Reply with high emotional intelligence to others’ invitation to dinner

When a friend jokes about inviting you to dinner, a high-EQ reply method includes following the friend's words, questioning the friend's sincerity with the same joke, etc.

1. Follow what my friend says

If a friend makes a joke and says he wants to invite us to dinner, I will usually follow what he says. Accept his invitation first, and then tell him what you want to eat to keep the joke going.

Of course, in the end, we don’t really want to ask our friends to treat us to dinner. This will violate his original intention and leave a bad impression on us.

If someone takes a friend's joke seriously, it will cause embarrassment to the other person. Therefore, when following the other person's words and continuing to chat, we only need to stop in moderation, and there should be an obvious sense of joking in the tone.

2. Question the sincerity of friends with the same joke

Among our many friends, there is a type of very unreliable friends who always like to write some bad checks and use them to For fun. Faced with such jokes, I think everyone was able to accept them the first two times; but as the number of jokes increased, they gradually lost interest.

In this case, you can also use joking words to question his sincerity. Usually they will ask: "Do you really want to treat me to dinner? I am a good eater." Or, "What you said is true or false!" and so on.

Things to note when inviting people to dinner:

1. Make an appointment. Inviting people to dinner must be done at least one day in advance so that you can appear sincere. Never invite someone last minute or even an hour before. In this way, even if someone comes over, they will not accept your favor, but will feel that they are doing you a favor.

2. Sitting. Chinese people still pay great attention to the priority of seating, so you must understand that different seats have different meanings. The Chinese order of seating is "to the left and to the east" and "to face the door is to respect".

3. Order food. Ordering food is an art, so be sure to ask other people if they have any taboos before ordering. In this way, everyone's feelings can be taken into consideration and it will appear to be very educated. If there are people who like spicy food and people who don't like spicy food on a table, then when ordering food, you need to pay more attention to those who can't eat spicy food.

4. Toast. We often have a few drinks with our meals. Sometimes there is a toast, so you should pay attention when toasting. Respect the leader first, and then start with the leader's left or right hand one by one. Don't jump around to respect others, as this will make people very embarrassed.

5. Pay the bill. If it's your treat, be sure to pay for it secretly without anyone else knowing. You must not pay the bill at the counter after everyone has finished your meal, and you must not get drunk and let others pay for you.