"Be a Talking Man" composition 1000 words

The most talkative people know that some words can't be said, and euphemism is undoubtedly a "trick" for them.

Before Roosevelt became president, he worked in the Admiralty. Once, a friend of his asked him about the submarine base of the navy on an island in the Caribbean. Roosevelt looked around carefully and then asked in a low voice, "Can you promise not to tell?" "Of course." "Well," Roosevelt said to him with a smile, "so can I".

Roosevelt used euphemistic and implicit words, which not only adhered to his own principles, but also did not embarrass his friends too much. The positive effect was very obvious.

The most talkative people know how to say "no" when what others want them to do can't be done, and at the same time let them understand. No one likes to be rejected, so they will listen to each other's demands first, then reject each other with more sincere words, and try their best to provide each other with reference opinions to solve problems.

1797 In the summer, French revolutionary Constantine Volney visited American President George Washington. In order to get the right to travel around the United States, Vorne asked Washington to open a letter of introduction for him. This puts Washington in a dilemma: if it is given to him, it is a false public service; If you don't give it to him, it will wipe his face again. After careful consideration, Washington finally wrote this sentence on paper: "Kang Houarner doesn't need a letter of introduction from Joe Washington."

The most talkative people will skillfully display the charm of humorous language in their work or life, which will make people sincerely impressed or unable to help laughing.

A half-year-old lady asked the writer Bernard Shaw, "How old do you think I am?"

"Look at your crystal teeth, like 18 years old; Look at your fluffy curly hair. 19 years old. Look at your twisted waist. At most 14 years old. Bernard Shaw said solemnly. The lady couldn't help jumping up with joy: "Then can you tell me my age accurately?" "Please add up the three figures I just said! "

As long as people live, they can't live without interpersonal communication. Oral communication is the most widely used, and oral communication is language conversation. Every normal person should speak, but the effect of each person's speech is different, even very different. For example, some people are very polite and attractive; Some people speak humorously and affectionately; Some people talk like water. Although each has its own advantages and disadvantages, all of them can win people's attention with words, and all the bones and muscles of the listeners feel comfortable. However, some people I meet in my life are bitter and frightening. Some people are eloquent, which makes people feel hypocritical; Some people hate it when they are glib. There are many people who can't agree. Except for a few people with mental retardation and personality defects, most people with language communication difficulties are caused by not mastering the art of language. People who can talk will be like a duck to water; People who can't talk will be limited. Therefore, everyone should learn the art of speaking and be a talker.

First, learn to praise when you speak.

Everyone needs praise, just like water and air, which is both psychological and physiological. Without praise, people will become fragile and easily influenced and harassed by all kinds of bad thoughts; Without praise, people's mental immune system will stop working, causing adverse reactions such as depression.

Everyone likes to be praised. No one needs to be fully "psychologically prepared" to receive a compliment. Whether you are a babbling child or a white-haired old man, everyone has a psychological need to accept praise. No one will be "angry from embarrassment" because others praise him properly, because people always have a desire to be affirmed and praised.

Therefore, liking other people's praise is an essential feature of people. Praise is to the soul what sunshine is to everything. Since praise is so important, how should we praise others?

Praise, be sincere and natural

Dirty and despicable people never praise others because they have no sincere and natural mentality. Sincerity and nature are the lofty realm of human soul. Once settled in their hearts, they are the perfect combination of vanilla and pure gold. Such people will try to explore the advantages of others, face up to the advantages of others, spit lotus flowers like a few treasures, and give appropriate praise. Therefore, the process of praising others is also a process of cultivating their own mind.

I estimate that everyone has had the experience of being falsely praised by others, and such praise is closely related to desires and interests.

Once upon a time, an old man who looked at each other by the roadside said to me, "Young man, don't pull a long face, just wait patiently." Look, your head, your face, your nose and your eyes are full of blessings everywhere. You must be respected and prosperous all your life. " I went home and looked in the mirror again and again, although the more I looked, the more I felt that what he said was reasonable. Now, I know I have been cheated. That guy praised me for making money, and that compliment was not sincere.

