The saddest aspect of middle-aged marriage, how many couples are pretending to love each other?

I watched a movie called Actually Love, which is a must-see movie every Christmas. It tells about the emotional separation and combination of Christmas Eve, but at Christmas, all the separation is reunited and all the misunderstandings are removed.

In the movie, what impressed me the most was a middle-aged couple, who looked very loving, had a pair of children and lived an enviable life. But under this calm appearance, there are rough waves hidden.

At the dance, the husband made out with a young woman, and the wife on the side saw it and could only pretend to be generous. After the dance, she casually went home with her husband.

The wife never mentioned this matter, and the husband was indifferent, and their lives went on. When the husband comes home from work, the wife has already cooked the meal, and the family of four is happy.

On Christmas Eve, my husband and I went shopping to prepare things. The wife went to choose something for the elderly at home and asked her husband to wait by. But her husband wants to buy a necklace to say goodbye to this woman. His wife came out before the things were bought. He pretended that nothing had happened, pulled her up to buy her a silk scarf, and her wife pretended that she didn't know anything.

Until one day, the wife found a necklace in her husband's inner pocket. She secretly rejoiced and thought it was a Christmas present for her husband.

On Christmas day, my wife was full of expectations, but the Christmas gift she received was not a necklace, but a CD.

At that moment, the wife suddenly realized, but she didn't get angry on the spot. She still thanked her husband, then made an excuse to leave, and a person collapsed in the room and began to cry. After crying, I pretended to be happy and loved my husband.

In fact, in the hearts of middle-aged couples, they have nothing to say to each other, and they don't even want to look at each other again, but for the sake of their children and reputation, they don't want to expose each other, just like two poor actors, acting with each other.

This is the most sad thing for middle-aged couples. Behind the perfect marriage is the collapse of the grass widow.

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I have seen a group of cartoons before, which is particularly ironic. A couple kissed goodbye in front of their children before going out, and then vomited separately.

It's really embarrassing that marriage has come to this. Once the vows of eternal love, once the passionate years, have been washed away by time, leaving only two tired eyes.

Why do middle-aged couples pretend to love each other? I believe you can give many reasons, such as for children, for family and so on.

Among them, because children are the most common and don't want to hurt them, they pretend that everything is fine and think they can protect them. In fact, children are more sensitive than adults

You two loveless eyes, the moment when you dislike each other, the conversation between your forewords and the following words, and your absent-minded kiss, but you are too deeply involved in the play, and the children have seen through everything.

This is the situation of Song Siming and Mrs. Song in my residence. Mrs. Song clearly knows that she has someone outside, and even if her heart collapses, she never shows any emotion in front of her children, pretending to be very loving.

But these children have already felt it, so when Mrs. Song tentatively told the children about the divorce, the children were very calm.

Parents pretend to love each other, which adults think is to protect their children. In fact, it brings another kind of harm to children. You are all suppressing, sacrificing and compromising. Can this false happiness be true happiness?

Therefore, some children are even more disappointed when they look at their parents and hope that they will divorce. This is the biggest problem of Chinese marriage. When problems arise, they are often covered up instead of bravely facing and solving them.

So, don't pretend to be nice to children. You are not an actor. If you are really responsible for your children, tell them the truth. For children, what they can't stand is not their parents' divorce, but their parents' meeting.

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In recent years, ordinary couples are ridiculous, and so are couples in the entertainment circle. Pretend love is everywhere.

For example, Chen He and Xu Jing got married after a long-distance race of 13. This kind of love can be called a fairy tale, but Michael Chen and Zhang got together soon after their marriage, and they had an affair.

When the news came out, Michael Chen shocked everyone by admitting that he and Xu Jing had agreed to divorce. Now that they have divorced, why do they show love? Not only Michael Chen, but also Bai Baihe and Chen Yufan fell in love for two years, and they didn't admit it until Bai Baihe and Xiao Xianrou were photographed.

In this era, divorce is not a shameful thing, but it is not kind to pretend to be in love.

Stars are designed for fame and wealth and for people. Even if their feelings break down, they should show their love for each other. This is the most hypocritical. However, in real life, some people deceive themselves.

Obviously, my husband has an object outside, and he hypnotizes himself: he is just playing, and I love me the most. Therefore, people take part in accidental amusement before, and people ignore each other after.

Tu Lei once said, "If you persist in paying for you, the iceberg will melt and the stone will be covered with heat. I tell you, there is a kind of man who doesn't cover up the heat, so when you find this person like this, if you are still in such a relationship, it is self-deception. "

Self-deceiving marriage is the most terrible, just like a clown on the stage who thinks his performance is perfect, but it has already become a joke.

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The saddest aspect of middle-aged couples: the so-called love is fake.

This is the case with the movie mentioned at the beginning of the article. The wife has been running the family for decades, knowing that her husband is emotionally derailed, and pretending that the years are quiet. This is not a grass widow, but something.

Pretending to be in love in marriage is the most tiring. It's better to be open and honest, solve the problem if you have a problem, and divorce if you can't solve it.

It is better to face it bravely than to pretend to whitewash it. In this film, the later wife finally tore off the mask, spoke her mind with her husband and left with the children.

Later, when his wife came back, the husband realized his problems and understood what was most important to him. When the problem is solved, the happiness at this time is the most real.

Zhang Xiaoxian said, "Love is a duet, and I don't mind that both of them can't dance well. But I really mind that I am the only one who jumps, and the other party just stands by and watches. "

Happiness cannot be faked. Pretend that love is not love. Hiding, avoiding can't solve the problem. Only being honest and loyal to your heart is the only way to happiness.