Reasons for poor mental endurance

Reasons for poor mental endurance

Reasons for poor mental endurance. In society, we will always encounter people with poor psychological endurance. Almost all of them lack self-confidence and are easily frustrated and unable to recover. Psychological research shows that poor mental endurance is also related to family education. Let’s take a look at the reasons for poor mental endurance! Reasons for poor psychological endurance 1

Psychological closure

When students enter adolescence, they begin to have personal secrets, which is normal. However, some students are affected by various factors and develop into self-isolation, unwilling to interact with others, let alone open their hearts to others. Therefore, when encountering troubles, the psychological endurance is very poor. Corresponding countermeasures:

1. Within one week of new students entering the school, a group heart-to-heart meeting will be held. The head teacher will first introduce himself to relevant experiences (including detours he has taken), personality characteristics, etc., and then let the students introduce themselves one by one to enhance the relationship between teachers and students. , understanding among classmates.

2. Normally, students should be guided not only to get along well with the whole class, but also to have a few close friends. Teachers, especially head teachers, should strive to become trusted mentors and helpful friends of students.

3. Organize and carry out a variety of extracurricular activities in a planned manner, paying special attention to those students who are psychologically closed during the activities, and encourage them to open their hearts.

Too much pressure

Parents expect their children to succeed, and teachers expect too much. Some students feel that they have difficulty in learning and have no hope of further education, so they become worried and lose confidence. Without guidance, it is easy to go to extremes. Corresponding countermeasures:

1. Educate students to establish a correct outlook on life and success, and understand that learning is for development and improvement. As long as you work hard, you will gain and progress. Going to college is not the only way out. It can be applied to any industry. The truth of becoming a talent.

2. The school strictly controls the number of exams and downplays the concept of ranking. Guide students to view academic performance dialectically, first affirm progress, and then identify gaps.

3. Cooperate with parents to reduce student pressure. The determination of student learning goals should be based on the principle of doing according to one's ability. Once students feel their progress, they can gradually increase their mental endurance.

No setbacks

Some students have a smooth journey from primary school to middle school without any setbacks. Encountered occasional setbacks and fell into despair. Corresponding countermeasures:

1. Pay attention to introducing students to the difficult journey before success. If teachers and parents can educate students with personal experience, the effect will be better.

2. You can organize students to discuss certain situations of frustration, such as: if I fail the college entrance examination, if I fail in the competition, etc.

3. Organize students to participate in various social practice activities, let students try and explore during the activities, encourage students to try again after failure, and experience first-hand the worry and joy of experiencing difficulties and setbacks and finally achieving success.

Passive status

Under the long-term management of traditional methods, the vast majority of students have been in a passive position, gradually losing their sense of subjectivity and relying on their parents and teachers. Once they lose dependence, they will At a loss. Corresponding measures:

1. Students' dominant position should be implemented in teaching, changing from "I want to learn" to "I want to learn", "I can learn", and "I can learn well".

2. Class management implements full participation. The generation of class cadres can adopt the method of first self-recommendation and then election, and implement semester changes, with at least one third replaced every semester, so that more students have the opportunity to serve as class cadres. Students can also be allowed to take turns serving as duty monitors in a certain order, thereby promoting the formation of their collective concepts and strengthening the awareness of protagonists.

3. When organizing class activities, strive for universal participation and give every student the opportunity to play a leading role. After students form their dominant position in teaching and management, their psychological endurance can be effectively improved.

Lack of knowledge

The content of students’ in-class learning is relatively simple, and the scope of extracurricular reading is relatively narrow. They have little knowledge on how to adjust psychologically, eliminate worries, and properly handle interpersonal relationships. Quite poor. Corresponding countermeasures:

1. Hold special lectures

Such as lectures on adolescent physiological hygiene knowledge, how to establish good interpersonal relationships, etc., to make up for the shortcomings of classroom teaching.

2. Carry out psychological consultation

Encourage students with specific problems, worries or unspeakable secrets to seek individual guidance.

