Say goodbye to your girlfriend completely. It's so painful! It's a little long, and I can't get in without heart and lungs.

I comfort you 1. The most important comfort is today's heart.

Why lose your present mood for painful regret, and why worry about inexplicable troubles all the time. The past is gone forever, and it's no use regretting. The future is still out of reach, no matter how worried you are, you will be sad. Today's thoughts, today's events, and today's people are all real and feel good. Of course, it is wise to sum up past experience and guard against future risks.

Yesterday has passed, but tomorrow hasn't come yet. Today is real.

Comfort yourself with the second heartache, and you can only heal yourself.

Why do you want to lose your present mood for painful regret? It is also necessary to vent your grievances once in a while. But endless complaining will only increase troubles and let others see their incompetence. Complaining is a fatal negative state of mind. Once one's complaining becomes a bad habit, one's life will be dark, not only one's good mood will be gone, but others will also be unlucky. It's no use complaining, optimism is the most important thing.

The third kind of comforting emotion is self-created.

We often can't change other people's opinions, but only we can. The bad life lies not in the sins of others, but in our bad mood. The golden key to a better life is not in the hands of others. Give up our resentment and sigh, and a better life will be within reach. Subjectively, we want to live a good life, objectively, we have not lived a good life. The reason is that we always want to wait for others to improve our lives.

Don't expect to change others and be the master of your own life.

The fourth comfort is to do what you should do with your heart.

Life is too short to waste. A wise philosopher once said, "when someone scolds me in the street, I won't even look back." I don't want to know this boring person at all! " We should neither hurt others nor be influenced by other people's criticism, but should learn our skills in a down-to-earth manner according to our own wishes. Especially when you are a teenager, you should go all out to learn your skills and don't be distracted.

The fifth comfort: don't always give yourself little shoes.

Learning to appreciate yourself means having the golden key to happiness. Appreciating yourself is not narcissism, xenophobia, narcissism, nor complacency ... give yourself a little confidence, give yourself a little happiness and give yourself a smile. Why worry about unhappy life?

Always give yourself a vacation and learn to find a happy mood.

Sixth comfort: don't chase worldly honor.

Looking for the so-called things recognized by others all your life will always lose your happiness and happiness. Vulgar comments will annihilate your personality, and secular suggestions will leave you at a loss. Money for money will make you disown your six relatives, power for power will make you bold, and fame for name will make you unprepared. In the deliberate pursuit, the real me will become fragments fluttering in the wind, and the secular me will become disgusting. Get kitsch, lose truth, strengthen confidence and own yourself.

The seventh kind of comfort is extremely undesirable.

Some people often worry too much, leading to their mental disorders; Some people are indifferent to everything because they are insensitive. The former often suffers from being unable to find the reason, but dies because of being too smart. The root of stupidity lies in regretting everything. The latter doesn't know what regret is, and lives in a daze all day. There is no difference between life and death.

Going to extremes always fails, looking for the wisdom of life.

The eighth comfort is not to care too much about other people's comments.

There is not a painting that is not evaluated by others, and there is not a person that is not discussed by others. If you are silent, someone will accuse you of being "shrewd"; If you are good at talking, someone will accuse you of "bragging"; If you praise others, someone will accuse you of "ulterior motives"; If you criticize yourself in good faith, some people will be furious and think they are "meddling".

Just look at other people's faces, you can't live, you have yourself, you are not limited to yourself.

The ninth comfort, the more evil thoughts, the deeper the pain.

Why can't you live in peace? The key is not to drive away the demons in time. Because you have evil thoughts, you will not restrain yourself rationally, and you will often do stupid things that you regret. Because the dust of the soul is not cleaned up in time, weak-willed people will fall into deep pools from time to time. Because you are often possessed by ghosts, you will be blinded by stupidity and unconsciously enter the wrong fork.

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If there is evil in your heart, you will be uneasy and you will get rid of evil thoughts.

10 comfort note don't live too tired.

People often sigh that living is really tiring. Tired, it is mental stress; Being tired is a heavy psychological burden. Tired and not tired are always relative. If you want not to be tired, you must learn to relax. Life is to relax. Mental fatigue makes people fall into sub-health state for a long time; A tired heart will make you depressed.

Don't be too tired, learn to release yourself.

No. 1 1 Comfort everyone has their own way of living.

I know my own pain, my own sadness and my own happiness. Maybe the hell in your own eyes is the existence in the eyes of others; Maybe the heaven in your own eyes is the hell in others' eyes. Life is so funny. Don't always doubt that spring scenery is in others, the key lies in the adjustment of your own mentality.

