What expectations should parents not have for their children?

It is the common long-cherished wish of all parents in the world to hope that their children will become dragons and their daughters will become phoenixes. However, the ideal is very full, but the reality is very skinny. Because from a macro perspective, this society needs both princes and generals as well as traffickers and pawns, otherwise the society cannot function normally. From a micro perspective, the time and space region, social background, family conditions, and personal intelligence and physical conditions where a person is born determine the height a person can achieve in his life. Therefore, it is impossible to want every child to become a leader among people. Parents all over the world should have a clear understanding of this. Only by realizing this can we educate our children in a way that suits their actual situation.

It is often said that parents are children’s first teachers. From birth to high school graduation, children will basically live with their parents during this period. What parents do during this period has a subtle impact on their children.

Personally, I think parents should first teach their children a positive and optimistic attitude towards life. For example, don't always sigh and blame others at home, and talk about your misfortune to everyone like Mrs. Xianglin. This kind of negative behavior is extremely harmful to the growth of children. Because in the same living environment, treating with an optimistic attitude and treating with a pessimistic attitude will definitely have two completely different results in the end.

The second thing to say is that kneeling parents cannot teach standing children. There is a popular joke: "In the past, children were raised like cats and dogs, but now cats and dogs are raised like children." In fact, this fact is revealed here. Since the implementation of family planning, there have been fewer children in the family, and some even have two families with six adults supporting one child. Therefore, since the child was born, he has been raised like a prince or princess, holding it in his mouth for fear of melting, holding it in his hands for fear of falling. So there are some phenomena in society. When children don't eat, parents can't wait to kneel on the ground and beg for food. What else says that parents and children should get along like friends, so it has become common for children to call their parents by their first names. Children who grow up in such an educational environment will end up being selfish, disrespectful, and self-centered. Like flowers in a greenhouse, they cannot withstand the wind and rain in life. Imagine a child who grows up in an environment where everyone has to beg for food. Can he not be selfish, willful and fragile? The frequent occurrence of various mental illnesses among students in today's society is also inseparable from this. In a word, it is caused by eating too much and doing too little.

The ancients said that if you practice three hundred and sixty, you will be the number one scholar. Although every parent hopes that their children can engage in high-level industries, many people are unable to do so due to various constraints. In fact, no matter what line of work you are in, as long as you maintain a positive and optimistic heart, work hard and make every day fulfilling, and do not spend it in emptiness and inaction, then your life will be successful. Also happy. As for material rewards, to borrow a sentence from Tiandao: "If my ability can only make me poor, then being poor is my value."