3. Introduce and recommend relevant books and articles for students to read

For general issues, recommendations can be made to students collectively; for individual situations, recommendations can be made to specific students. Students can also be mobilized to recommend each other. Absorbing nutrients widely from all kinds of excellent books can not only increase your knowledge, but also improve your mental endurance. Reason 2 for poor mental endurance

I saw such a story on the Internet:

A pair of twin brothers coincidentally appeared in the newspaper within two days of each other. The brother reported it because he He was a senator and had made contributions to the country. His younger brother also reported the matter the next day and was sentenced to life imprisonment for murder.

A reporter interviewed his brother: "What contributed to your success today?" The brother said: "My father is a gambler. He often gets drunk and beats people when he comes home." Then, he sighed, Said: "Growing up in this environment, what can I do?" The next unspoken sentence was "I can only change my situation by working hard on my own."

My younger brother was also interviewed. He said innocently: "My father is a gambler. He often gets drunk and beats people when he comes home." Then he also sighed and said: "In this situation, long Big, what can I do?" The next unspoken words were "It's not my fault, it's all because I have such a father."

Growing up in the same family, different thinking patterns determine two different lives.

Since ancient times, people have thought differently, behaved differently, and experienced different things. Therefore, some people will definitely ask why people are different, why some people are smarter or have better conduct, and whether There is something that makes these people always different from others. Regarding this question, the book "Lifelong Growth·Redefining the Successful Mindset" gives us the answer.

"Lifelong Growth: Redefining the Successful Mindset" has been on the Amazon psychology bestseller list for 10 years. It was recommended by Bill Gates and introduced two thinking patterns: fixed thinking and Growth mindset has different impacts on our lives.

The author of "Lifelong Growth: Redefining the Successful Mindset" is Carol Dweck, a researcher in the fields of personality psychology, social psychology and developmental psychology. One of the recognized outstanding scholars, he was the William Ransford Professor of Psychology at Columbia University and is currently the Lewis and Virginia Eaton Professor of Psychology at Stanford University. His representative works include "Self-Theories: How They Influence Motivation, Personality, and develop".

1. Fixed mindset VS growth mindset

Through 20 years of experiments and research, Carol Dweck found that when the problem is simple enough, most people All can be solved, but when the problems gradually become complex, different people will have different thinking patterns when solving complex problems. Some people begin to avoid solving these problems and find excuses to excuse themselves, and some even give up solving these problems directly. , Others believe that difficulties can be overcome, and through study and hard work, problems can always be solved.

She defines the former mindset as a fixed mindset, and the latter as a growth mindset.

Carol Dweck said: "People with a fixed mindset believe that their talents are immutable and are eager to prove their abilities over and over again. If you have average levels of intelligence and character, and If you have an ordinary personality, then you'd better prove that you can reach a normal level in these aspects and not let yourself look or feel inadequate in these basic characteristics."

Just like in the previous story. When my younger brother encounters problems and setbacks, he activates the self-protection mode to look for the reasons outside, shrinks back and gives up, negatively denies himself, and thinks that his failures are caused by others.

Under the same environment, my brother showed great strength and perseverance, and used difficulties as a springboard. This is the growth mindset we need to cultivate and possess.

Carol Dweck said: "People with a growth mindset firmly believe that your basic abilities can be developed through your efforts, even if people have innate talents and aptitudes, interests or temperaments. There are all kinds of differences in aspects, and everyone can change and grow through hard work and personal experience."

When the Wright brothers were running a bicycle shop while developing airplanes, people felt that this was the case. It was impossible, and they even thought it was a joke. Faced with people’s doubts and various difficulties in the development process, the Wright brothers not only did not give up, but also worked tirelessly. In the end, the aircraft was successfully developed and soon became a The fastest means of transportation.

Emerson said: “The most obvious sign of a great and noble person is his tenacity. No matter how much the environment changes, his original intention and hope will still not change. There is no slight change, and eventually obstacles are overcome to achieve the desired goal. ”

2. Is artistic talent a talent?

People's reactions to all things, including opinions and behaviors, are derived from thinking patterns. Different thinking patterns and different beliefs lead to different thoughts and behaviors.