Living well is the most important thing.

No. 12 comfort women who don't want to be.

People always sigh that "moths put out the fire", people always ridicule "fish take the bait" and people always laugh at "falling into the mire", but when you think about it, there are fewer tragedies of this desire around our lives. Those who indulge their souls will eventually lose their true freedom! We must always be on guard against bad desires.

Get rid of bad desires and don't indulge yourself.

13 Comfort means to live easily and happily.

If you don't blindly compare with others, you will be carefree; If you don't set your life goals too high, you will always be happy; If you don't deliberately pursue perfection, you will stay away from pain; If you don't always demand yourself, you will live comfortably; If you don't always find fault, it will be easier.

If you live too tired, you will be miserable and satisfied.

14 Comfort Only when you like yourself will you embrace life.

Blindly arrogant, arrogant, is a proud and ignorant life, blindly giving up on yourself, is a pessimistic and world-weary life. It is more difficult to know yourself than to know others, and it is more difficult to like yourself than to like others. Have a healthy and appropriate self-esteem psychology, and will be particularly strong in the face of setbacks. Don't lose yourself for the temptation of the outside world, and don't deny yourself for a temporary setback. Always evaluate yourself objectively and calmly, and always praise yourself optimistically and to the point.

Can you love others if you don't love yourself? Like yourself.

15 comfort is to look at the world with goodwill.

Clear water makes no fish, while people look at it without friends. The shortcomings of others can't be tolerated everywhere, so everyone becomes "bad guys" and can't live in peace. Look at the world with "evil" eyes, and the world is broken everywhere; Looking at the world with a "good" eye, there is always something lovely in the world. The more you look at other people's merits, the cuter you will look.

All saints should "save myself three times a day" and be tolerant of each other.

Comfort 16 Don't please others blindly.

It is impossible and unnecessary to please everyone. To please everyone is to offend everyone. Deliberately pleasing others will only disgust others. It is natural to be close to others, and the "speculative" mentality should be changed. If you have time to please, it is better to do things in a down-to-earth manner. It is always unreliable to please others, only if you work hard.

If you please others blindly, you will lose yourself. It is important to enrich yourself.

17 comfort is to let nature take its course.

It's no use regretting your previous behavior after uncooked rice is cooked. The only wise thing to do is to deal with the later things properly and not to make things worse. The spilled water can't be collected, and the wood carved into a ship can't be restored to its original state. Knowing these simple truths, we can calmly deal with the remaining problems.

Regret is no good, don't make things worse.

18 the comfort material is poor, but the psychology is not bad.

Material poverty is not terrible, but psychological poverty is terrible. Poverty is often associated with poverty, and poverty is often associated with short-term ambition. Mental poverty, wealth will also become poverty, mental wealth, poverty can also be transformed into wealth. Material poverty and despair will soon destroy a person's body; Self-confidence and self-improvement, although temporary material poverty, but the good days will come soon.

People are not lacking in ambition and constantly strive for self-improvement.

Issue 19 comforted the fortunate in misfortune.

Don't be carried away by temporary gains and losses and indulge in temporary victories. Be prepared for danger in times of peace, and don't be conceited. Being intoxicated with victory means stopping, and being intoxicated with victory means losing vigilance. Never relax on the road of life, victory is just a small signpost. If you want to win the final victory, you just have to work hard, work hard and work hard again.

Don't be fooled by temporary interests. He who laughs last laughs the happiest.

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The twentieth comfort is to live a full life.

Living well every day is the greatest happiness, and happiness comes from being in a good mood every day. Always worried about the risks of tomorrow, always unable to erase the shadow of yesterday, how can today's life be satisfactory, always compared with those who can't compare, always fantasizing about those things that can't be realized, how can today's mind be quiet about anything unrealistic? This is the source of pain, and the biggest killer in life is sadness and anxiety.

Pain comes from not being full. If you live a full life, you won't think about it.

2 1 comfort life should be joyful and moderate.

Appropriate recreational activities can regulate emotions, but endless joy can easily turn into harm. Extreme things will be reversed, and poverty will change. "A happy place is a sick place." "Chess can be idle and easy to be tempted. ..... "Blind carnival is a superficial life, and what you get is often painful regret. Enjoy yourself is a philosophical life. Emotions and sorrows are not limited to entertainment, but involve all aspects of life.

Joy and sorrow go hand in hand, and moderate joy will keep joy company.

The 22 nd comfort may be happier if you change your life.

