How to deal with a mother-in-law who behaves disrespectfully?

When you encounter a mother-in-law who behaves disrespectfully, the best way is not to get along with her. First, say that she is older and you are younger. If you argue with her, others will not laugh at your mother-in-law. And will laugh at you, a junior. So I won't get mad at her right then and there.

I have been married for 30 years and have always lived with my mother-in-law. During this period, I did endure a lot of grievances and helplessness, but I always swallowed all the grievances and endured them all by myself. Everything, I have never gotten angry with the other party on the spot.

First, out of respect for the elders. Because when you have conflicts and disputes with your elders, no matter how reasonable you are, you are still a junior. We should first respect our elders, this is the first priority. Because they are older and even a little confused, their thinking is not as sharp as young people. Sometimes they can't make a decision whether they are right or wrong, so there is no way to argue with them. If it is really for There was a quarrel over this matter, and no matter how reasonable the junior was, it was still wrong.

Second, there will be no quarrels out of protection of family privacy. Because every family has its own difficulties. As the saying goes, every family has its own sutras that are difficult to recite. When family members live together, it is impossible for them to be particularly harmonious everywhere. There will definitely be contradictions of one kind or another. Conflicts should be handled calmly. Noisy arguments will not solve any problems, but will damage the harmony between both parties. In addition, if there is a real quarrel, the neighbors will know that there is a conflict in the family, and it will not look good if it is revealed.

Third, you really can’t quarrel with the other party. Because my mother-in-law is a very persistent person. If she is unhappy with something or thinks that you have done something, she will be relentless and nag her. Sometimes you can nag for a long time, but if you try to reason with him, he won’t listen at all and will just believe in his own reasoning. She will also act recklessly if she is unreasonable. You are suspicious all day long, doubting this and that at every turn, leaving you at a loss as to what to do. The best way at this time is to ignore him. If she likes to nag, she will nag, and if she likes to scold, she will scold him. When she has had enough nagging or scolding, she will stop.

This is my true experience of spending time with my mother-in-law over the years. Never get angry with the other party or argue with the other party, because this will not help resolve the conflict and will only make you angrier. So the best thing to do is to give them a wide berth and not argue with them.