Life is the excuse of the weak, and luck is the humility of the strong. Self-discipline is the only way to be confident and self-loving —— Self-discipline

I read the book "Self-discipline" during this period, and share with you my reading experience and the essence of this book.

first, the core idea of this book

? First of all, the main idea of this book is to advocate that each of us should be self-disciplined and control ourselves. "People have more self-discipline and more freedom. The so-called self-discipline is an important principle to solve the pain of life with a positive and active attitude. The initiative includes four aspects: delaying satisfaction, taking responsibility, respecting facts and maintaining balance.

second, what is self-discipline

? The so-called self-discipline is an important principle to solve the pain of life with a positive and active attitude. The initiative includes four aspects: delaying satisfaction, taking responsibility, respecting facts and maintaining balance.

Third, why should we be self-disciplined

? Why does a person think of self-discipline? In this world, not everyone will choose self-discipline. In life, many people are eager for comfort and enjoyment, but this cannot be said to be right or wrong, just a personal choice. The premise of self-discipline is that you have expectations for your future self, and you want to be a better self. Therefore, if you read this article written by me and are very interested, it shows that we are all the same, people who are self-demanding, positive and unwilling to be mediocre. And this book is only suitable for people who have requirements for themselves.

IV. Conditions for self-discipline

? However, some gains will be lost. Stepping into self-discipline is equivalent to living an ascetic life. Just like the Monkey King and others, they embarked on the road of learning from the West. Self-discipline is conditional, but you need to give up, give up those meaningless desires, those vain substances. But the beauty of self-discipline also comes from the income you get in exchange for giving up, and you get a constantly improving and fulfilling life.

5. the significance of self-discipline

? The process of self-discipline may be a bit difficult, but in the end it can bring us many changes, which makes us more peaceful and no longer a slave to emotions; It makes us more focused and know how to improve the efficiency of work; It makes us luckier and makes us understand that the time we spend will eventually be rewarded. We must believe in ourselves in this process. Since I chose a distant place, I only care about the hardships. Be responsible for yourself.

If we choose self-discipline, then we are responsible for ourselves, our work and our lovers and family.

specific explanation

1. How self-disciplined you are, how free you are

? However, self-discipline does not happen overnight. Taking crooked ways can only be said to be cleverness, and the real cleverness is to accumulate step by step and stick to your beliefs. There are two kinds of happiness. One is temporary, and this kind of happiness is easy to get, as long as you satisfy your primitive and primary instinctive desires; When you do this kind of thing, you will feel very relaxed, but such a short-lived happiness will not help you in the future. There is also a long-term, in every moment, need to pay, need to accumulate, slow effect, it takes a long period to show the effect; But once you get it, you will benefit from it for the rest of your life.

? Day after day, we should stick to some fine habits that are extremely slow to get results and extremely bitter to implement. For example: get up early every day, go to bed early, exercise, read books, learn a foreign language, cultivate the same specialty and learn a musical instrument. Kobe gets up at four o'clock every day, Dong Qing reads for an hour before going to bed every day, and many Harvard students and Tsinghua students study until one or two in the morning. Behind a truly outstanding person must be self-discipline like an ascetic monk.

? If you want to have more gains and achievements than most ordinary people, you must do what ordinary people can't do. Start with the subtleties, day after day, every little makes a mickle, and accumulate silently from quantitative change. Looking back a few years later, you will find that the whole person has undergone a qualitative change. Excellence has become your quality imperceptibly, and it has become a spontaneous and unconscious behavior, which will benefit you for life.

If you want to realize yourself and get the life you want, let's start now! Society won't leave too much time for you to grow up slowly, it will only drag everyone along.

There will be some people in life who choose to spend every day quietly and flatly. Of course, this is also a choice in life, but this choice will make the future lack of many possibilities. There will also be some people in life who choose to lead a chaotic life every day, and they seek the happiness of "drinking today and getting drunk today". This way of life, just like we overdraw our credit cards, only it is the future happiness that we overdraw. I think, if you are young, you'd better not be so "Buddhist". It seems to be an excuse to get rid of pessimism, but in essence it is an excuse to escape pressure and difficulties. Choose to spend every day quietly and quietly, or you can, usually the choice of retired elderly people. As a young man who has requirements for himself, it is better to work hard actively. I remember Thoreau, the author of Walden, went to nature to explore life alone, but he didn't just enjoy himself, but he thought something in life. Our Li Ziqi also went to the countryside, and now they spread China culture. In fact, they are also a kind of self-discipline.