When you are extremely unhappy at work and feel surrounded by walls everywhere, is it necessary to change the environment? When I am extremely unhappy in my marriage, I always feel that I am an icehouse. Do you have the courage to break through the siege? When you are used to resignation, will you stand up and say "no"? Self-confident people are good at adjusting their living conditions. Excerpted from the short message book. com

Don't be too timid to live, comfort is the spirit of happiness.

23 comfort might as well put aside troubles for the time being.

Life is too short to live happily. It is normal to have troubles, but it is not normal to have no troubles. If you are in a bad mood, you might as well go to a movie, listen to a piece of music, sing a song, make a phone call and enjoy the sunshine …

To hell with your troubles, have fun first.

The 22 nd comfort may be happier if you change your life.

When you are extremely unhappy at work and feel surrounded by walls everywhere, is it necessary to change the environment? When I am extremely unhappy in my marriage, I always feel that I am an icehouse. Do you have the courage to break through the siege? When you are used to resignation, will you stand up and say "no"? Self-confident people are good at adjusting their living conditions. Excerpted from the short message book. com

Don't be too timid to live, comfort is the spirit of happiness.

23 comfort might as well put aside troubles for the time being.

Life is too short to live happily. It is normal to have troubles, but it is not normal to have no troubles. If you are in a bad mood, you might as well go to a movie, listen to a piece of music, sing a song, make a phone call and enjoy the sunshine …

To hell with your troubles, have fun first.

The 24th comfort and pleasure is based on oneself.

Ordinary people always pin their happiness in life on external things and attach themselves to secular identity. All aspects pay attention to status, property, treatment, reputation and other things. Once you lose these things, it will be a heavy blow, you will often feel pain, and your happiness and happiness foundation will be destroyed. If we really live like this, then happiness is far from us.

Why do you want others to evaluate your happiness and grasp yourself?

The 25th consolation is that happiness is happiness.

Many people are deliberately pursuing so-called happiness; Some people get it, but the price is huge. Many philosophers have said that happiness is a feeling, just like the "Buddha" in your heart and mine. The feeling of happiness decreases with the degree of satisfaction, which is closely related to people's mood and mentality. The more difficult it is for a sage to talk about, the deeper he loves and the happiness he has, the more difficult it is to think about. A person always feels unhappy, which is his greatest sorrow.

Happiness is a feeling. If you are not satisfied, you will never be happy.

The 26th comfort "get over it" makes you happy.

"Do the cause of joining the WTO with the spirit of being born", a famous saying that combines the essence of Confucianism, Taoism and Buddhism, makes people more cheerful, open and detached. "hard work" is always associated with the word "crazy", and its main crux lies in entering a dead end. "Get over it" is always associated with the word "wisdom", mainly because it is still taking a step back. Taoism's "retreat for progress" and Laozi's "Tao always does nothing" are really great wisdom in life! Excerpted from the short message book. com

What's hard to think about? There is retreat and progress, and you can bend and stretch.

The 27th consolation trouble is that you can't get along with yourself.

The more worried people are, the more worried they are, and the happier people are. If you only worry about troubles, then troubles still exist objectively and show no signs of decreasing. On the contrary, because of the chain reaction of troubles, your mood becomes heavier and more distressed. If you keep turning bitterness into happiness and change the mentality of "doing one thing and complaining about one thing", you can get your own happiness.

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Time is also wasted in troubles, laughing at life.

The 28th consoled himself and healed his pain.

Don't expect others to cure your pain. Only by convincing yourself can you completely cure your heart disease. Setbacks, mistakes, misfortunes, hardships ... Only in this way can we have a deeper understanding of life and a better understanding of its connotation. Only those who overcome themselves have the power to overcome everything.

Healing the pain of the soul once is equivalent to sublimating the soul once, and the winner is strong.

The twenty-ninth comfort must not despair.

It is a miracle not to get sick for a lifetime, so ordinary diseases are normal. Occasionally I get sick and meet a quack, and I suspect that I have a terminal illness, which is very painful. Illness didn't take my life, but intimidation made me half dead. Be optimistic and cautious about the disease, and never listen to the wind or rain.

People eat whole grains, why don't they get sick? Don't scare yourself, don't sit in the right position.

The 30th consolation in life is always regret.

