My mother's expression is always problematic. I have to argue with her every day when I eat. I know she's doing me good, but I can't help it. What should I do?

Jianping Song's old classmates are going to have a party, and his wife, Lin Xiaofeng, who has been having trouble with him, generously said that at the party, she would be eager to praise her husband and let him earn enough face in front of others. Jianping Song does not agree with this move. He thinks it's best for husband and wife to stay in a natural state in front of people, and there is no need to make conflicts and make people laugh, but pretending to be intimate is too artificial and makes people feel like a show. Do you and your wife get along naturally in front of people? When couples have conflicts, do you show off in front of people? Show or not, look at the mood. Ms Zhang is a 29-year-old employee. I don't approve of showing it outside. Everyone should do what he should do, why hide it. He did something wrong. Of course I have to tell the truth and let my friends judge and see whose fault it is. I know I can't control my emotions. I am a person whose emotions are written on my face. If you make me angry, I'll pretend to be happy. I can only get worse and worse, and the more I fight, the more annoying I am. My husband knows my temper very well and says I can forget it in front of my friends. Everyone knows everything. There's no need to pretend. But if you meet others in the room, you should cooperate properly and not be too straight. So every time I attend their activities or the important occasions he said, I will sort out my emotions first. Sometimes I feel that I have a hurdle in my heart and simply send an ultimatum to my husband: I am in a bad mood today and may talk nonsense. Do you think I should go or stay at home? He didn't say anything. I knew I just didn't want to go. Sometimes it's just a small matter that makes you angry or in a good mood. When he saw me dressed up, he knew I was willing to take part in this activity, which meant that I would control my mouth, my emotions and act with my husband's face by default today. At this time, I dare not talk much, for fear that I might spill the beans and say something that "hurts" my husband, so I try to laugh. Sometimes I find that when I smile like this, my expression can actually control my mood, and my bad mood is slowly resolved by a smile. Don't wash your dirty clothes in public. MoXi men are ashamed. To others, my wife and I look like a loving couple. Actually, this is an illusion. Because of the great personality contrast, we often quarrel over some trivial matters. But we have one thing in common, that is, we are vain and proud, and we believe that we should not wash our dirty linen in public. Once, just as we were making a scene, my mother-in-law suddenly called. Although we stopped fighting in time, after all, there is no actor's ability. The embarrassed expression still made her mother-in-law see the clue. She said to us sadly, "I have been praising my daughter and son-in-law in front of others, but I didn't expect it to be a gold-painted toilet-the light outside and the stink inside." After that, whether we go out or visit relatives and friends, we will consciously reach a tacit understanding, one will not expose each other's shortcomings, the other will give each other face, and if necessary, we will pretend to compliment each other affectionately. Maybe in the eyes of others, we live proudly, but we think it doesn't matter. Instead of exposing the dark side and bringing unhappiness to many people, it is better to swallow bitter wine and try to smile and bring good mood to everyone. The 43-year-old owner of a private enterprise in Gao Hui has the opposite idea to Lin Xiaofeng in Chinese Divorce. I think it's disgusting that husband and wife praise each other in front of outsiders, like flattering each other. Especially as a man, it is very unmanly to say that his wife is good when he meets people. Probably because I like to laugh at myself, I often use the tone of "mocking others" when expressing my feelings for my wife in front of others. The book "Chinese Divorce" once wrote: Seeing that Niu Niu is very clever, Lin Xiaofeng said a kind word to Xiao Li, "It is better to be a girl, unlike our family, who knows how to change money." In fact, that's what Xiao said in his sense of superiority. Boys are better than girls. I mocked my wife with a similar mentality. I said that her tens of years old people are still doing aerobics among little girls, but that actually means she is young; I laughed at her as a tricky and stingy dish, which was a compliment to her. But every time I praise my wife with such an expression, people react very much, but my wife doesn't seem to have any special reaction. At one time, it was very popular to wear A-line skirts, and my wife went to a restaurant with great joy. Because she is fat, the skirt tightly wrapped around her body is not particularly beautiful, so I laughed at my friend again: "Alas, my wife is so fat that she wears an A-line skirt like a little girl, and that skirt is propped up like a plaster wrapped around her body." My friends burst out laughing. One said that "fat is blessed" and the other said that "little sister-in-law is fashionable". I was very happy when I suddenly found that my wife's face was horribly green. She left before the party was over, leaving me alone. When we got home, we had a big fight. She blames me for sarcasm, and I blame her for losing face. Calm down afterwards, the two agreed to take care of each other's face in front of others, not to be cynical or impatient. In short, they will never tear each other apart. There is a price to pay for giving face. Wujin, a 34-year-old staff member, I think the husband and wife have turned against each other at home, but they are still proud in front of outsiders. I can't say that my wife and I are both good-looking people, but we all feel that a lot of housework has gone outside. One is "making a fool of yourself", and the other is that it is not easy to clean up after a big fight. Therefore, no matter how big the