? We all hope to have a quiet life, but only if we have the capital to have it. There was a story before, which said that a rich man and a poor man were in the same boat. The poor man said that he was basking in the sun on the boat like the rich man. In fact, their realm was different. The poor man made a living by fishing on the boat. Once there was bad weather, he had to wait, but the rich man could have more choices. Just like this coronavirus, isn't it making a large number of people unemployed? Therefore, people still have to be prepared for danger in times of peace, and let themselves accumulate enough capital in the early stage, so that they can take their time at a dangerous juncture.

2. Change: The weak refuse to change, while the strong are not afraid of turbulence. We should treat life with a positive attitude

? Life doesn't follow someone's wishes. Change may come at any time. When we encounter unhappiness, we may complain, fear and even cry at the top of our lungs, but all this can't stop the change from happening. What we can do is to clear up our emotions, accept everything after this change, and then try our best to find a solution to the problem.

? However, people who actively seek change are a few in life. They can force themselves out of their comfort zone and continue to improve their ability to stay outside their comfort zone. Therefore, if you feel confused, anxious and confused, you might as well make changes. People can't be knocked down by difficulties. Only by overcoming all negative emotions and situations can you grow better. Although this process will make you unhappy, you must believe in yourself and be sure to get better. As the book says: "The weak refuse to change, to risk, but also to the possibility of upgrading and revision. The strong know the meaning of self-discipline and know how to escape from the comfort zone. All the processes of change are necessarily painful, but this is the price of transformation. Change is a short-term pain, and complacency is a long-term pain. Who hasn't bitten his teeth and swallowed blood in his stomach? Only after experiencing all kinds of entanglement and pain can he stand in the middle of thousands of people and enjoy the envious eyes. Jade is not a tool, and you are fearless in carving yourself, so you can live your ideal life. "

3. Self-love: Only self-love can lead to self-discipline

? It is always right for a person to love himself in this world. Our education from childhood tells us to care for others, to understand others, to be selfless and so on, but there is no text that teaches us to love ourselves. In fact, when people are alive, they must first love themselves. To love themselves is to be responsible for themselves and others. Only when you love yourself and take care of yourself first can you take care of others without worrying about you. However, there are too many people in this world who are devoted to others. In order to make others happy, they constantly pay for themselves. Sometimes others are ungrateful and you feel wronged. Such people are pitiful and unwise.

? So how can we love ourselves? First of all, let yourself have a good body. The body is the capital of the revolution. If you stay in the green hills, you are not afraid of running out of firewood. Eat well, sleep well, exercise well, be in a good mood every day, work and rest regularly, and don't stay up late and eat tempting junk food. To be honest, this is a bit difficult, but if you are responsible for yourself and love yourself, you should do it. Don't wait until there is something wrong with your body to learn your lesson. Of course, I know that sometimes it is difficult to keep self-discipline all the time, and I can relax myself for a while, but only once in a while, most of the time, I still have to be self-disciplined and strict with myself.

? When you finally learn to cherish your body, stop doing things that you know are harmful to you, and stop torturing yourself with negative emotions, you will find that your life has entered a new era. Every transformation means that you have abandoned a poor self and taken another step towards a better direction. Only self-love can save people from all darkness, and those who love themselves can maintain their self-discipline Self-disciplined people can have more possibilities and a luckier life.

4. Behind success: Behind happiness and luck is invisible self-discipline

? Life is the excuse of the weak, and luck is the humility of the strong.

? People should believe in themselves, not their fate, and don't make any excuses for their failure. They must believe that they can turn around Gan Kun and achieve their own goals.

5. Know yourself: You must seriously think about what you want

? Sometimes, it is easy for us to understand others, but we don't know ourselves and can't see ourselves clearly. However, the most important thing for people is to know themselves and figure out what they want. We can't always look outward, but also think inward and explore our true hearts, and don't be fooled by the outside world. Many people are in such a daze that they still don't know how to wake up all their lives. By the time they wake up, it's too late, so think about what you really want!

