Some couples are divorced, why do they still live together? The woman only said one reason, which was unexpected. what do you think?

Meet people among thousands of people; For thousands of years, in the boundless wilderness of time, we happened to catch up, neither earlier nor later.

Inman once thought that her relationship with Zaler Xu was like this, but it just happened to catch up. Unfortunately, after careful calculation, she and her ex-husband have been divorced for eight years. For eight years, the two have never given up their divorce, originally for the sake of their children. Now they find that children are smart, and never giving up is harmful to them.

Eight years ago, Yinman got pregnant before marriage, and her parents were anxious to get married.

Love is a feeling, and marriage is another feeling. Two people who got married in a hurry live together, and the feeling and novelty they once had are quickly exhausted by the triviality of life. All kinds of quarrels, contradictions and problems arising from the three views swarmed in. Zaler Xu put forward the idea of divorce.

For Yin Man, the difference between love and marriage makes her exhausted. Even if there is no external heart for each other, it is meaningless to stick to this marriage. It's better to end this.

But the baby has not been born yet. If you divorce, it means that the child is born without a father. Both Yin Man and Zaler Xu know what this family means to the children. So they decided not to leave home after the divorce, and it was still a complete "happy" family for the children.

I wish I was ignorant a few years ago after the baby was born. The two have a clear division of labor, sleep in separate rooms, and live a very calm life. But the child has grown up. After attending kindergarten, Inman felt the difference among the children.

He began to become very sensitive. When he comes back from kindergarten, he will ask Inman why other children's parents sleep in the same room, but his parents are not; Why do other people's children go out to play with their parents on weekends, but their parents have their own things? Why did his father go out with other aunts?

Inman was shocked. She didn't expect so many things to be hidden in the child's mind, and she didn't expect the child's observation to be so strong. But she didn't realize the seriousness of the problem at that time. She just told Xu Lang to deal with her emotional problems, and they were closer in front of the children. Then, wait until the children are sensible, and then find an opportunity to tell them.

But I didn't expect things to get worse. When the child was eight years old, Inman felt that his temper was unstable and he often lost his temper. He had a bad temper and clung to Zaler Xu and Inman. Sometimes dreaming will bring mom and dad together.

Sensitive, suspicious, precocious, etc. All the questions made Inman feel that the decision to run away from home after divorce was wrong.

To tell the truth, over the years, Yin Man and Zaler Xu have drawn a line. Even under the same roof, I have no feelings for each other. Especially in Zaler Xu, women who have kept in touch with each other have never broken off, and there is no possibility of reconciliation between them. A few years ago, when Zaler Xu didn't have contact with other women, Inman thought it was possible for two people, but that was just an illusion. Zaler Xu is indifferent to everything except children, and has no old feelings and enthusiasm for her. If she hadn't lived together, she wouldn't have realized that Zaler Xu was such a person.

What shall we do? Inman has no choice but to live on it, quietly seek opportunities, be truly independent, and give children a better life and better education.

In real life, many parents will choose to compromise for their children and don't understand divorce. I thought it was the only way to be good for children. In fact, what is really good for children is not simply divorce and not leaving home. It's the state of speaking. Heart is no longer connected, even under the same roof, there is no sweet interaction, no sincere emotion. Children are smart enough to think that their parents are real or fake.

My cousin once made such a mistake. My cousin was very angry when she learned that her husband had someone outside. At that moment, she couldn't wait for a divorce tomorrow. But after a sleepless night, she remembered her son who still had two years of college entrance examination.

Divorce must have an impact on children. She couldn't make a decision in such a hurry, so she thought of a way to discuss it with her husband. They can divorce, and she can't pursue anything. But the only thing is that she asked her husband not to leave home after the divorce. Don't tell your child this situation before the college entrance examination is over.

My husband agrees with you. He doesn't want to see his children distracted by their parents' affairs before the exam. In this way, two people pretend to love each other day after day. The child didn't show up, as usual, but later he became more and more strange, went home later and later, and communicated less and less.

Cousin thinks that children study too hard and don't care. The child's grades have been stable and she is not too worried. Finally, on the day of college entrance examination, my cousin cooked a lot of delicious food. She thinks that her children can do well in the exam and play to their normal level.

What can make her collapse is that the children's grades have come out, not to mention one, even the college grades are not enough. Cousin was shocked and quickly asked the child what was going on.

At this time, the child also collapsed and said, "Mom, don't think that I don't know that you and Dad have been divorced for a long time. Dad had a family a long time ago. I saw what i saw. If you don't avoid me, I won't let you feel better. You think that every time you take me to eat delicious food on holiday weekends, I will be grateful to him for having an affair, so don't blame me for making him feel guilty for life. What if I can't get into a good university? What about divorce? Don't be good for everyone. "

Good boy, so paranoid. In fact, parents' emotions cannot be fooled by sensitive children. This kind of deception will only make them more unacceptable.

Instead of letting children live in a false "complete" family, it is better to let children live wholeheartedly in a single-parent family. After all, "acting" is acting, and acting will never become a reality. Marriage is cracked, and no matter how hard we try, we can't get rid of the cracked fact. True love can't be hidden, and hypocrisy will be exposed sooner or later.

If there is no longer affection between husband and wife, don't stay together for the sake of children, which will not only harm yourself, but also harm the children.