Once, I tried on a coat, which was much smaller. When I looked in the mirror, I was as funny as "Monkey Seven", but the salesman actually said, "Great! Very good! Mr. Wang's temperament and figure are one in a million. Put on this dress of my family and show them what a real handsome guy is! " The shop assistant praised me for being profitable, and her praise was unnatural.

Praise others, sincere attitude is the key. Only with sincere attitude, praise will appear natural, others will be interested in praise, and the effect of praise can be achieved.

Praise, discover the bright spot.

There are no pure good people and bad people in the world. We should all learn to look at the world with the mentality of the beginning of life, that is, nature is beautiful. Starting from good wishes and looking at people and things with good eyes, we can find the bright spots of others and praise them.

I had a dream that I was walking in the jungle with lush mountain flowers and saw flowers arguing. Lily laughs at day lily, day lily laughs at the monotony of Malan, Malan laughs at the withering of peony, and peony laughs at the delicacy of lily ... Mountain flowers, like people, are not convinced of each other, and they all seize the shortcomings of others and argue endlessly. No one praises the magnificence of azaleas, the romance of dandelions and the simplicity of nameless flowers. ...

Why? Because of jealousy, people lack a broad mind to find the bright spot of looking for others.

An acquaintance of mine has never praised colleagues and leaders, and she hates to gnash her teeth at the mention of anyone. Everyone who has worked is a bastard. I once asked her frankly: Are you the only good person in the world? Although she is speechless, she is still the only one. Because her heart lacks tolerance, she is more jealous; Less openness, more bitterness.

Tolerance is the virtue and fine tradition of the Chinese nation. On the other hand, jealousy is a thorn in the side. Only by discovering the bright spots of others, cultivating their correct values and outlook on life, and treating life and others with an open mind, will they win people's admiration and trust.

In today's materialistic world where money is paramount, it is particularly important to be able to tolerate others with an open mind and praise others for discovering their own bright spots.

Praise, scratch "itch"

When our praise is exactly what the other party wants, it will strengthen the pleasure and self-confidence of the other party and get twice the result with half the effort. In other words, praise should also find the right starting point and scratch the other person's "itch" in order to exert the greatest effect.

How to find each other's itch? It is easy to find out the most common characteristics of everyone, because you can know them by observing their favorite topics. What they want most is what they talk about the most. If you scratch him in these places, you can scratch him comfortably.

The key is not to step on each other's "itchy spots". There is a joke that there are two brothers and sisters at home. My sister gave birth to a child after marriage, and my brother congratulated her on behalf of the whole family. After seeing his sister, my brother said reverently, "Sister, I really admire your courage. When you were not married, you gave birth to a child in the village, and my father almost killed you. How nice of you to have another child here! " I think I stepped on the wrong itch, and the effect can be imagined.

There is a misunderstanding in praising women now. I often hear some women boast that they are gay, and some women boast that a woman is a man. In fact, it is a mistake to attribute openness, generosity and happiness to men. Men regard masculinity as beauty, while women regard femininity as beauty. Imagine that a woman's body matches a man's heart. What a terrible human monster is that? A woman who readily accepts this compliment, or regards it as a beauty, is either a fool or a "250".

Second, learn to listen when you speak.

God gave people two ears and one mouth, that is, let us listen more and talk less.

Listening is a gesture, a gesture of being kind to others, calm and modest. With this attitude, people can gradually be open-minded, aboveboard and selfless.

Being good at listening can let us keep up with the times; We can keep a clear head by accepting a wide range of opinions; Modesty and prudence can increase our knowledge and talents. What is the correct way to listen?

Don't interrupt others' topic easily.

But everyone wants others to respect themselves, listen to their opinions and appreciate their stories. If a friend is talking about a topic, and the other person is in high spirits, and you suddenly have some opinions, you interrupt your friend and are eager to express your opinions. Or, before the topic is fully opened, when the other person is about to tell an example he has heard, you shout: Ah, I have heard this! Stop the other person immediately, so that the other person doesn't know whether to continue talking ... these are all manifestations of not being able to speak and not respecting others.

We know that no one can live alone in the sea like an island. Everyone should get along with others and want to be a respected and popular person. To realize this idea, we must first learn to respect others sincerely.

