Forgiving my wife for cheating is more heartbreaking than divorcing, but I can’t divorce, why?

As the old saying goes, when you lie down quietly, you often think about your own mistakes, and when you are chatting, don’t talk about the rights and wrongs of others! Everything in a relationship has its own rules. Before you figure it out, no one should tell anyone!

It’s just that many people don’t understand this truth when they are young, and they are no longer young when they understand it. Many people don't understand this truth in marriage, and by the time they understand it, their marriage is gone. Many people are overconfident and think that their lover will not cheat. By the time they find out, their lover has already left with someone else!

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In an ordinary marriage, a good marriage is when both husband and wife feel happy. As long as one person feels that the marriage is suffering, no matter how happy the other person is, the marriage is not really happy. As long as a third party appears, this kind of marriage will definitely not be able to withstand the test. How can it be happy?

It’s not too difficult to make a happy marriage, but people’s hearts are not simple, and many couples’ relationships fail due to complex people’s hearts. Many marriages have failed to mistresses and extramarital affairs!

Extramarital affairs occur in many families because the husband and wife are not on the same "channel." Because cheating is a matter of luck, many people cheat once and continue cheating until they change their minds.

Many people who have been hurt by extramarital affairs used to feel good about themselves. When they felt good about themselves, they neglected to take precautions. When an extramarital affair occurs, the huge psychological contrast of "right and wrong" makes them very hurt. If you don't pay attention, all your arrogance and dignity will be gone.

For many people in marriage, when they find out that their lover has cheated, they may just watch their lover cheat, but they can’t find any good way to check and balance! Although heartbroken, there is nothing I can do!

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In a marriage, if one party wants a divorce because of cheating, is it worth it for the other person to save it?

Most men may not even think about it. A cheating woman cannot be forgiven and cannot be undone! He's already cheated on her, so why do we need her!

But in fact, when faced with their wives cheating, most men will be irritable, but in the end they often choose to swallow their anger, and even lower themselves and pray for their wives not to divorce. Although there is a thorn in their hearts, 90% of men have to put down their dignity and choose to save it!

Many men have been betrayed by their lovers, but they did not divorce, but chose to forget the humiliation and live their lives as usual. This is a fact! I don't think they are cowardly. In many cases, not only are they not cowardly, they appear to be very brave. Recovering a cheating lover is a kind of courage worthy of praise. The good news is that most men have this kind of courage!

I have heard many men complain that they feel useless and their wives have cheated on them, but they dare not divorce!

A man once chatted with me for a long time: I felt bad at that time, and that feeling was even worse than divorce. When I first found out she was cheating on me, I was so angry that I asked her for a divorce. She always cried and said she was sorry to me and begged me not to get divorced.

I thought she would change her ways, but I didn’t expect that she would still cheat. In the end, she filed for divorce from me. I immediately panicked and was scared. I can tolerate your cheating, and I can tolerate whatever you do outside, but you can't abandon me, and you can't divorce me.

Faced with her request for divorce, I backed down. I started to beg her not to divorce, I even knelt down for her, I even cried like a woman in front of her!

Although we got divorced in the end, I felt that I had done nothing wrong at the time. I believe that all men who encounter my situation will choose to forgive.

But women are too heartless to cheat. Even if you forgive her, she may not accept it. It's time to divorce. No matter how hard you try to keep her, she no longer has you in her heart.

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What do women think about cheating?

Most women will have a sudden feeling of sadness. They can’t explain the reason, but they just feel aggrieved. They are generally not afraid of divorce, but they are just dissatisfied! The grievance is filled with anger, which lasts for a long time, and you may even cheat out of revenge!

A woman told me about her emotional confusion:

When he admitted to cheating, I seemed to hear the sound of my own heart breaking. I can't imagine that after so many years with him, he would hurt me so cruelly! I hated him so much at that moment, I hit him hard in the face! He didn't fight back and allowed me to hit him, but I refused to calm down and kept beating his face until it was swollen.

After calming down, my first thought was to find the mistress and teach her a lesson! She even dares to touch my husband, she even dares to harm my man, how could I possibly spare her!

My husband will never say who his lover is. He is very tough and won’t say anything. Since I couldn't find the mistress, I gradually became drowsy and felt extremely uncomfortable.

I have never thought about divorce at all, and I am not afraid even if my husband wants a divorce. But when he really said the word divorce, I panicked. Although I felt resentful in my heart, I didn't dare to do anything again. I'm not afraid of divorce, I'm afraid of being embarrassed after divorce!

Until now, he still has not said who that lover is. There was nothing I could do, my temper was slowly wiped away by him, and I gradually forgave him.

Although we are not divorced, the pain in my heart is more than divorce! What else can I do, I can only keep an eye on him. The debt I had with my mistress couldn't be settled. This was the biggest pain after I forgave him.

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Can cheating be forgiven? It seems that you can forgive or not, it depends on your personal will.

What I have to say is that most people will choose to forgive. Maybe there is a reason for love, maybe they are still in love with the person who cheated on them. Maybe you have to forgive for the sake of your family. Maybe I'm afraid of being single for the rest of my life after divorce, or maybe I'm afraid of being laughed at by others.

In short, although forgiving an extramarital affair is more painful than divorce, many people would rather suffer than divorce. This is actually a kind of rationality, and such rational people are worthy of being cherished by cheaters.

In a marriage, no matter how well they are doing, couples cannot cheat. If you really don't want to live anymore, you can divorce. If you cheat in marriage, you not only hurt the person who loves you, but you also hurt yourself. Not only did you hurt the family, you also turned yourself into a mistress!