People generally believe that artistic talent is given by God, and only those with this talent are suitable to learn, but Carol Dweck tells us that everyone can draw.

3. Take "Painting with the Right Brain" as an example

The left side is the self-portrait of the students when they first entered the training class, and the right side is their self-portrait after the five-day course< /p>

Looking at the comparison of this painting, it’s a bit incredible. These people don’t seem to have any artistic talent, but they can paint well after just a few days of training.

Facts have proved that some people can do something with a small amount or sporadic training, but it does not mean that others cannot do it after training. As long as they work hard, sometimes they will even do better.

Peking opera performing artist Mei Lanfang learned opera from a famous gentleman when he was 8 years old. The gentleman taught him repeatedly, but he never learned well. Seeing that his progress was slow, the gentleman said that he was not good at it. He didn't want to teach him any more about opera. Before leaving, his husband said to Mei Lanfang: "My ancestor didn't give you this bowl of rice, so there's nothing I can do about it."

The teacher's words were like needles. It also hurt his heart, and he couldn't help but ask himself again and again: "Am I really not good at learning opera?" Mei Lanfang was unwilling to give in, so he made up his mind to learn opera well.

Later, Mei Lanfang entered a theater troupe called "Yunhetang" to study under his tutelage. Mr. Wu of "Yunhetang" had very strict requirements for his disciples, and Mei Lanfang was no exception. .

Once, Mr. Wu taught Mei Lanfang to practice stilts. Mr. Wu moved a bench and placed a brick on it. He asked Mei Lanfang to stand on the brick on stilts more than half a meter long, and asked It took half a stick of incense to stand at a time. At first, Mei Lanfang felt very panicked as soon as she stood at such a high place, and her back and legs ached after standing for a while.

In order to practice excellent kung fu, Mei Lanfang gritted his teeth and persisted, even his legs became swollen when he stood. After practicing for an autumn, Mei Lanfang’s cross-legged skills improved greatly, and Mr. Wu praised him repeatedly. , but Mei Lanfang was not satisfied with this, and tried every means to improve his cross-legged skills.

It is precisely with this kind of perseverance to play strong that Mei Lanfang has laid a solid foundation in Peking Opera performance since childhood and became a famous Peking Opera art master at home and abroad.

Behind every glory, there is unknown hard work. After every wonderful performance, there are people who have paid endless sweat and tears for it.

Carol Dweck proposed: Another special talent possessed by outstanding people is to transform the setbacks in life into future successes.

4. How to praise children for good results

Praising children is a method commonly used by parents in the process of educating their children. Parents hope to give their children lasting self-confidence by praising them. In fact However, in actual practice, this often backfires.

Because parents' casual praise makes children wonder what they have done well and deserve praise. In the long run, what they bring to children is not self-confidence, but arrogance.

For example, if a child gets 100 points in a certain test, instead of giving a thumbs up to praise the child for being smart, the mother should praise him for his hard work and let him understand that if he wants to get good grades, he has to pay something. In this way, children will work harder and be more willing to accept difficult challenges. Children will not become slaves to praise. They will also have a lifelong and effective way to build and repair self-confidence.

The growth mindset is crucial in our study, life, and work. Carol Dweck conducted a survey of 143 creativity researchers about the third key to success. What is an element? Most people agree - the perseverance and perseverance that comes from a growth mindset.

The most worthwhile thing in life is continuous growth. Only by continuous growth can a person have his own life beliefs and life principles, know what he wants, and truly obtain and feel happiness.

In fact, reading a book is the beginning of learning and growth. We can borrow other people’s experiences and wisdom from the book to think about our own affairs. "Lifelong Growth·Redefining the Successful Thinking Model" allows us to understand our own thinking patterns and make conscious adjustments accordingly. On the road of growth, meet a better self.