Shi Zhenlin, a Qing man, said in Essays on Xiqing: "The regret of life is that there is no famous teacher when you are young, no good friend for a long time, no good deeds when you are strong, and no fame when you are old." "Poor poor people, they have suffered from saliva on both sides for the column, and they are proud to be born under their knees." "It's a pity that the rich are embarrassed by righteousness, and the heavy responsibility is defeated by greed." "It's a pity for a wise man to talk empty talk, to show off his arrogance when he is rewarded, and to be impetuous when he is angry." "The pity of a hero is that he got a bad name for helping the murderer, that he lost his reputation when he squandered his wealth, and that he got a bad name when he accepted guests." Excerpted from the short message book. com

Can you check your own regrets? Regret is always inevitable.

3 1 comfort "fondle admiringly" will have a good mood.

If the load of the mind is too heavy, there will be too many troubles. Love what you see and see what you want, can you not worry? Clean up your heart in time and don't let the dust in your heart accumulate too thick. You know, life is too short to get everything. Unfortunately, not everyone understands.

Worry must be given up and go into battle lightly.

The 32nd consolation is to be more rational and less emotional.

You can't do things only by your own feelings, let alone by your own feelings. If you are impulsive, you will get into trouble. Sometimes your perception is wrong, things are not as simple as you think, and appearances are always confusing. Rational work will not be repeated, rational work will not make big mistakes, and rational work will not make you regret. Remember not to be too impulsive in everything!

You can't just follow your feelings, you can think more and not regret it.

Comfort silence for the 33rd time can save a lot of trouble.

The more you talk, the more your stupidity will be exposed. The more you listen, the more your wisdom will grow happily. Listening is a good way to learn from others' strengths and make up for your own shortcomings; Listening is a bridge to communicate and respect each other; Listening is a magic weapon to abandon mistakes and stay away from regrets. Don't think eloquence is your own skill. Maybe you will hurt others' self-esteem if you are not careful, or you may inadvertently plant the seeds of misfortune. Excerpted from the short message book. com

Learning to listen is the greatest wisdom, don't always talk.

The 34th comfort is that only people who trust can communicate with each other with confidence.

You can't deal with hooligans, otherwise, there will be no peace every day. You can't deal with people who are duplicitous, or you should always be on your guard against the danger of being betrayed. You can't deal with people without credit, or you will be in trouble at any time. You can't deal with a mean and fierce person, or he may commit suicide. You can't deal with people who are notorious, or you will always tarnish your reputation.

Not everyone can associate, so be careful when making friends.

The 35th consolation is that it is much more stupid not to love learning.

Smart people are always modest and eager to learn, not ashamed to ask questions, the more the better; Stupid people always show pride, replace their hearts with their mouths and always tell others what to do. Smart people grow up in learning, enjoy life in wisdom, and learn life in life; Stupid people are weak in ignorance, worry about life in clumsiness, and never take the initiative to learn lessons. Excerpted from the short message book. com

Smart people like to learn, listen more and learn more from their seniors.

The thirty-sixth comfort is to think less and think more.

How tired it is to think about people all day! How nice it is to leave some time to think about some problems! How many problems in nature need us to explore? Life is only a few decades. Successful people always focus on their own careers and let the sparks of wisdom shine in their work; People who fail always spend their time on boring "personnel" and are always trapped in the quagmire of "gratitude and resentment". Don't waste time on personnel disputes. You have tried your best, but you have got nothing.

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In personnel disputes, we should be patient and focus on the right path.

Comfort 37 Integrity is the foundation, and trust is the most important.

Honesty is the foundation of being a man and doing things. Some people say that a gentleman raises his heart with sincerity. Some people say that sincerity is not as good as hypocrisy. It is also said that those who are moved by sincerity will stand by and be sincere. Honesty is the crystallization of self-confidence, generosity and strength, and people who are selfless in heart are naturally aboveboard. Honesty is the lowest standard of personality. Honest people can be trusted and entrusted with important tasks. Deception is the biggest enemy of honesty, so we should be alert to all kinds of hypocritical "honesty".

Fake things won't last long, so it's better to be honest.

Treat others with leniency and be strict with yourself.

The charm of personality comes from strict requirements for the law. Only a self-disciplined person can win a good social reputation. Successful people are always tolerant of others and strict with themselves; Losers are always strict with others and tolerant of themselves. Indulge yourself and ask others, which often leads to others' antipathy, thus becoming a loner. If you ask others to do it, you must do it yourself first. Only by thinking about your mistakes behind closed doors can you make continuous progress. Being tolerant of others will certainly bring sincerity and friendship.

Be strict with yourself. Relaxing yourself is harmful to yourself.

The 39th consolation follows the ten principles of interpersonal communication.