Listening to the respect expressed is like a spring breeze, a clear spring and a warm comfort pill, which can inspire people to forge ahead and become the adhesive of close interpersonal relationships.

It is a noble quality to respect others by listening. Each of us is engaged in different occupations, and there is no distinction between high and low. In this sense, we have no reason or qualification to despise and laugh at others with a dismissive attitude.

In listening, friends will feel that there are no leaves in autumn life, depression and sadness can not stay in their hearts for a long time, and loneliness is also a kind of beauty; In listening, you will understand the difficulty and importance of understanding. Even a smile from a stranger is enough to dispel the chill. In listening, I will understand that the sun shines on you and me fairly, brilliant and ordinary; When you listen, you will find yourself talking to a wide world. All the storms and vicissitudes in the world are just a freely curled cloud, just a bell ticking on the wall. ...

Skills of listening to others

Listening is also skillful. Mastering listening skills skillfully can often achieve good listening effects.

The main skill is to look at the other person's nose or forehead, so that the other person feels that you are not only listening carefully, but also your eyes are soft and kind; When others stop speaking, wait for a few seconds before speaking, which gives the other party time to continue speaking. You can also take the opportunity to organize the language and make the other party feel that your words are considered and highly credible. Nod and smile while listening. The advantage of this is that it plays a positive and inspiring role, which is conducive to the other party's speech and allows you to "capture" more information; Don't make unnecessary sounds, let alone indecent body language and sounds, so that the other party can express their opinions in the feeling of being respected; Don't interrupt others unless you have to.

Listening is not listening for the sake of listening. The purpose of listening is to create a harmonious atmosphere, understand other people's voices, "capture" useful information as much as possible, make what you say reasonable, beneficial, affectionate and restrained, and achieve the purpose of expressing your heart and communicating successfully.

Third, learn to be humorous when speaking.

Humor is a kind of life wisdom, which embodies an optimistic and positive lifestyle and an open-minded attitude towards life. Humor is to express some serious concepts with a relaxed smile. Humor is an essential gift for social activities and the best "seasoning" to enliven the atmosphere of social occasions.

People who can speak generally know how to use humorous language. On any occasion, people who are humorous and eloquent can always win the favor of others and get a lot of support and understanding. At a celebration dinner, a general and a soldier drank heartily. When the soldier opened the champagne, he sprayed the wine on the general's bald head. The soldier was frightened at that time, but the general put a handful of wine on his head and said with a smile, "thank you, young man." Your champagne may be a good medicine for baldness, and my hair will turn black tomorrow. "

Humorous eloquence can also cleverly counter other people's attacks and entanglements and defend their dignity. A boy secretly loves a girl, so he pursues her. Finally, one day, the girl turned around and patted the table in class and said loudly to the boy, what do you like about me? Can't I change it?

To win people's welcome and respect, we must learn humor.

Humor is the product of reflecting emotional level and emotional intelligence. Elegant and healthy humor has many positive effects.

The first advantage is that it can promote physical and mental health.

It contains philosophy of life and interesting humor, which can make people optimistic, happy and firm, eliminate fatigue, concentrate and cultivate noble interests.

I have retired honorably and recently resigned as a consultant. I feel a little sad and lonely because I have nothing to do. I told my troubles to my children. When my children persuaded me, they told such a joke: Gaddafi shouted when he was arrested, and he kept repeating one sentence: I am a fake Gaddafi ... I am a fake. The soldier was convinced and asked: Where is it really? Gaddafi said something that he regretted for the rest of his life: He was really in China. Hearing this, the soldier pointed a gun at Gaddafi's head and scolded: Shit! But everyone knows that there is no real thing in China!

After listening to this humorous joke, I suddenly felt that my breathing was smooth and my mind was open, and the long-lost pleasure was quietly infiltrating my heart.

The second advantage is that people use their quick wits to solve difficulties.

Humor can make people use their quick wits to solve difficulties, or get out of dangerous situations and creatively solve problems properly.