matter is, I would rather she asked me to solve it privately, even at a little cost. At that time, my cousin came to Shanghai to play and said that she would stay in our house for four or five days. My wife's face immediately turned from sunny to cloudy, and I can understand that the long vacation that could have been a peaceful rest is basically hopeless now. My wife and I had a big fight the day before my cousin came. However, the next day, when my cousins stepped into our house, my wife still smiled, although the smile was a little stiff. Her stiff smile made me deeply feel that "the wife is better in the world." Later in the kitchen, I asked her quietly, "Why aren't you angry with last night?" She said, "No, I'm still angry. I'm just giving you face, and I'll settle accounts with you when someone leaves. " My wife keeps her word. During my uncle's five-day stay, she was as busy as a bee, not only showing off the landlord's appearance, but also making proper arrangements at home, which gave me enough face. After my uncle left, I immediately paid the price for my face: washing dishes for a month, mopping the floor for a month and staying with my wife for three days. Pretend to be happy. I'm so tired. Miss Feng, a 29-year-old teacher, "Tomorrow, don't come to me if you cry." My mother's words four years ago are still clearly engraved in my mind. At that time, everyone didn't think much of him and me, and my mother even threatened to break up the relationship, but I was still desperate for love. Finally we got married, but I fell out with my family because of it. Four years later, as my mother expected, we were not suitable. But how do parents know this? He is also a proud man, so we agreed that no matter how noisy we are at home, we should try our best to show our love when we go out, especially in front of my family. In this way, I have been ordering flowers for myself in front of my parents, pretending that they are from him; He won't attend the family reunion. I'll try my best to make excuses for him. Every time I go out with him, I always feel that I have entered a hypocritical show. Unfortunately, happiness in disguise always shows its defects. Last week, we had the most serious quarrel in history. Unexpectedly, the next day, my mother called us over for dinner. I begged him for a long time before he reluctantly agreed to play a play with me. At the dinner table, I fought back my anger the day before and gave him a hand with a smile, but he looked stiff, so I kicked him under the table. I never expected that he shouted at me, "Crazy, kick?" Originally, I was still angry, so I was scolded by him, and my previous grievances poured out like water burst its banks. I couldn't think of anything else, so I scolded him at the dinner table. I felt embarrassed to see my parents again afterwards, but they hit the nail on the head: "In fact, you can guess a thing or two by looking at your usual love." Don't be alone in the future. "The moment the disguise was torn, I felt extremely relaxed. I have something to say ● Among my classmates, there is a couple who look particularly loving, and the boys are sweet and considerate. I often tell my boyfriend that it would be nice if one day he had half the people. But then, the two suddenly broke up. It is said that they have been at odds for a long time, and their usual sweetness is fake. My boyfriend taught me afterwards that "it is true that the two are indifferent, and the lover who loves to show is 80% problematic." "-Xiaofeng ● The husband invited his classmates to dinner and left in a hurry, forgetting to take his wallet. After eating, I secretly pulled him aside and gave him a few hundred dollars to settle the bill. Afterwards, my husband praised me for knowing how to maintain my face in front of people, which was very measured. I don't think it's necessary to say it with my mouth sometimes to give my husband face. -● At parties, I often see some couples pinching me, and I touch you, deliberately magnifying the intimate little moves in life. Doing this kind of program will make people at the same table lose their appetite. If both husband and wife do this in private, I suggest they learn how to "put on a low profile" in front of people. -Amon ● In most cases, the relationship between husband and wife in front of people should be as natural as their own makeup. However, once at a gathering of a circle of children, I deliberately shook out my wife's habit of spending money lavishly in shopping, so that her sisters could have a good discussion. In contrast, the lady felt that she was untenable, and since then, her habits have converged a lot. -Happy King ● My wife will tell her unhappiness on any occasion, which makes me lose face. I remember a party. I don't know who mentioned the problem of being afraid of his wife. Many people say against their will that they are afraid of their wives because their relatives are present. I'm a little afraid of my wife, but after drinking some wine, I got bold and shouted, I'm not afraid of my wife. As a result, my wife persisted until I admitted that I was afraid of my wife and discredited me! After that, as long as my wife is here, I will pretend to be honest. Maybe this is a show! -Lu Zhongyan's Notes: Like the Beckhams, there is a kind of care called show. In front of people, they performed like the Beckhams, saying that they were disgusting, pretentious and madly in love ... no matter what others thought, at least they kept their marriage. I said that if a marriage can shine in front of the public, it should be labeled as "not easy". We are not stars, not as handsome as Beckham and not as cool as spice girls, so we don't have to show day and night. But our marriage will never escape from relatives and friends. It is said that the marriage of China people is not about two people, but about two families and even two friends. Once other people's eyes turn on us, it's like turning on a spotlight, and they can't help but put on another one. It's just that everyone can "show" at different levels. Some people lost proper limit, and unfortunately they were ridiculed as "affectation".