Why is the divorce rate high?

I am young and have no experience in marriage. I just want to talk about my own views, word for word, hoping to inspire lz. If I think it is good and reasonable, please add one point. . .

In fact, it is easy to understand the present situation. If we observe the parents of the older generation and the national policies around us, we will get some insights. In recent years, the divorce rate in China has been rising. I am from Beijing, and the divorce rate in Beijing is not the highest in China, but also the top three. According to statistics, the divorce rate can reach 70%, which makes people sigh, "What's wrong with this world? Do I still need to get married? Is marriage really for being together? "

China has a high divorce rate. Why is it so high? Is it because our living standard is not enough? Can't we eat or drink? Its conclusion is just the opposite. It is precisely because of the great achievements made in the 40 years of reform and opening up that our life has changed from poor to responsive, which has also contributed to the worsening divorce situation. . . Why do people want a divorce when their living standards are good? This is the crux of the problem. Explaining this problem has to involve many sensitive topics. It's only a matter of time here, lz is willing.

1, China people lack the spirit of faith.

"I heard that salt can prevent radiation!" A large group of people grab salt, I wonder if there is any scientific basis. I'll do it if others do it anyway. I heard that a good friend recently divorced, and he lived a very chic life alone. As a result, he always looks at his wife with a sad face when he comes home. China people. . . To put it bluntly, it is the lack of a concept of beauty, ugliness, right and wrong, and moral right and wrong!

San Xiao leads a wonderful life. It is better to be a mistress than to marry the poor. This makes life more chic. Many girls have this idea, and they may not say it, but they have definitely thought about it. China's marriage lacks a sense of sacredness similar to that of westerners. . . Everyone has seen it on TV. Foreigners get married, face Jesus solemnly in the church and pray, "Will you marry him?"? Rich or poor. Health or disease? " Foreigners have integrated marriage into their lives. From now on, I will be with this woman (man) in front of me and spend the rest of my life together. . . And China people, especially older young people, you ask him why he wants to get married? The answer I get the most is "find a partner for life, just make do with it", which can be understood as "I can change this if I find something better, or I won't live together if I don't want to" Why are you getting married? I'm not that sacred, just for someone to cook for me at home after a day's work.

Lz said I adored foreign things and admired foreign things. . . I'm sure I can tell lz. . . In America, divorce is a normal thing, and it is not shameful. What is really shameful is an affair. Whether white or black, rich or poor, they feel that the loyalty to marriage now begins and ends. Even if divorced, we are friends and can take care of each other. The most intolerable thing is extramarital affairs.

Lz If you watch the news or American movies, you can often see "the original couple divorced, but they can sit on a park bench like friends and ask how your one is doing recently." Are you busy at work? Pay more attention to your health and so on. "

The third party, to the original wife, knelt down and begged her to forgive her selfishness, stole other people's husbands and destroyed other people's families.

When I come back to see China, these behaviors of foreigners are incredible! We're divorced here, and we can't wait to tear each other apart. From then on, they parted ways and died for 18 generations. I can't wait for you to go out and get killed by a car, fight for a house, a car and a deposit. Xiao San Gong is more beautiful than the original match. I am Xiao San and I am honored! Yelling at the man's house to make trouble, "you can't divorce your daughter-in-law!" Don't you dare divorce! "

This is the embodiment of a nation's cultural quality, and there is still a big gap between our moral cultivation and developed countries in Europe and America.

2. The vigorous rendering of social media

How do girls make the fastest money now? Go be a mistress! I don't like riding a bike with you. Can't I hide in the BMW and cry? So-and-so star married into the rich family again! What kind of woman is the most promising? A woman whose husband is better than others is the most promising!

This society lacks the most basic moral bottom line, how can it attract people's attention? No matter good or bad, no matter the aesthetic requirements for the audience, there is no distinction between shemale and evil. Vigorously advocate women's liberation. . . Since the founding of New China, women here have been liberated and have their own sovereignty, but this society has aimed at "money" with a big pointer, telling women that if they want to be happy, they must follow this direction! This society is a society in which morality and matter are completely reversed. If a woman wants happiness, she must pursue it. There are no rules on ways and means, she has to rely on her own skills.

I haven't seen any marriage and love programs on TV, and I don't plan to watch them. It is not so much a person-to-person program as a program for the audience and the zoo. The master pulled out a monkey. "Ladies, look at this male monkey. Is it to your taste? " The mother monkey can't wait to leave her grandmother's house. "Do you have a car and a house?" "Do you have this and that?" Why does a female monkey want so much? After all, aren't you a monkey yourself?

Show off wealth. . . I don't need lz to know this. Anyone who can type online knows that this is the case in China. To put it bluntly, it means laughing at the poor, not at prostitutes. . .

3. Is the only child right or wrong?

This is a question with absolute China characteristics. Is there any foreign country in China?