There is such a thing. A girl from SAFE was sent to work in our bureau. The girl wants to change her living environment. One day in 2007, she called a big leader who was keen on working for women for help. The beast-faced guy readily agreed to the girl's request and invited her to a secret place. As soon as the two leaders were alone, they tore off their disguises and eagerly sought evil. The girl's situation is very dangerous. She is scared out of her wits. However, she quickly calmed down and said, "Hello, uncle, I searched Baidu before I came. Leading cadres in the reception standard have never received such treatment so far. I can't receive it beyond the standard. " Then the girl said with emphasis, people often say that rabbits don't eat grass beside their nests. You are our supreme leader, and you can't be worse than a cute little white rabbit! That guy was blinded by black humor for a while. While restraining himself from being a beast, the girl escaped and saved her integrity.

A diner was eating in a restaurant when he suddenly found a fly in the soup. He raised his hand to invite the waiter and sarcastically said, "What is this thing doing in my soup?" The waiter bent down, looked at it carefully for a long time and answered in a positive tone: "Sir, this position is backstroke!" " "The customers in the restaurant were amused. Imagine this situation, no matter how the waiter explains or apologizes, it can only be a sharp criticism and even cause customers' anger. However, humor helped him, rescued him from the predicament and eased the atmosphere.

The third benefit is self-motivation.

Humor can help us enhance our vitality. Drawing strength from humor can enable us to cope with any difficulties and get rid of all kinds of troubles. It is difficult for people who don't know humor to adjust their emotions, which leads to more and more troubles and easy depression. Facing the hard life, we should train and learn our own humorous art.

My cooking has never been praised, because I can't cook, and sometimes I'd rather be hungry than cook. Faced with this dilemma, I teased my friends many times: An Murong also has a "specialty" dish, and no one has surpassed me so far. When people ask me what this dish is, I will say with a straight face: tomatoes mixed with sugar!

According to my own characteristics, I once gave myself a "silence" like this: although my legs are short, my trunk is still quite long; Although the skin is darker, the hair is still quite white; Although the face is a little curved, the eyes are still straight; Although the left eye is small, the right eye is quite big. These jokes undoubtedly added some fun to myself and my friends.

The fourth advantage is that you can harmonize interpersonal relationships.

Friendly humor can express sincerity and friendship between people and bring people closer together. It is indispensable to establish a good relationship with others. Especially when a person wants to express his inner dissatisfaction, if he can use humorous language, others will sound better. Humor is very convincing when one needs to change the attitude of others from negative to positive. When the relationship between one person and others is tense, humor can also help both parties get out of trouble or eliminate conflicts calmly.

Sometimes, I also make up some self-deprecating humorous jokes to adjust the atmosphere. Once, a friend met something unhappy and confided to me. In order to soothe his injured "young" mind, I invited my friends to dinner. During the dinner, I solemnly teased: If I marry a daughter-in-law, I will definitely marry the widow of the village east. First, people have backers, who are the cousins of the village group leader; Two people are very clean, took a shower a few years ago; All three are slim and weigh just 250 Jin. All four are very clever. They were stabbed by an awl on Monday and shouted "Mom!" Thursday. It really hurts! This joke didn't wait for my friend to finish laughing. This kind of joke is neither vulgar nor insinuating others, which makes my friend forget his heartache for a while and plays a very good healing role.

Fourth, speak in depth.

People who know how to speak will be welcomed everywhere. They can make many strangers join hands to become friends; They can solve problems for people and eliminate doubts and misunderstandings; They can calm people's boring mood and face the reality bravely; They can encourage pessimists to welcome a new life with a smile.

People often praise some people for being "eloquent". What is eloquence? I think having a glib tongue means saying what you should say, not saying what you shouldn't say, thinking about it, and not thinking about it.

Avoid "shallow talk" when speaking.

"Concise, easy to understand" means having a deep conversation with people who don't have deep friendship. In life, some people regard themselves as outsiders no matter what occasion. They met by chance, or rarely in the past. When talking with them, they spoke freely and told the whole story. People who "speak shallow and deeply" will make people feel that they are too shallow and frivolous to make friends.

Avoid excessive enthusiasm when you speak.

