How to treat junior high school students' rebellion

Analyzing students' rebellion from examples, looking at students' problems from the perspective of mind, changing the perspective of seeing problems and changing the state of mind of educators will find different ways to solve problems and strive to get out of the new realm of education. Keywords: junior high school students' rebellious psychology, let's look at two examples first: On the afternoon of the first day of the semester 10, a parent called and asked to pick up the child. She was not particularly willing to tell me the reason, so I didn't ask again, but contacted the life teacher and asked her to pick up the children first. The next morning, my parents came to me and said, "Teacher, I trust you very much and I am not afraid that you will laugh at me. I want to tell you something. My son stole seven or eight thousand dollars from home years ago and asked him why he took the money. He said that he was afraid that others would hit him and gave it to others. " I asked, "How did he get so much money?" My parents told me that when they do business, they just put the money together. Because it is troublesome to sort out the change, they put it in an old newspaper and then put it under a cotton-padded jacket in the box. I asked, "Does he admit that he took so much money?" My parents told me that he only took 700 yuan, and he took it five times. To tell the truth, I think this situation is very unlikely, but I can't guarantee that it is absolutely impossible, so I said calmly, "I'll check and then I'll contact you." The parents said, "Teacher, there are two more things. The child also said that students in your class were fighting, and several people were stuck in the bathroom and fighting alone, and the life teacher dared not take care of it; There are also several students in your class who want to get back at you and find opportunities to beat you. " Having said that, I am more peaceful. As far as my understanding of the class and the relationship between teachers and students in our class is concerned, I think it is impossible, but I still haven't denied it to my face. First of all, I'm afraid of what might happen. Besides, I didn't investigate. Direct denial is tantamount to denying this student, and parents will feel very uncomfortable. I said, "Thank you for telling me so many things. I will take the time to investigate and contact you. " Next, I thought about it seriously. By the third grade, the students have grown up and matured. There is probably something between classmates that I don't understand. If there is really such a deep resentment between students and between teachers and students, it is a very dangerous and difficult thing that needs to be solved immediately. I investigated five students who I think can get real information, and investigated the truth of the latter two things. The result is: classmates fight with each other, and sometimes it is too much. This kind of fighting has never happened before. It is this classmate who complains most about my management, and occasionally complains or scolds the teachers in the dormitory. Then I called this classmate and communicated with him with my sincerity and patience. Finally, the following things were confirmed: 1. He took out more than two thousand yuan from home and went back to school five times before the winter vacation. The money received each time does not exceed 400. Saturday and Sunday are holidays and his parents are busy with business. He is alone at home, stealing money and spending money at home during the winter vacation. The money spent at school is mainly used to steal snacks and buy snacks (our class is only allowed to buy stationery at the grocery store on Saturday afternoon in the eighth quarter, and I am allowed to buy snacks, but I am not allowed to take them to the classroom and dormitory), and then distribute them to the students. The purpose of handing out snacks is that if someone bullies him, these students can help. This kind of fighting exists, but it is not in our class and it doesn't happen often. He has only seen other students fight like this once, and he is very scared. He criticized me himself (I was his class teacher), and when he felt uncomfortable, he wanted to get back at me and hit me. Our communication is sincere and successful. The second example: in the 20 years since I became a class teacher, I have only expelled one student voluntarily. He is a child in the northeast. Lai Yuehua didn't pass the second grade exam, but she didn't get into the fourth grade-our class. It is no exaggeration to say that I spent a lot of effort to treat this child. He is very clever and finally entered the top three in our class. But I think my education is a failure. I think there is something wrong with his quality, and I am exhausted. Finally, I went to the headmaster and insisted on driving the student. We had a lot of heart-to-heart communication. I know his father died, his mother married someone, and he followed his aunt. He entered the public security bureau for fighting. After he came out, his aunt got angry and didn't want him. His third aunt and uncle sent him here. I always thought that the love and sincerity I gave him could completely impress him and change him. Seeing that he broke the discipline again and again and became a' celebrity' in our grade and even middle school made me feel that his quality was really poor, so I decided to give up. Problem analysis: Junior high school students, aged between 12- 15 years old. It is the stage when an individual enters adolescence. There are contradictions between students' physical maturity and psychological immaturity, between wanting to get rid of their parents' bondage and not being able to correctly grasp their own direction, between being unwilling to accept other people's opinions and having to be managed by parents and teachers. The process of solving these contradictions is the process of individual students' "self-integration". Because of the differences of age, ability, experience, family background and other factors, everyone will have different integration States, and most students cannot achieve the ideal state of self-integration unimpeded during this period. It can be seen that for ordinary middle school students, more or less self-integration crisis is inevitable. Nowadays, most junior high school students are the only children in the family, the apple of their parents' eyes and the little emperor at home. At home, they are naked, keep their mouths shut and have countless pocket money; At the same time, it is the hope of parents in China, so parents expect too much of their children's academic performance, but they don't pay attention to the cultivation of their children's quality and habits. Yuehua's junior high school students have good family economic conditions, and it is very common to be spoiled as a child. Some students will face the following situations when they grow up: first, their parents are far away from home, and their children grow up with their grandparents and are left behind; First, their parents' divorce rate is particularly high, and they grew up in a single-parent family, but their parents can't handle the relationship with their children correctly and fulfill their responsibilities to their children. So children's self-integration will become more difficult. Therefore, I personally think that our education has reached an unprecedented new period. If we don't understand children's psychology, don't be children's friends, don't really go into children's hearts, be tolerant and strict blindly, we will be far away from the goal of education. Solution to the problem: First of all, we must believe that every student has the need for upward development and good development, and that every student has the potential to solve various problems that arise during growth. It is believed that the above problems of students are only phenomena, not essence, so that students will not be easily labeled as "quality" or "morality", but only bad habits. The formation of bad habits has a certain life foundation, and long-term life and living conditions will form a "plot". If this kind of plot stays in our hearts for a long time, it will form an unhealthy psychological state, and the performance of psychological state is what we see. Once we understand that children's problems are psychological problems, not quality problems, our hearts will be relieved. We can deal with problems more objectively, calmly and effectively. After in-depth understanding, the classmate I mentioned earlier took various measures to avoid being bullied by others because he was always bullied by other boys when he was in primary school. Come to think of it carefully, the reason why the Northeast student won't be moved by my love is only because he never got true love in his youth, and he simply doesn't believe that anyone will really love him. Of course, it is much easier to discuss this problem in theory than to educate students in practice, and we need to pay more in practical work. Every teacher, especially the experienced head teacher, is a psychological counselor without a certificate. We will spend a lot of time holding class meetings to change all students' incorrect behaviors, help them establish a correct outlook on life and world, and also spend a lot of time doing ideological work for individual students, adjusting their emotions and improving their state. But if teachers are willing to spend some time reading some professional psychological works, especially clinical psychological works, including individual psychological counseling psychology and group psychological counseling psychology, our relationship with students emphasizes equality, safety, respect and trust, and we emphasize helping others and helping ourselves. Our psychological counseling is different from traditional education and discipline. It does not rely on indoctrination and preaching, but on the active participation, equal discussion and gradual understanding of the aided individuals or groups themselves to promote their own growth. Counseling is not a specific job, nor a specific post. Counseling is a people-oriented modern educational concept. It is not only a technology, but also an understanding and trust of human nature, a respect and concern for students, and an ideal educational realm.