After marriage, don't gossip at home. Why?

There are not so many reasons. This is not absolute. Only in China, we pay attention to "wash your dirty linen in public", so family matters are generally not mentioned to outsiders, which has become a self-evident rule.

Maybe many people don't quite understand this. For most adults, several milestones in a person's life include marriage. When he was unmarried, he was alone, with only his parents behind him. However, after marriage, not only parents, but also their families and lovers are behind them. Their responsibilities and burdens are very heavy, and some trivial matters and troubles they encounter are also very heavy. Although family, work and life cross each other, they are actually independent. When you are unmarried, you can whisper to your best friend and share your joys and sorrows, but after you get married, you can't talk about these so-called joys and sorrows with others, because you used to talk about life, and now everything is family. Although family is also a part of life, there are essential differences between single life and family life.

If life is divided into several boundaries, then family is an internal matter, work or other things are external things, and what happens inside is generally solved internally. When you take internal things outside, you may like to talk, but the other person may not like to listen. When you reveal too many internal things to outsiders, some private contents may be leaked, which will inevitably affect the harmony and unity within the family, such as the privacy of the husband and the privacy of the wife.

Moreover, taking the family as a unit, family members are considered as a collective, and they also have face. They publicize some ugly things, but they are actually hitting themselves in the face, which is also the main reason for "it's a shame not to publish". So, try not to tell outsiders about yourself. It is a good thing to talk and relieve stress, but an unintentional remark by the speaker and an unintentional remark by the listener may sometimes bring crisis to your family and marriage.