties and setbacks. You must find a way to solve it actively, not shrink back and find a way out. When a woman enters a new family, it certainly takes time to adapt to her husband's family. As husbands, we should also open our arms, accept our daughter-in-law and tolerate her shortcomings.

Husband and wife should be honest with each other. Husband and wife should discuss how to use their property. Women have no right to secretly give it to their parents, and men have no right to give it to their parents privately. Marriage belongs to both husband and wife, and both sides should manage it with care, so that marriage can last for a long time.

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