The so-called excessive enthusiasm is excessive enthusiasm, which makes the receiver feel a sense of crisis. Once, at my sister's house in rural Henan, I bought a fish in the market. On the way home, a dirty old lady panted after me, with a big mouth with only two yellow teeth and a mouthful of saliva, and told me to put vinegar in the fish. I said thank you. Not far away, the old lady kicked me again and told me to put salt in the fish. I got it by perfunctory. When I was near my sister's house, the old lady caught up with me again and asked me to put chopped green onion in the fish. I snorted impatiently. Unexpectedly, I thought my sister's fish had been put in the kitchen, and the old lady came again and asked me to make fish with coriander. I finally couldn't help it, shouting: get out!

You should avoid talking about it and appreciate yourself.

Some people say that self-expression is the most important factor in human nature. Yes, humans like to show off their normality just as peacocks like to show off their beautiful feathers. But deliberate self-expression will make enthusiasm hypocritical, and naturally it will be done. The final effect is better than not showing it. Many people always express themselves in conversation, whether it is the subject or not.

Once upon a time, I had a subordinate who started talking about himself. In addition to "great achievements", he also talked about how his wife is virtuous and beautiful, how his son is smart and studious, and how his sister-in-law is "full of amorous feelings". Whenever everyone eats together, his talk is more interesting and specific, about his stomach trouble, about his bad breath, and more about his diarrhea. It's hard to say that you are half a tiger and not stupid.

Speak to avoid friends' mistakes.

Some people are our friends, because they have a certain emotional tacit understanding. The shortcomings of friends are certain situations that cannot or need not be made public, some are defects, and some are secrets. Taking the initiative to "sunbathe" friends' mistakes in front of irrelevant people after dinner shows that we are people with defective personality.

Some people often see lice on other people's faces but can't see the "dung beetles" on their own faces. They are always willing to magnify other people's problems. We are all mortal, who can be without fault? It is wrong to say that others are at fault. So we should hide the faults of others, whether for ourselves or for others.

Don't talk frivolous and shallow.

Ignorance is not shallow, speaking layman's words, or insincerely pretending not to understand is shallow. Those who use monotonous words, lack vocabulary, unreasonable sentences and often vomit in white words will undoubtedly feel unhappy if they meet educated and knowledgeable people.

I heard that there was a man named Zhang in a bureau who loved to follow the fashion since he was a child. His name always changes with the times. He once called Zhang Jiefang, Zhang, Zhang, Zhang. After opening up and invigorating, it was renamed Kaizao. Later, a partner said to him, "Let's start. In the future, you should call Wang Ba Lao, which is the most fashionable name. " Zhang asked, "What does this name mean?" The partner said: "This is the significance of the pioneer of Russian reform. Take a Russian name and remember the painful lessons of the drastic changes in Eastern Europe. " Zhang Kaigan readily agreed, and at that time, the name "old bastard calf" was well known to women and children.

In the early days when football was introduced to India, an Indian journalist who knew nothing about football reported after watching the English football match that a leather sewing thing the size of a man's head was rolling around on the grass, and a group of British people soon kicked it. The old man in black is a rogue. He ran around the court, screaming and whistling, but he didn't kick the round thing. In short, these British people are crazy.

Society is a sea of knowledge, and everyone can't be an omnipotent doctor or a knowledgeable person. They should have expertise and profound knowledge, but there is always something worse than others and something they don't understand. We should be modest and prudent, and should not make arbitrary comments.

Avoid vulgarity when you speak.

What is meanness and vulgarity? It is rude and vulgar, and it is not elegant. It is not bold, simple and natural, but an uncivilized behavior, which is a manifestation of low self-cultivation and lack of morality. The language is rude and filthy, full of foul language, bad words and dirty words. It can be traced back to ancestors, neighbors and sisters, and even descendants, and involves both sexes. It is the most impolite language, which causes double pollution to others' vision and hearing. Vulgarity is the pollution of a national language.

To sum up, 360 lines need eloquence. What's talking? Saying the right thing to the right person at the right time is simple. In the whole life of human society, whether a person can speak or not, his achievements and circumstances will certainly be very different. "One sentence makes people laugh, and one sentence makes people jump." Want to be the protagonist in society? Want to be a winner in work and career? Do you want the other person to feel "the spring breeze blows his face" instead of "the language is tasteless" when talking to others? Then learn to speak!