Do you need to have skills to fall in love?

Falling in love is a required course in life

1. Understanding love

First of all, we must understand that falling in love is different from getting married. Falling in love is more of a kind of getting along, a feeling of experimentation. Love leads to experience life and enjoy love. In this process, be as determined as possible to keep going, and this is complementary to the resistance you will encounter in the future. It is the factor that determines whether you can make the decision to put a ring on each other in the future. Love is power.

When a man reaches this age, some so-called experienced people will ask you if you have a girlfriend. If you say no, the next sentence will teach you, men, at this age, you should have more fun, anyway, you don’t. Suffering, you know.

I understand, I understand that you only have your own thoughts in your mind. In fact, if men put aside their carnal desires, this is the easiest time to fall into true love. When you want to give everything you have, you will even lament how you met the person you want to protect the most for your whole life at this age when you are most powerless, regardless of whether this is an illusion or not. Anyway, in young love, there really is no right or wrong, right or wrong, especially when both parties are in love, why bother to pursue it. Leave two words to yourself, loved.

As for girls’ views on love, I know that men and women are becoming more and more equal now, and their minds are becoming more and more open. I don’t care if you scold me or not, I still think that if a man indoctrinates you into a woman, You are still young and you should experience life more and choose better ones. I think these people are all bastards.

Girls will become more and more devalued because of the amount of love. You will have better selection criteria, but others will also know that you have tried more than one. You will be better at grasping the degree of love, but you will also lose it. If you don't care about it at all, you will be better able to consider the pros and cons of a relationship, but you will also lose the words of others: "This is a good girl, you must fucking treat her well!" You are getting more and more into love, but you are getting more and more into love. The harder it is to turn a relationship into true love.

Because for a simple girl who is not familiar with the world, love and hate are too simple. Simple feelings can become the true love of life without comparison. It is so easy to be deceived, but if you successfully accompany this man to grow up and build him It turned out to be the way he thought it would be, and he responded accordingly in return. That is the biggest fairy tale among ordinary people. Therefore, I want to talk about how two people can manage their relationship well and become a force in the face of future resistance.

In the end, there is no debt in love, it is all what you and I want. When we are together, we will live with all our strength, and when we are separated, let go as soon as possible. Life is far away, and we are both feet now. There is nothing that we can't handle.

Don’t fall in love too much, otherwise you will become numb. Older men cannot be trusted, especially those who know they are in a fire pit. Young women should love bravely, but keep their eyes open, use all their strength when making decisions, don't be high-profile when it comes to love, and remember to enrich themselves so that others won't only talk about their appearance. At least their quality as a person should be improved.

Second, how to chase someone?

I only talk about men for this question. If a woman decides to chase someone, it should be easier as long as the man has a good impression of you. Zhihu says There are a lot of stories about chasing each other in the classroom and so on. In fact, Dunima is simple and slightly romantic, so it is not difficult. Otherwise, forget it, even if you catch him, it's pointless and he won't be able to get far.

The core is this sentence: Never forget to improve yourself from the inside out, get along with the people you like in a comfortable and existential way, and make people feel good while maintaining a distance, without having to express your feelings at all. , please speak with actions.

First of all, many people are talking about one point: in school, one should look at one’s appearance, and in society, one should look at one’s pocket. In my opinion, it is one-sided. To be more precise, it should be like this. Some women are nymphomaniacs, and some women are money-worshiping and vain. As for the proportion of such women in your eyes to the total number of women you interact with, it is the degree to which you agree with this statement.

So, don’t blame these two requirements, just blame yourself. Are these two lowest-level women the only ones you associate with? Then what you should consider is not how to chase women, but how to improve the quality of your circle and life horizons. Opening up your social circle will naturally allow you to find the women you want, and the so-called "goddess" in the past is not enough. Talked. (It is the nature of nymphomaniacs and vanity, and it is the same for men. Why people are labeled like this depends on the degree of control and suppression of instincts between humans and animals. That is, reason. Some people will value this man's future. Some people value a man who is calm and down-to-earth, and some value a man who treats you sincerely. But when a woman sees a handsome man, she wants to sleep with him, and when she sees a rich man, she wants him to spend money on you. I would say that such a woman is spiritual. The woman at the bottom of the hierarchy.

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When you confirm what kind of woman you decide to pursue, you can prescribe the right medicine. If you are more vain, be more generous. If you are more nymphomaniac, dress more brightly. If you like warm men, be gentler.

Of course what I am going to talk about next is the universal formula! ! ! ! ! Just wear a suit

1. Always pay attention to your appearance.

First of all, dress yourself up. Don’t dress in fancy clothes. Even if your hair is long, don’t look too nerdy. Temperament is a collection of your life’s experiences, background, thoughts and culture. If you can't change it in the short term, then start changing it from the place that occupies the most sight of your body.

Please wear better clothes. I have a very good taste. I must have practiced it. Don’t buy anything that is too cheap. Don’t buy anything that is not cheap but of poor quality. I can see it. Roommates can see it too, women can see it even more.

The most important thing about dressing is texture and suitability. For example, in summer now, linen is not suitable for many people. I have been saying it for a long time. It either looks lazy and decadent or looks low, even for fat and thin people. Don't wear it.

Then go to the store and buy some, and spend some time shopping! Clothes are a bit more expensive to buy, but they are guaranteed to be high-quality, okay? I have to say important things three times.

