People who chat in groups every day must be lonely.

People are social animals, and most people always like to get together to eat, drink and talk about mountains on holidays or weekends.

However, Zhang Ailing said: "My life is full of joy when I have no one to hand over."

Lao Wu deeply agrees with himself. He is always in warm contact with people outside, always keeps a positive attitude and pretends to be an interesting person.

But in fact, he didn't need friends and company for 95% of his life. He doesn't like chatting with anyone alone or inviting friends to play ball games and go to bars, or even attending various forms of family gatherings on holidays.

I have shared a room with Lao Wu for more than a year. Lao Wu is an elite IT man who is very successful in the workplace and seems to be a romantic girl who can ruin a group of girls. I heard that many beautiful women accosted him and proposed deep communication, but they were all frustrated by his circuitous routine.

I wonder, why do you always refuse to fall in love in such a notorious era as single dog? I often make fun of him. There are not many lean men like him who are positive, like telling jokes, laughing at themselves and laughing. Nowadays, being single for a long time will be moldy.

Lao Wu often ha ha took it at this time.

Another sister lives with a man. We are the same age and just single, so we have a good relationship. Everyone built a WeChat group, and the name of the group chat was "Lao Wu's relatives and friends support group". A large part of the reason for choosing this name is that Lao Wu is the most active in the group.

One day, when Lao Wu was about to get off work, he clamored for hot pot in our roommate group. It is rare that everyone has not been very busy at work recently, and they have responded. Lao Wu quickly assigned us a good job in the group, which fully reflected his leadership ability.

Another sister and I are responsible for washing dishes and preparing ingredients, and two boys are responsible for shopping in the supermarket. Soon the table was full. Lao Wu is carrying two bundles of beer, which is very imposing.

After everyone was seated, Lao Wu held up a glass of wine in front of him, just about to say something, and the mobile phone message prompts on the table came and went. We tease him. Teacher Wu is really busy.

Lao Wu gave a wry smile and chatted in the group.

After three rounds of wine and two glasses of beer, the two boys were obviously drunk, blushing and giggling.

After laughing, the atmosphere suddenly became a little subtle. Lao Wu slowly said to the air, "I don't want to laugh often, but I can't cry very much." I often feel bored and indifferent. I don't like eating barbecue with my former competitors in the company, and I don't like drinking red wine. I don't want to wear a suit and tie to deal with unfamiliar people like a robot.

I don't want to waste my time and energy on things I don't like. "

Another girl and I smiled helplessly, laughing at his affectation, but feeling sorry for him.

People who pretend to be gregarious and like to chat in groups are really pitiful.

"I want to live alone in a strange city, find a small house, raise a lazy cat with a broken ear, find a job I like, and the salary is not too much, just enough, and then wait for the girl I will regard as my life to appear."

Lao Wu smiled again, adding a lot of bitterness to his smile.

I don't think he doesn't want to fall in love, but he doesn't want to make do. Sometimes it's cute for people to keep a little cleanliness emotionally. Two people come together not because they "should" love each other, but because they want to love this person. It's perfect.

How many of us are enduring the sequela of "useless socializing" or "coping with love", looking for a sense of existence easily in the crowd, and returning home to meet ourselves is always a huge emptiness.

Another boy said, I like reading books very much, and I also like chatting in the WeChat group of the company or former classmates. Everyone, holding a word, feels that they are part of a group, can make suggestions, can laugh at other people's jokes, and it's very lively.

I have many WeChat groups, and I think I have many friends. Every time my friends come to this city, I will take the initiative to treat them to something special. When I go out to play, these friends will invite me. But whenever I want to go out to play, I turn on my mobile phone and read my address book for a long time. Finally, I can only lock the screen and go out by myself.

As a matter of fact, I don't have any friends who can be justly disturbed. Everyone can talk and laugh in group chat, but they are strangers in private.

Sometimes I can't sleep at night, toss and turn, and open WeChat for a long time. Except for a few group chats, there will be little red dot. I'll find one alone. And I don't know who I can talk to on my own initiative, so I can only finally look through my circle of friends and find a movie to spend a sleepless night.

I've always wondered why others have friends who chat in the middle of the night, and then I figured it out. I've been alone for a long time, and I really want to talk to someone all night. What can I talk about?

After watching Lao Wu, his eyes were red, and the two of them tacitly raised their glasses.

I found that many people are chatting, cooking dinner and going out to play in the WeChat group now, but when they really get together, everyone talks less. Most of them play quietly with their heads down, occasionally raise their heads to talk, smile at each other, and think mobile phones are fun.

Some people seem to be extroverted, but in fact they seldom have too much contact and intersection with others in private. They are good at interpersonal communication and have many familiar and unfamiliar "friends", but most of the time they will be as lonely as dogs.

On the surface, he likes to chat in groups and looks gregarious, but deep down, he likes to be alone. He is not really lonely, but he chose loneliness himself.

Loneliness is the normal state, and it is to refuse "invalid companionship". You can choose to get together with a group of people and have fun, but you prefer to be alone, because you know that low-quality company is not as good as doing what you like alone. Lonely days won't last long. The job you like and the person you like will always appear.

May you have precious years to look back on, and may you have someone you like to grow old together.