If the elderly often say these 7 sentences when raising their children, parents must promptly remind and correct them to avoid harming the children.

Letting the elderly take care of their children is a common choice for most families today. On the one hand, it can reduce the financial pressure on the family. On the other hand, it is more reassuring to have children taken care of by one's own family than to hire a nanny.

But at the same time, there are more and more family conflicts caused by the elderly taking care of children, mainly focusing on the raising and education of children.

Old and young parents are two generations, with different growth backgrounds, different lifestyles, and very different concepts of parenting. The elderly have lived their whole lives in their own way. It is actually very difficult for young people to change their traditional thinking. Every family with elderly people helping to take care of their children basically has conflicts in this area. Young parents should be more understanding and considerate of the elderly, and follow the principle of focusing on the big and letting go of the small when encountering differences.

For example, Ella’s grandma was very superstitious. There was a period of time after the baby was born that she would cry at night. The grandma thought the baby was frightened and asked many people how to solve the problem. Although I don't agree with this kind of thing, I won't say anything. As long as it doesn't hurt the child, let her do whatever she wants. But when it comes to key issues related to children's growth and development, I will dissuade them in time.

Moreover, some of the things that old people often say when raising babies, although they may seem innocuous on the surface, have a subtle and negative impact on the growth of their children. Parents should also pay attention to them in time. communicate with the elderly.

1. It’s all bad, let’s fight against it!

The child fell down and blamed the table, floor and other objects. A fall is a fall. If a child falls, you can tell the child the reason. When walking, you should watch the road and walk slowly instead of blindly blaming objective things. This is not conducive to children's self-understanding, they do not know how to self-examine and correct themselves, and they blindly shirk responsibility when things happen.

2. "What do adults care about with children?"

"He is still a child." As adults, we can understand that this is the love and care of children by the elders, but we always consider the child's age Using small excuses to pamper children and avoid responsibilities is "terrible love" for children.

3. "Your mother doesn't want you anymore"

When faced with naughty children, the elderly often like to use "your mother doesn't want you anymore" or similar words to scare children. Adults all know that This is a joke, but it is very harmful to children. This will create a great sense of insecurity in the child's psychology. If this happens for a long time, it may even seriously affect the child's healthy growth.

4. "If your parents get divorced, who will you marry?"

I believe many people have heard of adults teasing children. This is just a joke, but children cannot understand such a joke. Children will take the joke seriously and think that their parents' feelings are showing up. If the problem is resolved, the child will be divorced, causing the children to worry about unnecessary things, affecting their life and study.

5. All the money your parents earn is spent on you.

Frequently saying to children, "All the money your parents earn is spent on you" and "Any money your parents earn is yours" will make the children think that other people's contributions are taken for granted. The queen doesn't know how to repay and be grateful.

6. "Don't tell your mother when you go home"

Old people must not let their children lie because they dote on them. When the child eats snacks, the mother refuses to buy them, so the old man secretly feeds them to the child and instructs the child not to tell the mother. This approach will make the child think that the mother is a bad person. In this way, the child will not only learn to lie, but will also hide the bad things from the parents in the future.

7. If you don’t obey again, the police will come to arrest you

Not only the elderly, but also many parents like to use “police” to scare their children. This approach is not advisable because it makes children think that the police are scary people. If one day the child is in danger and needs help, but does not dare to ask the police for help and misses the opportunity, it will be too late for the parents to regret it.