Only children are very individualistic and self-centered, and they have little experience to share with others since childhood. Suddenly, in their twenties, they want to live under the same roof with another person they have never met before, without any problems. I am a post-80s generation, and I am old enough to be sensible. To tell the truth, there are not many friends I can really trust around me, and there are even fewer to talk to. . . No one has suffered losses or suffered. Everyone has a temper, you cross me over you! Married, why should I accommodate you! ? Why should I wash clothes and cook for you? Why are you angry with me and I have to put up with it? Big deal. Divorce. . . Find a rich second generation and I'll be a mistress!

4. Stress and loneliness

Young people in this era spend most of their time working, working overtime and staying up late. . Work. . Still working. . No way, there is pressure, you can't do it, and naturally someone will take your place. Think of our elders. Most of them are relatively relaxed when they are young. There are a large number of brothers and sisters at home. After returning home, they were very excited. After work, they had a cup of tea and read the newspaper, and the day passed. . . At that time, there were no computers, no internet, no mobile phones and no electronic equipment. When there were difficulties, everyone helped them. When my brother finished dressing, he had clothes to wear. Everyone is a family.

Lz may ask, what is the difference between our generation and them? Their living standard is far from what we are now. But they live happily. . .

This change in life is actually a change of the times and environment. . .

40 years ago, you were not stupid, and you could support your family by buying strength.

Thirty years ago, it was an honor for your family to be a small office leader. You can get more food stamps.

Twenty years ago, if you dared to do it, you could make a fortune, whether it had anything to do with it or not.

10 years ago, universities expanded their enrollment and state-owned enterprises closed down. Middle-aged women go out to sell popsicles to their children. The men in the family thought they had retired, but they had to work for others. Originally, the house was worthless, but now it can surpass gold. Society began to pay attention to showing off wealth, and you poor boy can't marry a daughter-in-law.

Now . You have no education, can you find a job? Do you have to be qualified for an interview if you have a degree? You are qualified for the interview. Do you have any work experience? You have work experience. Does the boss want you? The boss is looking for you. Can you work here for a long time? Aren't you afraid of being fired after working here for a long time? It doesn't matter if you have no money. Can you be admitted to the civil service? Are there still fewer returnees who can't find jobs after returning home?

In order to make a living, young people have to spend more time working. They came home, exhausted and miserable, making out with their wives? Have you talked to your husband? You might as well let me sleep more. . . .

5. Social development is unbalanced, and the gap between the rich and the poor is wide.

This is probably the most critical problem, which China can't solve now, and it can't be solved in the next 50 years, and it is getting worse.

To put it bluntly. . . No one wants to live with the poor all his life, especially if he is a poor man himself. Poor couples are always sad. . . Try to make money if you have no money. If you can't make money, fight and divorce. Who have you been with? Why should I spend my life with you? Maybe I can have a future without you.

Everyone has an inertia. Men are rich and women are mistresses. Anyway, this society does not object. Nobody looks down on me anyway. Why not?

At present, 40% of divorced couples are directly caused by money, and almost 100% of divorces are related to money. . .

What does a high divorce rate mean? Is it good or bad?

I think this shows that our society is progressing, and the soaring divorce rate represents that people's material life has been greatly enriched. However, although this development speed is fast, it is not normal.

It's hard to say whether it's good or bad. This is beyond our explanation. In my opinion, the surge in divorce rate does more harm than good. . .

We can compare Europe with America.

White-collar female employees of companies in Europe, America and France can marry plumbers for affection. This is not a fantasy, but a reality. This is incredible for China people! ? Your income level, social status and cultural quality are simply inappropriate! ? This woman must be crazy!

But this can be understood from the social form of France. European and American countries, especially northern Europe; Sweden, Norway, the Netherlands, Denmark and other economically developed countries have small populations and very balanced income levels. Even if you work, even if you don't work, eating social security at home is indispensable than white-collar workers in the company. The average annual salary of French employees is around 20,000 euros, while those who rely on welfare at home can get15,000 euros a year. . .

People there don't show off their wealth; Everyone's income difference will not be too much.

European and American countries, even simple manual workers, can enjoy very comprehensive subsidies and insurance as long as they are local residents (even if illegal immigrants have no hukou). Although I am a manual worker, although I don't have the high social status of white-collar workers in the company, in fact, our wages are not much different, and social security is the same. They work, I work, they play, I play.

There is no disparity between rich and poor; You don't have to look down on anyone.

In Europe and America, working hours are overtime, so I can go on strike if I don't want to work overtime. The boss has no right to dismiss employees at will. If you don't give me a raise, I will go on strike. Anyway, it is you who suffer.

People don't have so much life pressure; You can spend a lot of time on love and marriage.

Schools in Europe and America are a kind of quality education. If you can't learn math well, you can only paint and go to college. Unlike us, I put my life on the college entrance examination. If you don't finish college and drop out, you can also come out and look for a job. As long as you have a skill and you don't have dementia, you can find a job. As long as you work hard, you will have a chance of promotion.

People don't have that big development restriction; Think what you think and do what you want.

China gallops on a highway, just like a bullet train, which is fast enough, but you don't know whether the next track waiting for you is strong or not. There are too many objective reasons for the occurrence and development of divorce. Personally, in China, instead of discussing how to prevent divorce, we should think about how to live a better life. . . Because in this country, it is not surprising that anything strange happens. . .