Don't always come uninvited and never stop; Don't always bother the bell regardless of time; Don't always give others trouble; Never mention money unless there is an occasional emergency; Don't make any demands on others; Don't look at each other critically; Be tolerant of others and don't ask too much; A little distance, distance produces beauty;

Don't rely on others casually.

We should understand each other and tolerate each other. A hedge between keeps friendship green.

The 40th Comfort Club will get along with others on an equal footing.

Don't despise anyone in particular, and don't respect anyone for no reason. Because they despise each other, they will be belittled in their own eyes and will offend or insult others. Because you respect each other, you will forget each other's shortcomings, you will have the idea of relying too much on each other, and your wisdom will be lost. Excerpted from the short message book. com

It is foolish to look down and look up at others irrationally, and live in harmony on an equal footing.

The fourth comfort1is not complacency, frustration and rudeness.

You must be extra cautious when you are in good times, otherwise it is easy to be happy to the extreme. It is easy to get carried away when life is proud. When you don't know your last name when you get carried away, evil thoughts and deeds will take advantage of it. In adversity, you must be extra patient, or you will die early. When life is frustrated, it is easy to lose your manners. When you lose your manners, you don't know your future, so negativity and despair will take advantage of the gap.

Laugh at the ebb and flow of life and keep your heart.

Remember the forty-second kindness to comfort others.

Short-sighted people are always "ungrateful", begging for help everywhere in times of crisis and never showing up after the job is done. Call names when you ask for help, and run amok when you succeed. Such people are most despised. "Ungrateful" makes friends sad, and "ungrateful" is a sign of quick success. "Ungrateful" can only bring temporary benefits, but it will never be trusted.

Don't kick down the ladder, it will cut your own back.

Comfort 43: Don't overdo it.

You must leave room for your words and don't "die" them. If you don't say anything, there is no room for manoeuvre. Once caught in the "desperate situation" of language, its passivity and embarrassment can be imagined. The art of speaking is to make people feel more and more difficult. Don't overdo it when you are angry. Angry words are actually nonsense, and there will be many regrets after calming down.

Think about it. Don't swear.

The 44th consolation is being good at eliminating misunderstandings.

Reputation is the medium of misunderstanding, and doubt is the soil of misunderstanding. The knot is always there, when can I have a relaxed and happy mood? Once a misunderstanding is formed, we should analyze it correctly and not be narrow-minded and subjective. Seek understanding with honesty and communication with friendship. It is best to communicate face to face.

Don't let misunderstandings get deeper and deeper, be good at resolving them.

The 45th consolation is not to neglect others.

Loneliness is often the product of neglect. Ignoring others is easy to be ignored by others. Don't be arrogant, arrogant and do whatever you want, it will be disgusting. Arrogant people are also easily abandoned by others. Don't deliberately avoid others, and don't deliberately approach others. Everything is natural.

Pay attention to others, appreciate others, and don't be too arrogant.

Article 46 Comfort and respect others.

Respecting others means respecting yourself. Everyone has something to respect. If you are good at discovering the advantages of others, you will respect others. To learn to respect others, we must first learn to change roles. Respect for others is also the lubricant of interpersonal relationships. To disrespect others is to isolate yourself. To respect others, you must be sincere. Respect for others is reflected in words and actions, the latter is more important than the former; Mutual respect makes life full of laughter.

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Respect wins a good reputation, and respect is golden.

The forty-seventh comfort is to take what should be taken and give up what should be given up.

Want everything, often get nothing. People's life is limited, their energy is limited, their environment is different, and their abilities are different, all of which determine the standard of choice. Take it, don't hesitate, go forward bravely; This family has no hidden pain and never regrets. Any behavior of being swayed by considerations of gain and loss can only increase the psychological burden and invisibly increase the stumbling block.

Learn to give up, you can have it better and go into battle lightly.

The forty-eighth comfort is always compassion.

Longing for sympathy is human nature, especially for the weak. Compassion is a virtue, especially for the strong. Sympathize with a person in trouble, extend a friendly and enthusiastic hand, give him selfless help, and pay attention to the skills and methods of sympathy, without damaging the dignity of the other party, and urge him to get out of trouble and stand up again.

Good people are always merciful and do good deeds.

Comfort 49 always reflect on yourself.

To err is human, to err is human, three provinces a day. Thinking about your mistakes often is conducive to making great progress. Often introspection, good at summing up, is conducive to develop strengths and make up for weaknesses. Reflection is beneficial to self-discipline, and reflection promotes maturity. Introspection and remorse are two different things. Introspection is not remorse, but turning over a new leaf.

Reflect on yourself more, belittle others less, reflect more and blame yourself less.

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