You regret marrying me, and I regret marrying you.

01

The neighbor’s sister is getting divorced recently and is having a lot of trouble with her mother-in-law and her family. My sister is kind-hearted, neat and tidy. She gave birth to a pair of twins, a boy and a girl. She is only four or five years old now. The children need someone to take care of them, so I have never been able to work and take care of the children full-time at home. I usually do a micro business selling some cosmetics to earn some pocket money. Her husband's family was relatively wealthy in business, but hers was from an ordinary family. Her mother-in-law had always disliked her for having no money and power, and encouraged her son to divorce and find a rich man. Her mother-in-law wore sunglasses and drove past her without stopping and opening the window to say hello, pretending she didn't see her. Unexpectedly, her husband was a mama's boy. He couldn't stand his mother's constant tossing and decided to divorce. In the end, the divorce was not finalized. Everything was for the sake of the children.

I am both sympathetic and angry at what happened to my neighbor’s sister. I am angry that my sister is a good person and why she still “stays” at home. If she had more integrity, she would get divorced. At worst, she would be single and earn money to support the family!

As God would have it, the same thing happened to me, but I didn’t have the backbone to choose a divorce!

02

I chose to break up with my boyfriend a few months after graduating from college. He went to Nanjing for graduate school and I worked in my hometown. Long-distance relationships are really painful. Besides, my family situation is complicated. During the postgraduate entrance examination, my mother was hospitalized due to arrhythmia, and my father died unexpectedly when I was in college. I was very afraid that I would become an orphan, alone and helpless. Only by staying with my mother and brother could I give them some comfort! My boyfriend in college was both good in character and academic, and very handsome. I felt that he really loved me, and I cherished it. We both had good tempers and got along very harmoniously. The only time we quarreled was because he looked at me. I was jealous of other girls, so I lost my temper and wanted to break up. In the end, he admitted his mistake to me and we reconciled.

He would write a poem for me every day. As a literature student, I couldn’t keep up with the writing skills of science students, so he really laughed at me! He often comes to school to see me. Sometimes I ask him, what if we break up after graduation? Asked him to find another one, he said: No, I love you and want to be with you all the time. If you find someone else, no matter how good it is, it won't be you!

After the breakup, I was very sad and stopped contacting him. He asked my college roommate for news about me and how I was doing. During this period, I contacted him occasionally and saw those things through the screen. Warm greetings will make you shed tears.

In my most difficult time, it was he who gave me the strength to move forward. He always stayed by my side and never left me. My heart was full of gratitude. But I am selfish, if love, why can't I wait for him to come back, or give up my current job to find him, and work hard for our future? We are not mature at that time!

Love on campus is sincere and innocent, and the only condition for mutual happiness is love. The additional condition is that you only belong to me, I only have you, and you are the whole world!

03

If you meet someone you are destined to miss, and leave in a hurry without having time to say I love you out loud, I have never regretted it, after all, I have loved you unforgettable.

I remember that winter was very cold and we met unexpectedly. He had no feelings for me and I felt strange to him. He is very playful. In the winter, he and his friends drove east along the Huangyan Island route to the seaside to fish. He asked me to go play with him during the Chinese New Year, but I didn’t agree. After all, we didn’t know each other well, so it was not safe to go with him rashly. Safety is hard to say, you must have a sense of self-protection. He sent a photo via WeChat. On a tall rock on the vast seaside, a figure was fishing with a fishing rod. His originally tall figure was instantly killed by the majestic momentum of the sea! I also teased him about being frozen into a turtle, which made me angry.

Once he and a few friends were traveling along the Sichuan-Tibet Line and were almost detained when they arrived at a Tibetan home. Because he was handsome, had a good personality, and was well-educated, he was attracted by the herdsman’s daughter. , was willing to trade sheep for a son-in-law, but he refused to agree, otherwise he would be tied to get married. He and his companions quickly escaped overnight and successfully escaped from the marriage. He is really funny, and a series of weird things will happen to him. I always tease him and ridicule him, which makes his self-confidence suddenly drop and he doesn't like to talk to me.

I call him "tycoon". After all, not many people can learn to fly a plane. In order to train his courage, he studied for a while. After graduating from the military academy, he changed careers without staying in the army. In the civil service, we eat and drink and become leaders at a young age. What should we, the hard-working soldiers, do? !

A month passed. Gradually we got to know each other and joked with each other. We were both kind people and liked each other. When I was on duty at the work unit, he chatted with me and called me. We fell in love. The other person’s initial appearance.