Good clothes will increase your self-confidence if you are satisfied with them. When I was in junior high school, I wore Semir clothes that no one else in the class had. Not to mention holding my head high, when I turned around, I felt so handsome. shave!

Okay, stop, the key word is "self-confidence". If you don't think you are worthy of the woman you want to chase, why are you chasing her? You should feel this way in your heart, it’s a perfect match, or maybe I’m better than her and she’s not good enough for me. (If the gap between you is so big that you can’t even use narcissism to give yourself the illusion, then you can only ask if you are childhood sweethearts. , have you been together for seven or five years? Otherwise, Huang Bo can't catch up with Lin Chiling. If not, just give up.) You must be confident enough to put yourself in a dominant position, even if she is white and rich, you are an ordinary person. One, you also need to be neither humble nor overbearing, and take the initiative as a man should. Stand tall with your chest out, look cool in every outfit, and go meet her.

2. Start getting acquainted.

Be sure to avoid a few points when you start meeting and chatting with her. This is where the respondent thinks she has conquered many men.

Core words: quality, emotional intelligence, initiative, high profile.

I speak very rationally and logically. I think clearly and speak slowly. Sometimes I talk endlessly, and sometimes I am taciturn. The former has a good relationship with me, while the latter has people I don’t know well. Especially when something happens, people like the respondent will suddenly take the lead and be pushed out. Moreover, the respondent never hides and is confident. In fact, everyone can do some things. All they need is to treat it calmly.

Then, speak slowly and let yourself control the rhythm of the chat. If you use this habit, because you speak slowly, it will not be particularly awkward if the two of you are in a cold relationship.

You must have a sense of humor and be connotative, but don’t always talk about porn. You must be able to accept the ridicule of friends from all walks of life. You must be polite and casual, and don’t have to be pretentious. When you first start to get along, don’t be too purposeful. When it comes to sex, when there are several women around at the same time, be especially careful not to tangle with one person in a very obvious way. This is not about expressing love but causing embarrassment.

For example, if she asks if her roommate will bring her food when she comes back, you can say, if she doesn’t bring food, you can eat her. Isn't it funny? You can make people laugh with a good tone. This means that you can talk about all the details of life. This sentence was so bad that I made several girls around me laugh a minute ago.

“We are all a little over one meter, so why bother making things difficult for each other?” The respondent is taller. This kind of humor is hard to come by. It shines brightly when you think of it. It is accumulated through life.

What you have to do is to be comfortable and happy when you start dating without any purpose. After all, this is a process of testing each other. You just need to try to occupy the attention of most people and become a circle or a partner between two people. Keep the distance between each other and don't seem to care too much. If she is sick, don't be afraid to dislike her and don't infect her. Listen to me. Those who deliver medicine and drink more boiled water usually have no effect. It's okay to take her directly to the hospital.

Let’s talk about some details, about emotional intelligence and quality.

When walking on the street, naturally keep the woman inside. If there is a dangerous car, just pull her away. Don't say anything after pulling and blocking, just hum. You can say something is too expensive, treat you to a meal, etc., or Find the right point and ask her to pay her and leave. In fact, don’t be afraid of what will happen if you say these jokes. The key point is not to be cautious and don’t let the distance between the two be too far. In life, you can make each other happy and make everyone happy. It's the fastest way to get closer. Don't be impatient when holding an umbrella, don't touch others, and let yourself get wet. Playing games, letting a girl, for example, loser, she can't drink, and then start helping her drink her loser, isn't this better than telling everyone not to let her continue playing? Put the garbage away, give way to the elderly on the road, be courteous to migrant workers, and be polite to people in the service industry. Try not to say bad things about others. Even if it is really bad, try to speak slowly and stop talking. Let the girl complain more and be eager to talk. The simplest way is to help her find the person she hates most in her life and then listen. She is black

When you become the person who maturely takes charge of the general process, details and even her mood, and lets her have everything in order, I see that you are decent and generous in dealing with people and things, and you are pretty good at listening to your arrangements. , and it’s quite fun to be attached to it, and it’s not formal. At least you've got a dominant, high-profile position. Just the right distance to win favor, no need to express anything. You have to have your sense of hierarchy and not be seen through by others at a glance. After that it's time for her to guess how you feel about her. The person who later became my girlfriend said that when we first met, my impression was very good, but I thought it was too dangerous and he was too playful at first glance.

In conclusion, showing off without style is the most deadly.

3. How to get closer to each other and achieve ambiguity

Human life is different from animals. What I teach you is how to truly integrate this force into your own body. Here, you can really suppress your instincts all the time, yell when you are anxious, make trouble when you drink, and swear when things don't go your way.

I am very happy that after working hard to show off, I have improved my quality, demeanor and cultivation to a great extent. None of these things have anything to do with the RMB. But it is also as intuitive as numbers and cannot be hidden from the people around you. And if a person has a cultivated demeanor, it is the so-called pretentiousness that lasts forever.

What I teach is not about pretending, but how you should do it. Men must learn to grow. Let me share a quote from Yu Qiuyu.

“Maturity is a kind of bright but not dazzling light, a kind of mellow but not greasy sound; a kind of calmness that no longer needs to observe the words and expressions of others; an atmosphere that finally stops complaining to the surroundings. , a smile that ignores the noise; an indifference that washes away extremes, a thickness that does not need to be announced, a height that is not steep. "

This is a height that is not steep, It's easy to say, but it's not easy to persevere. I hope to work hard with you all.