The mother raised the bride price from 600,000 to 800,000, and her daughter left home in anger: Family ties are so cold, what do you think?

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As for marriage, in fact, there are too many customs that need to be followed in our lives. Someone once concluded: "Since ancient times, the man has been involved in the conclusion of marriage. When the marriage agreement is initially concluded, the custom of giving bride price and betrothal gift to the woman is now called 'betrothal gift'."

In fact, betrothal gift is not the only barrier to marriage, there are many other miscellaneous things. rule.

For example, when a man goes to a woman's house to pick up a bride, he needs to stuff a red envelope under the door until the person blocking the door is satisfied before the man can open the door to pick up the bride.

In some places, there are boarding fees, alighting fees, and various other customs that require money. What's more, some people also regard changing their title after marriage as a bargaining chip to "exchange money", which is what we often call "change fee."

Of course, among the many "customs" among them, the one that can truly influence lovers' men and women is the "betrothal gift".

For many people, the bride price has become the most difficult barrier for lovers to cross when entering into marriage. If both parties can handle the bride price in a harmonious manner, then it will be a happy marriage.

However, today’s betrothal gifts always make marriages full of the flavor of money, because of the betrothal gifts, many couples have been disturbed. If you can't meet the requirements, you won't get married.

Some people may accommodate themselves to the small gift given by the other party when they get engaged, but before they get married, they suddenly change their mind. Seeing that good things are about to happen, they use the "final kick" as a threat and continue. Adding burden to marriage.

I have seen too many such things. The marriage was originally discussed, but in the end, a marriage that could have been a good one was terminated because of some unsatisfied parents of the girl. .

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Fenfen and her boyfriend were college classmates. After graduation, they stayed in the same city. Later, at a reunion of fellow classmates, the two met and fell in love with each other. After getting in touch, they fell in love.

The two of them just knew each other when they were in college. At that time, they each had their own romances. The most they could do was greet each other because they were from the same hometown.

As the graduation season approaches, they break up. After the breakup, they did not continue their relationship, but focused more on their work.

Later, after they met and fell in love, the two soon lived together. The two of them were quite measured in everything they did. After being together for 6 years, they both felt that it was time to talk about marriage.

So, they took each other to meet each other's parents.

Fenfen's boyfriend Zhang Feng is a bit unqualified in the eyes of her parents. The reason is that his family does not have much money and is not considered rich, and they are afraid that he will not be able to provide the money for the bride price.

In the eyes of Zhang Feng’s parents, Ke Fenfen is a very good girl. Not only did he treat her well, but he also told Zhang Feng that no matter what happens after getting married, he must listen to Fenfen.

To be honest, many women will be intimidated by their prospective parents-in-law when they meet them for the first time, making them afraid of dealing with the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law in the future. But Fenfen was different. The prospective parents-in-law she met treated her like a treasure.

No matter what Fenfen’s parents think of Zhang Feng, Fenfen has lived with him for 6 years, and they have integrated their respective lives into each other’s lives. Therefore, no matter whether they objected or not, Fenfen would not marry anyone other than Zhang Feng.

In this way, Fenfen’s parents compromised with Fenfen. However, when the parents of both parties met, Fenfen's parents proposed a high betrothal gift, especially Fenfen's mother, whose attitude was even tougher.

She said: "Since you have to get married, then prepare a gift of 600,000 yuan. Don't miss a penny, otherwise don't get married."

600,000 betrothal gift. Fenfen was shocked when she heard this number.

"Mom, when we get married here, the maximum gift is 88,000 yuan. Why do you ask for 600,000 yuan as a gift for Zhang Feng's family? Even if we are rich here, the gift is only 20,000 yuan or 30,000 yuan at most. A hundred thousand gift."

Now that Fenfen's mother has spoken, she is ready to face Fenfen's questioning. She said to Fenfen unceremoniously: "Isn't your brother not married yet? This is the only baby in our family. When he gets married, he will not only have to buy a bride price, but also a house. So, I plan to give you half of the bride price. He used it as a betrothal gift and used half of the down payment to buy a house. "

Fenfen and her younger brother were twins, because the younger brother was not very good at school at the beginning, and now he can only make an average salary at work. He has not yet bought a house, let alone one. Got a wife.

Fenfen’s mother dared to say anything, which of course was in line with her strong character.

But this 600,000 betrothal gift is indeed a huge amount for the Zhang Feng family. Normally, the family only has a savings of more than ten or two hundred thousand, which is reserved for the son to prepare for his marriage. Spending 600,000 yuan at once will not only empty your home, but you will also have to borrow money to live in the future.

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Fenfen knew that she could not change her parents' wishes. And Zhang Feng also knew some of Fenfen's parents. After all, Fenfen often told Zhang Feng that when she was a child, she felt that her parents favored her younger brother.

Actually, Fenfen was born a few minutes later than her younger brother. However, her parents felt that if Fenfen became their sister, she would not be able to take care of their son for them, so after the two children were born, they let Fenfen Fen became a sister.

So, when their parents met to discuss the bride price, Fenfen and Zhang Feng kept winking at Zhang Feng's parents, telling them not to worry. After all, both of them have saved some savings over the past few years of work. Coupled with Zhang Feng's parents' savings, they can almost collect a bride price of 600,000 yuan.

Zhang Feng also truly loves Fenfen, so he agreed to Fenfen’s mother’s excessive demands.

