How to treat three good men who don't smoke or drink?

Question: What do you think of the "three good men" who don't smoke, drink or gamble? Ha ha ha, what do you think of the food at home? I admire such a "three good men" in addition to admiration. Just sitting at home and eating well is not such a "three good men" I can't do it. I don't have that much perseverance.

Let me start with a real case that happened around me: my neighbor has a son who never smoked, drank or gambled since he was a child. Such a "three-good man" went on a blind date a few days ago and was actually rejected by the woman. In my eyes, my neighbor's son is beautiful, shy and quiet, but very practical. He earns a penny and never squanders it. I thought, which woman is not good to live with such a man? But I didn't expect the woman to say, "'three won't', which feels like an out-of-touch alternative. Do not smoke, selfish; Don't drink, lonely; No cards, no entertainment. None of these will show poor social and interpersonal skills. "

To tell the truth, from a health point of view, it is a man's rule not to smoke, drink or gamble, which is really good for his health. Smoking not only harms your own health, but also harms the health of people around you. Especially gambling, small gambling and big gambling! But men who don't smoke, drink or gamble are not necessarily excellent men, and they don't necessarily give people a good impression. One thing is certain: this kind of man can't mix with society, because alcohol and tobacco are used to greet people, and you can't even say hello. How much can you mix? Personally, I think that as a man, a rational man should be able to resist the temptation, always know what to do and what not to do, and have a clear understanding. Smoking less, drinking less and gambling less are not bad habits, but should be regarded as a good person. In fact, whether a man is a good man depends mainly on his attitude towards family and work. A man who can balance his career and family is definitely a good man.

Don't smoke or drink, these are just two good men, plus "don't gamble", they are three good men.

There are "three good men" who don't smoke, drink or gamble in the world, but they are all "independent" and don't have many friends around them, but they have their own life rules and are quite good!

To measure a good man, in everyone's mind, the admission standard is different. Some women don't like men smoking, some women don't like men drinking, and some women don't want men gambling, but it is difficult to do all three at the same time.

Let's start with smoking.

In people's minds, smoking is bad. How many people want to quit smoking, but they can't. But in real life, a considerable number of men do not smoke for health.

Except drinking.

Men always have a drink when they get together. If they can control the amount, that's ok, but the reality is that people get drunk every time friends get together. Many accidents may happen after drinking too much and getting drunk, such as falling down by bike, sleeping in flower beds, causing trouble by drinking, losing money and things, and so on. If the circumstances are serious, people are detained, hospitalized, or even lost their lives. So many families are against men drinking outside, especially getting drunk.

Finally, gambling.

Gamblers often say "ten bets and nine losses". It is not hard to hear from this sentence that gamblers have no winners. If you take gambling as a pastime and play it occasionally, you can still do it. I'm afraid this gambler wants to "get rich overnight" by gambling, so the chance of death is definitely great!

"Three good men" who don't smoke, drink or gamble really exist in the world.

There are many men who don't smoke because smoking is harmful to health; There are many men who don't drink, but there are not many friends around men who don't drink; There are more men who don't gamble, because gambling will destroy people.

But the criteria for evaluating a good man should not only look at these three aspects, but also look at other aspects!

Not smoking or drinking is not necessarily a good man. Similarly, smoking and drinking are not bad people.

There is no clear standard to measure right or wrong about smoking and drinking. It can only be said that smoking and drinking is a bad habit. How can you become a good man without smoking and drinking?

Du's advice: A man who doesn't smoke or drink is selfish and can't be entrusted for life. what do you think?

Why selfish? Some people say that it is because they have no hobbies and only love themselves. Others say it's because they don't know how to share, they only care about themselves and don't consider the feelings of others; Others say it is because they can control themselves and not compromise.

That makes sense. Imagine that if you are the leader and elder on the wine table, everyone is happy to drink and wants to have a drink with you, but as long as you stick to your principles and don't touch a drop. Isn't that how you feel about yourself?

I have to say that cigarettes are really a good thing for smokers, and they can save lives in an emergency!

The picture below is for people who don't know how to smoke and drink. I hope everyone has some gentle dreams in a tired life!

The ancients once said: don't smoke or drink, walk the world. Green gang boss Du has a famous saying: People who don't drink or smoke are selfish and generally can't be trusted all their lives. It can be seen that not smoking or drinking has nothing to do with a good man. At best, it is barely an "advantage."

Most men who don't smoke or drink are extremely selfish, rational, self-centered, calm, and have a strong purpose in communicating with people. Generally, they don't open their hearts with people, are boring and easy to be one-sided.

In terms of personality, such people are relatively dull and like to keep things in their hearts, but if they keep things in their hearts for a long time, they may explode and make extreme behaviors.

This is not an alarmist, but a psychological portrait of such people by psychologists, which has certain scientific basis. To say the least, a large part of these people have such personality factors.

This is not to encourage people to smoke and drink, both of which are harmful to human health, especially smoking. You'd better give up smoking if you can.

But it's still not easy for a man to give up drinking in his life. For example, there are many bad habits that are harmful to human body, not only smoking and drinking, but also staying up late. How many people don't stay up late now? According to science, going to bed before 10 at night is not considered as staying up late. How many people can do it?

How hard it is for you not to stay up late, smoke or drink has nothing to do with your health, whether you are a good person or not, and your personality.

It's good not to smoke or drink, but there's no need to be proud not to smoke or drink.

This problem is actually very complicated, and it is actually the result of the interaction between class, culture (power distance) and media.

Talk about two kinds of people in class society, one is to make rules and the other is to abide by them.

For the upper level, if you can't make rules that are beneficial to you, you may not be able to maintain your current position. Even if the attempt fails, the class will only fall to ordinary people. For the lower class, as long as they hold their position and do not violate laws and taboos, they can maintain their current social status and will not fall into the lower class. On the contrary, you will have a very tragic fate.

The former thinks: No matter who made the rules in the past, no matter how many years this rule has been circulated, if I find a rule that is more beneficial to everyone (Pareto), if I find an unfair rule, if I find a rule that is beneficial to me, I will try to change the rules.

The thinking behind is: how can I get the approval of the rulemakers by following the rules and outperform others under the rules?

The former family, the goal of raising children, the west is called a free man, and the east is called a gentleman. The content of education is called liberal arts education in the west and six arts for gentlemen in the east. The core theme is what you can do.

The latter family, the goal of cultivating children, is called employees (not employees) in the west and villains in the east. The content of education, don't violate laws and taboos, and increase your competitiveness under the rules. The core theme is what you can't do.

There is nothing wrong with this way of thinking in the past, because in the past, the grassroots were basically solidified. This kind of thinking is a better choice for families with two backgrounds. For example, when you were an emperor, you learned carpentry well. When you were a farmer, you learned carpentry well and you were diligent and enterprising. Literati's drinking is called fishing for poems and forgetting worries, while ordinary people's drinking is called drinking to spoil the broth. Li Bai wrote hundreds of poems about drinking, and you were scolded when you went home with a glass. Whether you are right or wrong lies not in what you have done, but in your position.

Of course, no matter how solidified the class is, there are still people who can transcend the class and are not bound by birth and rules. Therefore, "Caigen Tan" said that "only heroes are real, and romantic people are real celebrities"; Jobs said: "Living is to change the world".

Generally speaking:

The lower the degree of class solidification, the more people can cross classes, and the smaller the difference between the two kinds of education.

The higher the degree of class solidification, the fewer people can cross the class, and the greater the difference between the two kinds of education.

So, back to the question, the meaning of non-smokers and non-drinkers in the question illustrates four problems:

Men don't smoke and stay indoors!

Men can't live long without drinking!

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