Be a good person, not a good person.

There used to be a joke on the Internet, "Even if the whole world doesn't like you and me, I don't like you." This is a cruel joke, but even if people all over the world don't like me, even if you don't like me, so what?

But there are also some good people around us who are worried about not being liked. They are afraid that people around them don't like themselves. Even if one person doesn't like himself, the sky will fall. Such people must live very tired. They need to please others everywhere. Even if you don't want to, you still can't refuse, or you don't have the courage to refuse. You are always afraid of offending someone. In this way, day after day, those good people finally live in the eyes of others and have lost themselves.

It doesn't matter if we are not liked by the whole world. We are unique individuals. We should bloom like colorful fireworks. We don't need to please anyone. Only by living your true self can you be liked, respected and recognized.

The Encyclopedia defines a nice guy as an easy-going, kind, gentle person who is unwilling to offend others, will not refuse others and lacks principles. To put it more thoroughly, a good guy is a likable character.

It's embarrassing not to talk to the driver when taking a taxi. No matter what the driver talks about, I will talk to the cooperative driver. When I saw the impatient expression of the salesman when I was shopping in the mall, I felt sorry that the salesman didn't buy anything. I always feel embarrassed and will not refuse. In the end, I still don't respect my feelings and emotions. In order to avoid contradictions, we have to blindly wronged ourselves and please others.

When I was in college, there was a classmate in my class. He is a typical good man. Some students in the dormitory don't go to class, he helps to sign in, some people are too lazy to go out for dinner, he helps to bring meals, some students are too lazy to do homework, some students are too lazy to be on duty, and he helps to clean up. One day, because I went to the driving school to practice driving, I couldn't help another classmate bring lunch. The classmate began to complain about him. "It's just a lunch, it won't be long. You can't help this little favor. Are you still classmates? " However, before that, he helped him bring lunch many times, and he had long been used to it.

You see, flatterers don't actually please. Because your former people were designed to please others everywhere, not to refuse them. Once rejected by a good man like you, it is easier for others to be unhappy than being rejected by ordinary people. They have long taken it for granted that you are easy to talk and get along with and say "good" in everything.

When I was in junior high school, I lived on campus for the first time and started a collective life. I don't take good care of myself. I look like a sloppy student. When I write my homework, I often get my homework dirty because of typos, because this is what my Chinese teacher has taught me many times. I remember that once the Chinese teacher said in front of the whole class that another student "your homework is almost sloppy in Zhao Xiaolong", and the whole class burst into laughter, and I laughed with him. I smiled because I thought I was.

At that time, I was very introverted, I didn't like talking very much, and my grades were not good, so I was not liked by my teachers and classmates, and I didn't have any friends. I feel inferior in my heart, and I hope to gain others' recognition and friendship by pleasing others. Later, I found that the more so, the less respected by others, the less confident I am, and the more worthless I feel. After understanding this, I began to make up my mind to change, strive to improve my grades and take care of myself. I'm not that sloppy student anymore. After getting better, I found that I had friends and found that I had confidence and value.

Good people are actually people with low self-esteem. They always feel that being recognized by others means acknowledging their own value or proving their existence. In fact, everyone's value is determined by some internal things, such as your knowledge, your ability, your ideological understanding and so on. Instead of building your own value by making others happy and being liked by others.

We can be a helpful person, but we can't be a good person who has no principles to please others. Don't say "yes" to other people's demands. If you can't make a decision quickly, give yourself some time to think, and then decide whether to help. Anyway, if you are a good person (I used to be), please try to cure your good person's cancer. We only live well and don't please anyone. This is the greatest respect for ourselves.