Why does "older children need to avoid their mothers, but older daughters do not avoid their fathers"? The reason is very real, parents try not to ignore it

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In life, we often hear such words, sons need to avoid their mothers, but daughters do not need to when they grow up. Avoid dad.

As children grow up, they will develop gender awareness. If parents continue to kiss and touch them as they did when they were children, it will have adverse effects.

However, this seems to only apply to "older sons avoid their mothers". In fact, "older daughters do not avoid their fathers" is more acceptable. Why is this?

Why does "older children need to avoid their mothers, but older daughters do not avoid their fathers"? The reason is very real, parents need to pay attention

Before that, let us first discuss the dangers of "children not avoiding their mothers"!

Children who do not avoid their mothers may become "Mama's boys"

If boys often rely on their mothers, have no sense of distance from their mothers, and regard their mother's words as edicts, they will Become a "mama's boy" that girls hate so much.

In "If You Are the One", there are many "Mama's boys" on stage. The most common reason for these boys to have a good relationship with their mothers is the lack of father's love, so they become only grateful to their mothers. Fate is obedient.

In this regard, the host Meng Fei said classic words to these men:

"If you can find a girlfriend, it will be unforgivable! "

Although this is a joke, it also proves that the relationship of a "mama's boy" is destined to be difficult.

After all, after these girls get married, they will be very sad when they see their husbands only trying to please their mother-in-law and not paying attention to their own emotions.

Children who do not avoid their mother may develop Oedipus complex

Many people put "Mama's boy" and "Oedipus complex" together and think this is a problem , which is actually wrong.

"Mama's boy" is a son who is self-centered about his mother and lacks independent opinions and self-confidence. This is a kind of personality deficiency.

The Oedipus complex means that sons like to stay with their mothers. This is a psychological tendency.

To put it simply, the son is mentally immature, unable to be independent, and cannot live without his mother.

In contrast, "Mama's boy" is more annoying.

Not avoiding the mother when the child is older may lead to gender cognitive bias in the child

Taiwanese actress Di Ying did not pay attention to "the child avoids the mother when the child is older". Her son was not weaned until he was 12 years old. She shared a bed with him when they were 15 years old. It was her excessive doting on her son that led to his being sent to prison as a minor.

If a mother does not pay attention to her image and dress in front of her son, and does not pay attention to protecting herself and her son's privacy, it may lead to gender cognitive bias.

Luo Zhixiang often kisses his mother in public places. The way he disregards his own image may be one of the reasons why he is a "scumbag".

It can be seen from this that it is appropriate for "older sons to avoid their mothers", but what is the reason for "older daughters not to avoid their fathers"? Is this sexism?

Daughters don’t need to avoid their father? This has to start from the emotional level

In fact, "daughters do not avoid their fathers" refers to the emotional level. The father cannot be absent from his daughter's world, rather than the physical level of kissing and hugging.

First of all, in our stereotype, the father is a strong man and the head of the family. In the eyes of his daughter, they are the world.

Therefore, when a father accompanies his daughter, it will bring a sense of security, and the daughter will feel happier and happier.

Secondly, father and daughter are opposite sexes and have different ways of thinking. Relatively speaking, father’s thinking is more rational.

After the daughter encounters a problem, her thinking direction is relatively narrow. If she communicates with her father, she may learn to think about the problem from multiple perspectives, thereby reducing the occurrence of hesitation.

Moreover, the father often makes his daughter happy in life, which also makes the daughter more willing to share her secrets with her father.

Then, the father will also affect his daughter's views on mate selection.

Some time ago, Bao Lei shared the thoughts of her daughter Belle. She wanted to compete with her mother for her father, and was worried that she would not be able to find a good husband when she grew up.

What does Bao Lei think? We don’t know, but Lu Yi must be smiling in his heart!

Through this case, we can find that "girls don't avoid their fathers" can help girls form a good view of love.

At the same time, in this process, the father will also help his daughter maintain confidence in getting along with the opposite sex and realize her own value.

Finally, if a father often stays with his daughter, he will also help his daughter become stronger and mentally stronger.

After all, a mother’s nature is to be soft. Under the education of her father, daughters tend to be more independent and brave.

It can be seen that the reason why "girls don't avoid their fathers" is very real. Parents should try not to ignore it!

Is there an emotional dimension to the phrase “old children never avoid their mothers”?

Seeing this, many parents will also question, in this case, why can't "children avoid their mothers when they are older" not limited to the emotional level?

There are essential differences between boys and girls, fathers and mothers!

Boys need to be strong, independent, autonomous and rational in their bones. If they stay with their mothers for a long time, they may be assimilated and their personalities will become feminine, nagging, and irresponsible.

If a boy desires to grow up and be independent, he must learn to deal with problems alone and break away from his mother, so that he can fly higher.

Moreover, after mothers give birth to children after ten months of pregnancy, they themselves have a bond with their children. If this "emotion" is deepened, boys may fall into an Oedipus complex.

Therefore, boys and mothers can easily have adverse effects even on an emotional level. Appropriate maternal love is enough.

Girls are inherently tender and tender. If they continue to avoid their father and do not learn from his father's qualities, they may become even more fragile.

Therefore, boys and girls have different physiological structures, which is why they need to avoid their parents.

A daughter does not need to avoid her father, but what principles should she pay attention to?

"Girls should not avoid their fathers" refers to the psychological level, but the physical level should be avoided!

A father cannot touch his daughter's private parts at will, nor can he "drive" at will, nor can he expose his own sensitive parts.

Otherwise, the daughter’s psychology will be shadowed, and she will be afraid of her father and the opposite sex, which will affect their future interpersonal relationships and views on love.

In addition, not avoiding taboos at the physiological level will also cause girls to have a vague sense of gender and will not be able to protect themselves. As a result, they will easily hurt their bodies when they meet a scumbag.

Dad Xuan has something to say

A son should avoid his mother, but a daughter does not need to avoid her father. What is the meaning behind this? Parents may wish to take a look!

There is nothing wrong with fathers loving their daughters. As long as there is emotional communication, it can help them grow.

However, whether it is a son or a daughter, parents cannot cross the red line. This is a matter of principle.

Topic of this issue: What do you think of "older sons avoid their mothers, but older daughters do not avoid their fathers"?

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