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I'm afraid no one can give a standard answer to the question of how to be a qualified mother-in-law and a qualified daughter-in-law.

The reason is also very simple and difficult to adjust.

You have your likes and dislikes, and I have my evils. A mother-in-law who is a model in Zhang San's eyes may not be qualified in Li Si's eyes, and neither is a daughter-in-law.

But nothing can escape from one reason, and neither can you escape from your feelings. As long as what you do at home is sensible, at least you won't be complained if you don't get praise.

The importance of the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is self-evident, and the complexity of the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is also puzzling. There are many reasons for the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law Assuming that both sides don't like each other, then the posture of the other side holding chopsticks when eating can be the fuse of conflict.

Among many reasons, the unequal status of family of origin members and daughter-in-law is the most likely source of conflict.

Some people say that a stupid mother-in-law treats her daughter-in-law as an outsider, while a smart mother-in-law treats her daughter-in-law as a relative.

In a sense, this statement is very correct. As long as the daughter-in-law is not a shrew with thorns all over her body, as an elder, her mother-in-law should show her elder demeanor and tolerate her.

Compared with families with many children, the interpersonal relationship of one-child families is simpler and the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is easier to get along with.

In families with many children, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is not only a problem between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, but also a contradiction caused by other family members.

Such as sister-in-law, brother-in-law and so on.

In all fairness, on the one hand, it is your own child who has been raised for more than ten years, and on the other hand, it is a "transfer student" who comes in, which is clear at a glance.

But many times, if you want to have a harmonious family, you still need to pay attention to some strategies. You can't judge the seniority according to the distance between relatives and friends, which will only make the family undercurrent.

Haven't you heard the story "Two peaches kill three scholars"?

From the moment you treat your daughter-in-law differently, it is doomed that this family will either prosper or decline in the future.

Colleague Luo Luo and her husband have been married for 8 years, and after seven years of itching, the child will soon go to primary school.

We media workers have fixed working hours, but we never get off work on time. Lolo is also a person full of work energy. Every month, her KPI is always at the top.

People who have houses in small cities will never realize the desire for houses in the hearts of people wandering in first-tier cities with high housing prices and high housing prices.

Luo Luo and her husband are both migrants and have no foundation in the local area. Everything depends on the husband and wife to fight with one punch and one foot.

Rent when you are in love, rent when you are married, and rent when you have children. Only those who have rented a house can understand the inconvenience of renting a house and the fear of living without a fixed place.

On the eve of the children's primary school, Lolo finally got her first house.

The house is not big, only about 60 square meters, with two small rooms. The small space bears the joys and sorrows of the family, and also takes root for them in this city.

"Dwelling House" Li Haiping always complains that the speed of saving money can't keep up with the soaring housing prices, and the down payment is always getting "less". Fortunately, Lolo and his wife worked hard enough and were lucky enough. They didn't bite the old man or borrow money. They paid more than 700 thousand down payment themselves.

This home is very important to them.

Since having a house, the happiness index of a family of three has been rising steadily.

Happiness and misfortune depend on each other, and it didn't take long for a good day to come. An unexpected guest came to Lolo's house.

Lolo's husband is the eldest in the family, and he has a younger sister under him. This sister is six or seven years younger than Luo Luo's husband. Their children have all landed, and her sister-in-law has just gone to college.

My daughter is my parents' little cotton-padded jacket, and my parents-in-law gave birth to such a baby pimple in their 40 s. Although her family is not rich, she grew up in her hands.

After graduating from college, my sister-in-law went back to her hometown and tossed about for a year or two, but she didn't make any tricks. She felt that the fish pond in her hometown was too small to hold her real dragon, so she simply ran to her brother.

When I arrived at my brother's house, I reported my parents' safety in the dark.

As soon as my sister-in-law arrived, she found a job immediately, which was so fresh.

Many people find it difficult to find a job. That's because you want your company, and you feel it is not up to standard. You stand on tiptoe and want to enter the company, and people think that you are not good enough, so you have become an unemployed person for a long time.

Sister-in-law is still grounded. Don't be too picky. As long as she lives in a suitable occupation and her salary is high or low, she will go if people want her.

Sister-in-law is new here, so naturally she has to be taken care of by her brother.

Lolo does not exclude the arrival of his sister-in-law. Although the house is small, it won't be too crowded to live alone. After all, my sister-in-law is her husband's sister, and there are still many days to take care of in her later life.

She converted the child's bedroom into a bunk bed. Although the child is a boy, he is still young and can make do for a while.

For Lolo, working overtime is very common. Her husband is a code farmer, and the situation is not much better than Luo Luo.

The husband and wife have irregular schedules, and the children have been supervised since school.

In Lolo's original plan, her sister-in-law came for a while. When she is not busy at work every day, she can help her husband pick up the children and cook dinner. So she sometimes comes home too late and doesn't have to cook by herself, so she is exhausted.

However, her sister-in-law gave her a "surprise".

She goes to work on time, and after work, she likes to sit on the sofa and brush the drama for her to cook. As a result, she can't even scramble eggs with tomatoes.

Luo Luo said to her sister-in-law, "If you don't learn, you will need it when you get married!"

