"If you want to know if a person is a true friend, borrow money from him"

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Last time I saw a conversation, the topic was probably like this: I want to test whether a person is a good friend. The method is very simple. Ask the other person to borrow money and see their reaction. Just know.

The subject sent WeChat to three people to borrow money to test:

The subject: Sister Wang, I have been busy recently, can I borrow some money?

A: OK.

No more.

After 10 minutes.

Subject: Sister Wang, I am in a hurry to pay the rent. I will pay you back at the end of the month.

Still no response...

24 hours later.

A: Okay, how much do you want? I went fishing in the afternoon and forgot...

B said, are you me? Then he asked three or four more questions and answered After that, I asked if you have encountered any difficulties recently? The subject said that she wanted to rent a house, and she agreed and sent her her Alipay account.

C said, Alipay has transferred one thousand to you, it’s not enough, I have more here.

The subject lamented that a real best friend should be someone like C, but in real life there are not many people who can be B, most of them are A.

In the end, she came to the conclusion: It’s okay not to have a best friend who can only be the icing on the cake, but can’t help in times of need.

2

Actually, I think that borrowing money is a matter of opinion.

A Yes, everyone has their own life. After they are busy, they still remember their friends. However, some people feel that she is not a true confidant.

B is very good, cautious, sensible, and warm-hearted. However, some people think that she is deliberately evading her and not agreeing at all means that she does not value the friendship between the two parties.

In my opinion, they can all be friends, and they can treat you as a friend. Whether they can be best friends is too thin to be used as a basis for judgment.

But I know that the moment a person makes a trial, C is no longer suitable to be your best friend.

If this thousand yuan is just a trivial matter to her, it is not a big deal; if she is giving it all and you are just a meaningless test, how can you make her feel so embarrassed? Such sincerity is beyond your reach.

Nowadays, I feel that the term best friend is becoming more and more cheap. Some weird posts on Weibo talk about best friends. In the end, it is just a history of fighting between a white lotus and a scheming bitch. I have to pull it off. Go to best friend.

Actually, best friend, I don’t mean that you have to be kind to me, but you have to support me. Best friend, the important thing is that the three views are consistent, and the friendship between gentlemen is as light as water.

3

Best friend is just a new word in the new era. In the final analysis, we just want an obedient follower, a fool who takes heart and soul.

In life, friends are the icing on the cake, and benefactors are even more helpful when needed. But the strange thing is that some people regard kindness as feelings and take feelings as a matter of course. Such people feel a bit scary when they think about it.

"Whether he is a true friend or not, all you need to do is borrow money from him. Money is the only criterion for testing friendship." I took this as a joke. It has nothing to do with whether it makes sense or not, but I just think it's a bit childish.

I don’t know why, so many people like to test sincerity in relationships, test in love, and test in friendship. In fact, the moment you want to test it, you lose. You stretch out your guilty conscience and insecurity, like a lamb waiting for the slaughter, waiting for the final judgment.

If you fail the test, you will feel sad and unfair, and you feel that your sincerity is feeding the dog; if you pass the test, you will be very happy and feel that you have a sharp eye for pearls, but have you ever thought about it? The mood of the person being tested when thinking carefully.

In fact, distrust is the most hurtful thing in relationships. This is true of friendship, and so is love. If you test lies with lies, you will definitely get lies. If you test defenses with defenses, you will only get greater defenses.

4

Thinking of the eternal dilemma: my girlfriend and my mother fell into the water at the same time, who to save. What’s the answer in your mind, and how would you like your partner to answer it?

To save you, even the mother who gave birth to him and raised him has abandoned him. Do you dare to want such a person? To save your mother, it makes sense both emotionally and rationally, but in the end you can’t accept it, because in You are not the most important person in his heart.

So you are unwilling to give up, and he is exhausted. Test after test, in the end only embarrassment and disappointment are left, what's the point.

To put it bluntly, this kind of test comes precisely from your own lack of confidence, which is why you have to use this method to prove your sense of existence. How much do you think so little of yourself that you are looking for trouble?

Instead of doing this, it is better to improve yourself, and think about how to change your uncertainty. I believe that if you bloom, butterflies will come.

As a leader, the most important thing is not to trust others and not to trust others; as a partner, you should love each other without doubt; as a friend, you should be as ice-cold as a jade pot.

As the saying goes, be more sincere and less cliché. If people treat me with sincerity, I will also treat myself with respect to others and give people full trust. After all, you and I both have only one sincerity, and no one can live up to it.

Finally, please cherish your friends who are willing to lend you money.