I am also an AIDS patient, would you like to hug me?

I read a very ironic story on the Internet. A female netizen appealed for care for AIDS patients. So she pretended to be an AIDS patient and went to the street to find people to hug her, but no one wanted to hug her. When she lamented people's indifference and prejudice, a boy came and gave her a hug. When the female netizen was moved, the boy said that I am also an AIDS patient. Then the girl screamed "Wow" and ran away...

This story tells us that there are always some people who think they can feel the suffering of the world, but in fact they cannot understand the feelings of others. I don't feel the same way, but in order to achieve my own naive idea, I express my understanding and sympathy to some people, and also ask others to do the same. In fact, such behavior is really "artificial".

In fact, there are many such people in society today. They have never experienced it, but they like to attract attention by evaluating and criticizing other people. They can allow themselves to do things they cannot do, but they must ask others to do it.

This kind of behavior of "being strict with others and being lenient with others" and also likes "fake mercy" is actually a disease - Mary's disease.

When we have not experienced it, we should remain silent.

"False compassion" is a disease

Many people have had this experience. During the Chinese New Year, children from relatives came to our room and broke or damaged many of our things. Walk. If we get angry at this time, all our relatives will say: "Oh, why bother with the child? He is still young."

But in fact, a pin or a button may look like It has no value, but it may have deep meaning to a person. Perhaps, it was the first gift from the present, or even a relic from a relative.

I have never experienced this kind of thing, but I criticize others from a high position and pretend to be "generous". I generally won't save face.

Sorry, "magnanimity" means disciplining oneself but not others. The fault is yours.

There is a video of a beggar going to a restaurant to eat. And many people inside expressed their disgust. At this time people started trying to drive him away.

One person came out and said: "He can also eat here." Others also started to say: "The restaurant belongs to everyone, and he affects other people's dining here." "Yes, yes, it also affects The boss's business."

And these people can say these things so "righteously" because they are not the ones being driven away. They don't feel the same way, but they use their words to kidnap others morally.

Standing on the commanding heights, we even still use the slogan of "thinking about others". Asking others to do things according to their own ideas, completely regardless of other people's experiences and facts.

Such behavior is nothing more than attracting others’ attention and pretending to be compassionate.

You have no experience, but you have to criticize others from a moral perspective and ask others to act according to your own views of good and evil. Pretending to be sympathetic and understanding without feeling the same feelings is not true compassion, but rather “Marine disease.”

"Only those who feel the same can have the right to speak"

There is a sentence in Lin Youjia's "Empathy": There are many things that you can only understand what it feels like if you experience them yourself. Indeed, only if you are there, feel and experience anything, can you have the right to speak.

Korean star Sulli ended her life at the age of 25 a few days ago due to depression. Before this, some daily posts she posted on her personal social account were reviled by all netizens.

When she really died, the group of people began to appear again, saying that all her daily actions were signs for help. It was also revealed that Shirley suffered from depression, but these keyboard warriors have always said in a condescending manner: "She seems to have no problem at all." "How can someone with depression be so happy?" "She It's just pretending." Wait, wait, etc.

No one thought she was sick, they just thought she was seeking attention.

I want to ask these netizens, have you ever suffered from depression? Have you ever experienced this kind of pain? If not, where would you have the confidence to say these things?

We criticize others even though we don’t feel the same way. What qualifications do these people have to speak?

"If you have not experienced it, please remain silent."

There is a sentence in "Human Weakness": Unless the needle pricks him, he will never know how painful it is.

There is a story that went viral on Weibo: a little boy was always bullied at school because of his thin stature. He told his parents that they said you should be generous and give in to others. How could anyone be so boring? He told the teacher, the teacher said that a slap can't make a difference. If you don't provoke others, how can others provoke you?

I have read this story many times and thought about it for a long time. Why do people always view everyone from their own point of view?

In fact, some people are just that boring. They will bully someone because they are bored, they will continue to bully someone because they did not resist, or they will become more excited because they resisted after bullying them!

Teachers and parents are all good people. They all think that everyone is a good person. Little do they know that those seemingly well-behaved children will start thinking because they want to know whether a spider will die if it has no legs. Pull out its legs and feel great about it.

Do you know? Good people have to be more evil to see through the masks of evil people at a glance.

If you are not a person who can understand malice, don't point at other people's misfortunes, it is a despair you have never experienced.

How can we judge others if we have never experienced it? The slap can't hit you, and you will never know how much it hurts. If you don’t experience it, it will feel unimportant, but in the eyes of others, it may be a big deal.

There are many people in the world who pretend to be kind and impose their own concepts of good and evil on others. They haven't experienced it, and they think it doesn't matter. They may even pretend to be caring, pity and sympathize with others. These are all harmful to others. If we don't feel the same way, please remain silent.