Sister-in-law didn't think so, and she didn't forget to tease.

"Learn that thing, find a husband who can cook? I'm not like you, looking for an economical man like my brother! "

The fallen husband turned black.

Lolo and her husband like to sleep late on weekends. Over the years, children have also developed such "bad habits".

Therefore, I won't get up early to make breakfast as usual on weekend mornings.

I didn't expect my sister-in-law to tell her mother-in-law, so her mother-in-law specially called Lolo and told her that her sister-in-law should have breakfast every day, and Sunday was no exception, so that Lolo should not sleep late and make breakfast in the morning.

I received a phone call from my mother-in-law and heard her say something puzzling. Although Lolo was a little unhappy, she controlled her temper and agreed as much as possible.

In her opinion, the 2045-year-old sister-in-law has reached the age of talking about marriage and can't stay in her own home for two years. At that time, marry a chicken and follow a dog, and make do with it.

Unexpectedly, the next weekend, my mother-in-law called to supervise. Call at six o'clock in winter when it is still dark.

My mother-in-law told Luo Luo: "It's time to get up and cook. Your sister will get up for breakfast soon! " ! I have decided what to eat for you. Your sister likes tofu brain and fried dough sticks since childhood. You can go out and buy some and make some soy milk yourself. Put some walnuts in the beans that make soybean milk, which is good for the brain and hair. "

Lolo's home is surrounded by tall buildings. It turns out that tofu brain and fried dough sticks are rarely sold in the south. Where can I buy tofu brain and fried dough sticks for her in the downtown area where there are many high-rise buildings in the early morning?

This time, she was completely angry and said to the phone, "Go home if you want to be a princess, or you can fly to wait on your aunt." I won't wait! " "

Because of this, my sister-in-law moved out of Lolo's house in a rage and didn't go back for the New Year.

Mother-in-law always thinks that depravity is wrong. Fortunately, her husband is considerate to her, otherwise it will really lead to war at home.

Compared with Luo Luo's mother-in-law, my best friend's mother-in-law is a very reasonable person.

The family structure of the best friend's husband is similar to that of Luo Luo's mother-in-law, with one son and one daughter and a family of four. The difference lies in whether the best friend's husband is old at home.

My best friend once accidentally broke my sister-in-law's lipstick. That lipstick is a limited edition, but my sister-in-law's baby can't, so I don't usually want to use it. Seeing that your best friend is broken, it is natural to give her a slap in the face.

The result was directly sent back by my best friend's mother-in-law.

Afterwards, my girlfriend heard from her husband that her mother-in-law privately gave her sister a sum of money as compensation.

I'm afraid any woman who flatters her daughter-in-law in front of others will get a dozen.

It is difficult for many people to find the best way to get along with their mother-in-law, because everyone's personality is different, and some friction will inevitably occur in the process of getting along.

In a family, each member plays a different role. If we want to make our family happy, we must put our position in order and attach importance to harmony.

As a mother-in-law, if you want to get along well with your daughter-in-law, these three tricks are directly in place.

First, save her face.

Mother-in-law is the most taboo to tear down her daughter-in-law's platform.

There are always some old people around us, who always like to tell their neighbors and friends about their daughter-in-law's faults, as if everyone had spurned her, so as to drive away evil spirits in their hearts.

But this will only make things worse. There is no airtight wall in the world. When one day she knew all kinds of negative rumors spread by her mother-in-law, she was educated not to fight hard with her.

Everyone gathers firewood with a high flame, and so does the family. Only when people support others and unite as one can outsiders respect their own families. Dismissing each other will only make others look at jokes for nothing.

Give your daughter-in-law a little face in front of others, and she will be very grateful to you.

Second, treat her as an "outsider"

In the old days, there was a saying, "Marry a chicken with a chicken, and marry a dog with a dog", which meant that as long as a woman chose a man, she could not go back on her word and lost the freedom to choose again in disguise.

This makes some mother-in-law think that a daughter-in-law is her private property as long as she marries at her doorstep. If she wants her to face east, she has to face east.

The misjudgment of the situation will make the daughter-in-law leave angrily after accumulating a cavity of grievances, and it is too late to regret it.

Sometimes, a mother-in-law should properly treat her daughter-in-law as an "outsider", give her due respect and courtesy, and let her feel your atmosphere and mind.

Mother-in-law and daughter-in-law treat each other like guests, which is a good thing.

Third, treat her as family.

Treating your daughter-in-law as an outsider doesn't really make her an outsider. If you want to win your daughter-in-law's heart, you must really treat her as your own daughter and her real family.

Let the mother-in-law treat her daughter-in-law as an "outsider" and give her the space and respect she deserves, and treat her daughter-in-law as a family member and give her the family status and affection she deserves.

Treat her as a member of the family. You can't exclude her from all family meetings, let alone whisper to your immediate family members in front of your daughter-in-law.

Since things can be said to children, there is nothing you can't say to your daughter-in-law, and you can treat them equally.

There are many people in a family, and it is inevitable that there will be contradictions, but as long as everyone can understand each other and think for each other, it is not difficult to want a happy family.

Only by being a reasonable person can we have a happy family.