? If you have thought about it, if you have built a huge world in your heart, you'd better realize it now and practice it to the extreme.

? If you want to live a meaningful life, you should do what you want. People who don't know what they want are undoubtedly poor, and passively accepting fate is a very boring way of life.

No one can live for you, only you can decide your life. Those who forcibly interfere with your life choices will not be responsible for your happiness in the second half of your life. They are just used to telling people what to do. Every choice you make, whether the result is good or bad, is directly borne by yourself.

? When you stick to the cause you want to pursue, and burn your bridges for it, and finally achieve something, all the opposing voices will disappear, and even your relatives who opposed you will be proud of you. Your life should not be left to others to decide. The only hero who can change your destiny is yourself.

? If you are an idealist, then you do something you don't like. No matter how good the salary is and the company atmosphere is harmonious, you can't stay there willingly. Instead of wasting time in the entanglement of going and staying, it is better to get rid of it as soon as possible and pursue the career you are really obsessed with. It is difficult for a person who likes tossing to stay in a nursing home-style enterprise for a long time, and a person who longs for stability is not suitable for a company that pursues "wolf culture".

"You can't rely on anyone. In fact, there is no guide, no teacher, no authority. You have to rely on yourself-your relationship with others and the world-and nothing else."

? Each of us is actually lonely in this world. Although we have parents, lovers, children, friends, and many spiritual and material things, you have to understand that these things do not belong to you in essence, and all of them will gradually leave you as you get older. We should not only cherish what we have, but also live our own life and make ourselves meaningful. Don't go with the flow, don't follow the crowd, and keep your own independent thoughts. Although this era is more money-worshipping, money is not the only criterion to measure whether a person is excellent or not. At the same time, there are many prejudices in this world. You must have an independent mind and see the nature of the world clearly. Sometimes it is also happy to live sober and understand. How can I know what I want? That is to talk to yourself more and analyze your heart, what makes you happy and what is most important to you. May each of us live the life we want through hard work. It's not too late.

6. Control your desires: Life is a fish and a bear's paw.

Each of us has desires. Living is a desire. Why does a person live is because he wants to live. Even the monks in the temple, they want to be pure, but also a desire. Desire is normal. If a person doesn't have any desire, he doesn't exist. This is what Shi Tiesheng said. Each of us should have a little desire, and it is good to have desire, which shows that you still have hope for life and attachment. We should be happy for ourselves, but we must not have too much desire. People must not be greedy. When people are greedy, all kinds of bad things will come to you. There are so many corrupt officials and lecherous emperors in history, which is a lesson.

? A variety of desires will make our heads grow bigger. At this time, we should learn to let go. Letting go doesn't mean that we don't pursue the beauty in our hearts, but that we should take our time and realize it dream by dream. These desires cannot go hand in hand, and the effect of going hand in hand is doomed to be unsatisfactory. Arrange a priority timetable for these desires, a suitable and achievable timetable, let go of the heavy pressure in your heart, go into battle easily, and get these beautiful things in a planned and step-by-step manner. Don't worry, you can't eat hot tofu, you are quiet and far-reaching, and you are indifferent to your ambition. This is the truth.

? Avoid arrogance and rashness in success, do not deny yourself in failure, let him gain or lose in success or failure, be modest, be gentle as jade, and be indifferent to ambition. With enough patience, enough forbearance, to achieve an ideal career. Throughout the ages, anyone who can achieve great things has experienced great winds and waves, and he can't hide his emotions.

? Everything depends on human effort, control your unrealistic impulses, control your procrastination, control your diet and exercise, control your negative emotions, and your life can also be hung up.

7. Manage emotions: We should control our emotions

? The ability to control emotions determines the commanding heights that a person can reach. Emotion is the most useless thing in the face of results and goals. In this world where the three views are too diversified, different people will inevitably have conflicts when they work together. It is difficult to judge who is right and who is wrong, who is black and who is white.

? If a person blames all his misfortunes on the outside, then this person is likely to be trapped in misfortune forever. Our weak strength is not enough to make the world listen to us. When you feel that negative energy is bursting at some time in your life.