After he learned about my family situation, instead of disdainful of me, he took more care of me. He was worried about whether I had enough food and clothing, whether I had money to spend, and he always thought about me. Once, he called me when he was drunk and insisted that I call him husband. He wanted to get a marriage certificate with me as soon as possible. He was afraid that others would steal me from him. After we got married, I had someone to rely on. He said that only he could give me happiness. . I don't know what happiness is. He has given me the best comfort in my soul. If the whole world abandons him, I will not.

One time he went back to his hometown and I didn’t make a call on the way. I thought he had turned off his phone and didn’t want to talk to me and wanted to break up with me, so I was so sad that I cried. After seeing the message, he called me back and told me that I was too stupid to break up with me, let alone leave me. He just turned off his phone because he was afraid of being harassed, so that I could rest assured.

However, I broke my promise again and abandoned him! His parents were both university teachers and did not agree with us falling in love and getting married. Because of this, he was unhappy with his family, but he insisted on being with me. His pride defeated his hard work, and his love lost to cowardice. I deleted all his information. Let him return to his hometown quickly to find his love, we have no results! He and I ended due to my stubbornness. I didn’t have much hope in this relationship, couldn’t see the future, and moved forward in sadness.

In love, I am a deserter. I run away when encountering difficulties. Meeting them is the luck of my life. I thought that when we meet again, I will still be so romantic, kind and beautiful, and luck will not always patronize me, but then I turn around and encounter reality!

04

My husband and I are colleagues. He fell in love with me the first time we met. After asking around, he thought I had a good personality and was pretty good-looking, so he kept pursuing me. I. When I was chasing me, I told him that my family situation was not suitable for love and marriage, but he still had no hesitation and said that as long as I love me well, he doesn't care about anything else.

The temperature of love can only be maintained in a honeypot. Once you encounter reality, the right person will grab you and hold you tight, while the wrong person will just complain about you.

I have been very traditional since I was a child, and I am also very conservative about relationships between the sexes. I have never had sex. My current husband has a bad temper. I didn’t understand it at the time. It was the first time I had sex. Unfortunately, I got pregnant. I was at a loss at that time. No one made up my mind for me. What should I do? I didn't want to get married, and I didn't even dare to think about the consequences of getting married. My child was a burden to me, so I was unwilling to abort him cruelly. In the end, I compromised with reality and got married with my son.

If I still had feelings for him before the marriage, they were all wiped out after the marriage. Two months before I got married, my mother was diagnosed with breast cancer and needed immediate surgery. He had been renovating the house. He didn't dare to upset me when this happened, so he told me the test results on the day my mother had the surgery. It was a benign tumor, so I was relieved. I didn't expect it to be malignant. I had to have my left breast removed and needed someone to take care of me. I was pregnant and my brother was only in elementary school. My family helped take care of it. The house was a mess. He was really busy during that time. But what he said and did has always stuck in my mind.

When I was pregnant, he disliked me for having too much housework and quarreled with me. He didn’t expect that I came from such a family. If he had known about it, he would not have married me. He regretted it very much. I also told him angrily that I regretted marrying him even more. He, my family was like this when I was born. Two people together are not as happy as one person. I divorced after giving birth to a child. I couldn’t imagine the appearance of the child in my belly, and I didn’t feel bad at all.

There are endless quarrels and endless dislike. A man regrets marrying a woman like me. As a woman, wouldn’t marrying such a man ruin her whole life?

When he was taking care of my mother in the evening, he was not very nice to my family. When my younger brother was picky about food, he directly called him a "coward." He didn't send him to school in the morning and had to make him finish his meal. I quarreled with him. There was a fight. My mother had just undergone surgery and had to undergo chemotherapy in the later stages. Her body was too weak and she was so angry that she cried. She is worried about me. Her daughter has not married into a good family, her son is too young, and her father is gone. Who will make the decision for her?

In the following time, we still quarreled, but less frequently. In the past, I knew how to be tolerant and didn't like to lose my temper. I was always bullied. Now I am not so cowardly. It is my responsibility not to be bullied. It is my responsibility to protect my mother and brother.

The birth of the baby made me look down on our relationship. After all, my son is the most important thing. I love my son. Now he is six months old and he is always by my side. When I was pregnant, I was lying in bed so tired that I couldn't sleep or turn over. I wanted him to help me, but he wouldn't extend his hand. I cried at night and was very sad. Why is my life like this? Is this my punishment? He still thinks that what I do is not good here or there. He plays with his mobile phone without holding the child or helping me. I want to vomit out all the grievances I have suffered. No one can rely on me but myself. Even if I am still said to have no money and power, I no longer care. Are you fucking rich and powerful?

Life still has to go on. I am working hard without relying on others. Meet love at a young age, accept marriage at a mature age. If the bottom line is exceeded, I will leave forever and never look back. My son belongs to me, and some people will have nothing in the end!