He felt that as long as two people can get married smoothly, and as long as their hearts work together in the future, their lives will always be good.

So, after the parents met, Fenfen took out all her savings without telling her parents, and borrowed tens of thousands more from her best friend. She collected 200,000 and gave it to Zhang Feng.

When Zhang Feng's parents saw Fenfen's sincerity, they liked her even more, so they willingly gave up every penny of the couple's two hundred thousand savings.

In this way, the wedding date was decided. Fenfen is looking forward to being a beautiful bride and being able to be with the person she loves and the person who loves her. She is happy just thinking about it.

However, the night before the wedding, Fenfen's mother suddenly changed her mind.

It turns out that Fenfen’s mother listened to the advice of her relatives, saying that when picking up the bride, she would need to add an additional 200,000 yuan for the door opening fee, boarding fee, etc.

The relatives said: "I have already received 600,000 yuan, but I am still short of 200,000 yuan? Besides, these door opening fees, boarding fees, and the wedding change fee are all necessary. The additional 200,000 yuan should be paid in full. What’s more, this is our local custom.”

Fenfen’s mother thought about getting another 200,000 yuan. In order for my son to have less trouble in the future, I changed my original mind and secretly told the man that I would pay another 200,000 yuan for the opening fee.

To be honest, for most ordinary families, if you get married now, the gift will be more than 100,000 yuan at most. Those with more than 100,000 yuan will either be rich or have to sell their daughters.

For people like Fenfen’s mother who asks for betrothal gifts all over the world, isn’t that just “selling” her daughter as a commodity?

So, when the groom’s family received a call from Fenfen’s mother, they considered whether to break off the engagement. Zhang Feng's parents told Zhang Feng that this marriage cost more than 1 million yuan. Their family is just an ordinary family. The wedding gift alone is 800,000 yuan, and they also need a down payment to buy a house, unless they sell the old house they live in now.

Zhang Feng looked at his father squatting at the door smoking, and then at his mother with a vicissitudes of life, and felt extremely uncomfortable.

On one side is the beloved girl, and on the other side are the parents who have lost half their lives because of their marriage.

Zhang Feng couldn't help it, so he sent Fenfen a message and told Fenfen about the phone call from Fenfen's mother. Fenfen was particularly shocked when she heard that her mother wanted to add another 200,000 yuan as a bride price.

She knew that the Zhang Feng family had already tried their best, and if they continued to give an additional 200,000 yuan as a gift, it would be equivalent to death. She felt that her mother was so over the top that she simply "sold" herself as a commodity.

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Finally, Fenfen made a decision. She had to consider her own happiness. Her love for Zhang Feng could not be ruined because of the betrothal gift that blocked the threshold of marriage. own future happiness.

So, she decided to find Zhang Feng, and then "elope" with him to live their own life in the city where they went to school.

In fact, Fenfen's character is similar to her mother's. Her mother has a strong character, but her character is also slightly stubborn. Now that you have made a decision, take action.

Fenfen quietly stole her household registration page, and while her parents were asleep in the middle of the night, she carried her luggage and went straight to Zhang Feng's house.

At that time, Zhang Feng did not dare to take Fenfen away. Because he considered the consequences, Fenfen's parents would definitely make trouble for his parents in the days to come.

But just as Fenfen thought, if they compromised, their future happiness would probably be ruined. After many thoughts, Zhang Feng and Fenfen left their hometown that night and went to the city where they went to college.

Of course, Fenfen is not a particularly decisive child. She left a note to her parents. She said that she was not a commodity raised by them to be "exchanged for money". Her mother's actions made her see the coldness of family affection.

She also said that she did not touch any of the 600,000 yuan as a gift, and regarded it as repaying her parents for their upbringing, and she would live her own little happiness from now on. Unless they can figure it out in the future, she will never contact her family again.

Just as Zhang Feng worried, Fenfen's parents did go to Zhang Feng's house to make trouble, but no matter how much trouble they made, Zhang Feng's family didn't want the 600,000 yuan gift back, so they naturally ignored it.

Actually, it was somewhat embarrassing that the wedding could not be held as scheduled. Fenfen's parents were completely embarrassed in front of all their relatives and friends, making people laugh for a while.

But if you think about it carefully, isn’t it Fenfen’s mother who made this all by herself?

This is the price paid for randomly asking for betrothal gifts before marriage, why bother?

There is nothing wrong with Fenfen’s parents asking for a bride price when marrying their daughter, and using the bride price to support their son. What is wrong is that they should not ask for money indiscriminately, and the practice of "selling their daughter" is also selfish. A manifestation of self-interest.

Although, it is now appropriate for the woman to ask for a certain amount of money as a gift before getting married. By asking for a bride price, the daughter's future status in her husband's family can be improved, and it can also test whether the man values ??this relationship.

However, don’t go too far and make random prices. If you don’t change this concept, even if the man gives the bride price as required, the couple will have constant conflicts after marriage, and the families of both parties will be resentful.

So, when discussing marriage, both parties must negotiate well. After all, customs may vary from place to place.

Rich people have betrothal gifts from rich people, and ordinary people have betrothal gifts from ordinary people. Families on both sides should consider the financial strength of the other party before making a decision.

Marriage is not only a matter for two people, but also a matter for two families. Marriage is also a major event in life for both parties, so don't beat the couple because of the bride price.