The poor raise children and the rich raise daughters. Where does this sentence come from?

Nonsense, no source, is now the so-called pseudo-experts, such as Zhang Ben, pseudo-science, which is harmful to people.

"Since ancient times, talented people have suffered a lot, while dude children have few mighty men".

Girls are expensive, boys are ambitious!

In modern society, material abundance, parents should correctly understand and implement "poor support". "Poor support" is not to let children starve and freeze, but to restrict children materially and let them know how to cherish and struggle when they grow up; Furthermore, parents may have enough ability to make their children enjoy it, but they should cultivate their children's habits of thrift and perseverance from an early age.

With this concept, it is much easier to implement it concretely. According to the child's age, you can choose whether to let the nanny prepare breakfast for him every day or let him get up early, fry an egg and heat a glass of milk. Whether to pick him up by car or let him go to school by bus; Whether to buy ordinary schoolbags or high-grade tie-rod schoolbags; Give or not give pocket money, give more and less; Do you live in an ordinary dormitory or an advanced apartment when you go to college? ...

A pair of very successful parents in Hunan, in order to cultivate their already coquettish children, chose to sell all their possessions, lied to their 16-and 17-year-old children that they were bankrupt, and took them back to their rural hometown to farm, which may give their parents a lot of inspiration.

In my opinion, Poor Boys emphasizes frustration education, focusing on the cultivation of will and fostering "ambition"; While "well-raised girls" emphasizes the input of cultural literacy, focusing on the cultivation of temperament. The happiness of raising "expensive" modern families also lies in whether it is "poor" or "rich", as long as your concept is correct, you can do it with ease.

Rich or poor, the key is what kind of child do you want to raise? Raising your own children should also have their own backbone, and you should not be too superstitious about one statement and follow other people's methods. It should be said that it is a rational behavior to treat boys and girls differently because of gender differences. Through some special education, it is understandable to train girls into elegant ladies and boys into brave men. However, educating children should create different educational atmosphere for them according to their characteristics.

Rich in materials, children should be "poor"!

I agree: men and women are the same, and they must be' poor'.

As for the conditions of "being rich" and "not being poor", I beg to differ. These parents can learn about Bill Gates and Li Ka-shing's "poor" support for their children, which may be instructive.

This is an era of rapid changes in family and social structure. Some people say that "a generation is richer than a generation", but now most of them are "only children", which leads to the requirement for children: only success is allowed and failure is not allowed. In addition, women are increasingly participating in social activities, and the times have given women more social obligations and responsibilities, which has become the basis for both men and women to "help the poor."

How to help the poor? Parents should first teach their children to do two things well: first, take the initiative, speak loudly and watch everyone say hello; Second, do your own thing. "These two things seem superficial, but they actually contain profound significance and functions. One is to develop a polite, confident and sunny personality from an early age and actively interact; The second is to remove the ubiquitous phenomenon of' over-protection'. In the process of self-learning, children's willpower, anti-frustration ability and emotional control ability can be cultivated. "

Today's society is not a competition of knowledge, but a competition of quality. In fact, whether poor or rich, the key is to cultivate children's good living habits and integrity and kindness. The classic Disciples Rules brilliantly tells us the truth of being a man in advance. "First, filial piety, second, sincere belief, fraternity, kindness, and more mechanical literature." The word "teaching" in education is filial piety before writing, which shows that our ancestors are very wise.

Poverty alleviation is not difficult, parents should be "lazy" appropriately!

In the survey, some parents said that "supporting the poor" children is easier said than done. In fact, I don't think it is difficult to "raise poor" children. The key is whether parents' mentality can be changed.

Many parents always complain that their children are lazy and have poor self-care ability. In fact, many times it is because parents are too "diligent". When children reach the age of learning to eat by themselves, parents can't see the mess on the table, and finally they can't help but feed them; The child picked up a toy for a long time and looked at the messy place. Parents couldn't help cleaning it up.

The "poor support" for children is first reflected in letting children do their own things. In such a simple sentence, quite a few parents can't stick to it. Therefore, parents should be "lazy" in the process of "raising poor children", and must learn to tolerate their children's imperfections and wait for their children to do things better.

In addition, today's only children are generally self-centered and overbearing, so parents should learn to have reservations about their children's life details. Children should be "ten points" and parents should give their children "six or seven points", which should not exceed "eight points". For example, take food to the supermarket, don't buy everything with your children, and don't eat it all at once when you go home. You should teach your children to be restrained, frugal and moderate in consumption.