"China jokes" amuse parents, but why do they hurt children?

Many treasure moms said that they like to take their children out for a walk, visit relatives and friends, and get to know other children. At the same time, they will amuse their children among relatives and friends, which becomes a way of talking and laughing.

This kind of amusement is not a beneficial education for children, but a kind of harm. Seemingly harmless behaviors and words make children cry, feel at a loss, and laugh again when they are terrified. Children are still young and don't understand the seriousness of jokes. They often take jokes seriously and make themselves worse.

After giving birth to the second child, she threatened Dabao. Dabao cried, but his relatives laughed.

After giving birth to Dabao, Wenwen wants a second child. This is not the case, just because the country has opened up the policy of having a second child, giving Wen Wen the opportunity to have a second child. So under careful preparation, finally ushered in the second child. The whole family was overjoyed with their children and loved them very much. At this time, Dabao felt that his family were all around his sister, and he seemed to be left out, so he often clamored for his family's attention and wanted them to look back at him.

At my sister's first birthday party, my mother entertained many relatives and friends to celebrate her children's birthdays together. Dabao didn't look very happy, thinking it was a special favor for his sister. There was no such grand ceremony on her birthday.

The relatives present were unhappy to see Dabao and said to Dabao, "It was your sister who took away your mother's love for you. If you don't listen, your mother will only want your sister to leave you. " Dabao listened to her relatives and believed that it was really her sister's fault that made her stop loving herself, so she began to cry.

Dabao began to look for his mother anxiously, but her mother greeted her relatives and laughed together, without refuting their remarks. Dabao is even more helpless, and he can't coax it well. She cried and sobbed and asked, "Mom, do you really not love me?"

Seeing such a scene, some netizens said: "People who tease children like this are particularly annoying, but neighbors and relatives can't say anything. The most annoying thing is that if you have two treasures, don't ask for a big treasure, and don't kiss a big treasure. I hate it. "

Children will be teased in many families. Children are pure and kind at heart and don't know how to distinguish right from wrong. They often cry because of an adult's casual "joke" and even lose their sense of security.

In fact, the "China joke" like the above is a way that many adults use to tease their children, but often parents are amused, but they hurt their children invisibly.

Just like people watching the clown's funny performance in the circus, people can be amused by the clown's expression or behavior, but in fact, the clown is suffering inside. Many parents use their children's self-esteem to please everyone and hurt their children.

Therefore, "Chinese jokes" are not worth promoting, and parents don't want to hurt their children. Parents should stop telling their children things in a joking way.

The first sentence: Mom and Dad don't want you.

In life, families with a second child often tease Dabao in this way, saying that they don't want Dabao after they have two treasures, which will lead to Dabao's dissatisfaction, crying and making everyone laugh. This is a way based on hurting children's self-esteem, which will bury deep anxiety in children's hearts.

So, don't say such things to children. Parents have a certain weight in children's hearts, and children will be eager to get their parents' love. When parents find that their children's relatives are teasing their children, don't stop them because of their feelings, which will only hurt their children more.

The second sentence: You picked it up.

Some children don't understand how they came, and many parents don't know how to tell their children the origin of their children, so for children, you are picked up, not in the trash can. This will also hurt the child's self-esteem and heart, so that the child does not know how to deal with it. It will make children feel insecure and lose trust in their parents.

The third sentence: You are not as clever as your brother/sister.

Some people will say to their children, "You are not as smart as your brother/sister, but they are all better and smarter than you."

Comparing children like this will make them lose self-confidence, live in the shadow of others, make them feel inferior and hinder their progress. Therefore, don't tease your child for no reason, please yourself with your child's injury.

Each one is like a blank sheet of paper. What color parents paint on this piece of white paper, what kind of person children will become and what kind of life they will lead. So family education is very important for children. If you don't know how to educate and guide children in the right way, it will be difficult for children to become talents.