Is the inverted door good? The reason why the inverted door has been criticized since ancient times

Two main ways to insert a door

Method 1: The man’s family is out of town, he works locally, he marries the only local girl, he settles in his parents’ house, and he has a roof over his head. place to take care of the elderly. It's taken care of and everyone is happy.

Method 2: Both men and women are locals, but due to various reasons, life after marriage is centered on the woman’s home. That is to say, the man either lives in the woman’s home or settles down near the woman’s home. Parents-in-law arrange work and life as the main reference coordinates. This kind of "back door" is becoming more and more common in modern cities.

Why have inverted doors been labeled “bad” since ancient times?

The phenomenon of "inserting the door upside down" began in the Qin and Han Dynasties and continues to this day. Since ancient times, people who knock on doors have always been criticized or even discriminated against. In the past ten or twenty years, if a man chooses to knock on the door upside down, it means that his family is in financial difficulty or has bad problems, which has brought great pressure to the man and his family. If the woman chooses to remarry, it means that the family business is not prosperous and she needs to borrow outsiders to continue the family line. Essentially, the concept of male superiority and female inferiority is at work.

Nowadays, people’s thinking is not as conservative as before, and their views on many things have changed a lot. However, when it comes to knocking on the door upside down, people's thinking doesn't seem to have changed much. In real life, some couples get married because the man doesn't agree to the doorstep. Many parents of men would rather sell the iron in the pot at the cost of expensive betrothal gifts, rather than want their children to knock on the door upside down for fear of being wronged in their previous lives. In recent years, the ratio of men to women has been imbalanced. Some women's families have recruited talented people and accepted their husbands, while some men's families would rather stay single than get involved.

Analysis of the main reasons for the back-door criticism

First, the influence of traditional feudal ideas

The feudal ideas handed down since ancient times are deeply rooted, and it is difficult to eradicate people's " A change in the concept of "inserting the door upside down". In the eyes of most people, I still feel that "cutting in upside down" is disgraceful.

Second, the man being laughed at is incapable.

Many people subconsciously believe that the man's "inside door" is the woman's financial conditions and money. They believe that a seven-foot man cannot even build a home, let alone be the owner of his own house. He was ridiculed for his incompetence. But in fact, many men agree to step in on the woman's door because of feelings or to take care of the woman's family, but many of them are accidentally hurt. If you "cut in the door upside down", you will be looked down upon and your family will be unhappy.

Third, make fun of men for not being filial to their parents.

To "cut in the door upside down" means to live in the woman's house after marriage. In traditional Chinese thought, the reason why adopted children grow old is because there are always men around to serve them after marriage. Now that a man goes to the woman's house, on the one hand he will blame himself even more, and on the other hand he will be laughed at by the villagers for being unfilial.

Fourth, there is a suspicion of betrayal of ancestors.

In traditional Chinese thought, sons always carry on the family line. However, after marriage, the children must take the wife's surname. Many people think this is a betrayal of their ancestors.