What is a true friend?

Text/You have me by your side.

Mr. Lu Xun once wrote a book to Qu Qiubai, saying: It is enough to have a bosom friend in life, and we should treat each other with the same heart.

A true friend is a bosom friend who knows you and appreciates you.

We all say that true friends are bosom friends. A true friend has the same personality and three views. As the saying goes, "No common cause, no common goal", a person who doesn't like you and is critical can't be friends.

A true friend understands your needs, knows when you need help, knows when you need comfort, knows when you should not be disturbed, knows your strengths and your narrow mind, and can tolerate you, inspire you, criticize you and warn you.

True friends appreciate your talents and advantages more. Everyone wants to be respected, praised and appreciated. Only true friends will really admire you, not perfunctory and jealous.

Mr. Lu Xun and Qu Qiubai, one is a master of literature, and the other is an early leader of the * * * production party. When they have never met, they appreciate each other because they appreciate each other. Through correspondence, they established a written friendship.

19311On February 25th, Qu Qiubai wrote to Mr. Lu Xun: "We are so close people, so close when we didn't meet."

In Shanghai, which was shrouded in white at that time, Lu Xun was in a difficult situation, but he ignored his personal safety. In 1932 and 1933, Mr. and Mrs. Qu Qiubai were received to take refuge at home four times.

1June, 935, after Qu Qiubai was killed, Mr. Lu Xun collected, transcribed, collated and revised Qu Qiubai's translation, and edited it into "The Forest on the Sea" as a gift in memory of Qu Qiubai.

A true friend is a friendship between gentlemen as light as water.

A true friend can have a friendship of sharing wealth, without a dispute of interests. When you are in trouble, your friends will help you first, not avoid you. When you become rich, your friends will congratulate you, not envy or hate you. Your friend is the one who sticks to you and pushes you forward.

A true friend is enough to meet one in his life. We all say that we are fair-weather friends. We have never seen anyone get into trouble. There are plenty of fair-weather friends. Once you are in trouble, frustrated and want to borrow some money from your friends, you are definitely not at home, don't answer your phone and disappear. Are such people still friends?

At the turn of interests, friends who use each other can never be true friends.

True friends can be committed to life and death, and children can send each other away.

The most famous story in history is the friendship between Ji Kang and Dan Tao, the "Seven Sages of Bamboo Forest" in Jin Dynasty. The "Seven Sages of Bamboo Forest" were celebrities in the society at that time.

Ji Kang is a cynical and hateful person. At that time, the Sima family controlled the government of the imperial court and invited Ji Kang to be an official many times. Ji Kang repeatedly refused and sneered at him, which naturally made Sima's family very unhappy.

Officialdom, sleek Dan Tao, also see that Ji Kang has become a thorn in the side of Sima's political group. In order to ease the contradiction between Ji Kang and Sima, Dan Tao recommended Ji Kang as an official on the premise that there was a vacancy in the court.

Ji Kang was not only ungrateful, but also cursed Dan Tao for being his friend for decades, even though he didn't know himself, and wrote the famous "Breaking up with Shan Juyuan" in history. Ji Kang said in the article: "I am afraid that I will be humiliated by myself. I hope to introduce a corpse to help me, so I will recommend the sword in the top." Ironically, Dan Tao wants to drag himself into the political sewage, and his words are fierce. From now on, I will break up with you.

Before Ji Kang's execution, he entrusted his son to Dan Tao and said to his son, "With Dan Tao here, you are not an orphan.".

In the end, Dan Tao did not live up to Ji Kang's entrustment, raised Ji Kang's son and recommended him as a court official.

Ji Kang broke up with Dan Tao because he really wanted to protect his friends. He is worried that Sima will be implicated in Dan Tao because of his friendship with Dan Tao.

And Dan Tao, understood him and satisfied him. Although political ideas are different, you can still entrust your life and death to your friends.

A true friend can not only share life and death, but also fly to block the disaster for you and leave you a chance to live.

Another famous story in history happened between Boya and Zhong Ziqi.

Boya was a great doctor in the State of Jin during the Spring and Autumn Period and the Warring States Period, and also a pianist with superb skills at that time. He wrote many music scores handed down from generation to generation, such as "Narcissus Exercise" and "Mountain Running Water".

Zhong Ziqi, a woodcutter in the State of Chu in the Spring and Autumn Period, wore a straw hat and linen, carrying a burden and chopping wood.

One day, when Zhong Ziqi was on a mission to Chu, he wanted to cross the river by boat in the evening. Suddenly it rained heavily, so he had to rest on the riverbank for a while.

After a long rain, the clouds disappeared, the sky was clear, a bright moon was rising, mountains and rivers were picturesque, elegant and prosperous, and the piano was singing.

A piece of music, 1 of "boom", the string is broken, Boya said:

"Today, the emblem is unique. Do you have a bosom friend? " Looking around, I saw a man leaning against the rock wall, silent.

"Who are you?" When asked in time, the man slowly stepped forward and replied, "Excuse me, woodcutter Zhong Ziqi."

Boya looked at the man in the hat and hemp fiber. Although he has beautiful eyes, he is lonely in form and spirit. He sighed. "Does this gentleman know me?" Heart is look down upon Zhong Ziqi.

Boya changed the strings again, tuned the notes and played happily again.

The sound of the piano means aiming at the mountains. Zhong Ziqi said, "Good! If you are a mountain! "

Three fat means to aim at running water. Zhong Ziqi said, "Good! If the ocean is lost! "

Every time a song is played, Zhong Ziqi needs to be poor for its benefit. Boya gave up the piano and sighed, "Good! Very good! Listen to your husband's ambition and imagine that you are still in my heart. Why should I run away? Jun Zhen, I know you! "

So the two burned incense and became allies and became girlfriends. Hello again. Unexpectedly, there are two people, one is a rich scholar-bureaucrat and the other is a poor woodcutter, who can let go of their identity and become bosom friends just because you understand me.

At that time, he died while curing a disease, Zhong Ziqi. Boya came to Zhong Ziqi's grave, and a song "Mountains and Rivers" was finished, but he broke the piano and sighed:

"There is no Zhong Ziqi in the world, who can know Boyaqin?" After that, Boya stopped playing the piano.

This is the origin of high mountains and flowing water, and it is difficult to find allusions for bosom friends.

A true friend is not always by your side, but always in your heart. Maybe you haven't seen him for a year, haven't heard from him, and he has never left you!

(Image from vision china)