Parents who teach their children to evade tickets: how to destroy a child with hundreds of dollars.

This is a hot search news two months ago, and the comments are full of ridicule and accusations.

Taking the children by plane, four people bought three tickets, and the parents covered the children without tickets to sneak into the airport. After boarding the plane, the flight attendant discovered the child's behavior of not buying tickets, so the plane that could have taken off on time had to let all passengers get off the plane again for security check, resulting in a delay of five hours.

The Civil Aviation Administration responded that parents mistakenly thought that children under 1.2 meters did not need to buy tickets, and there was no intentional evasion of tickets, which did not constitute a crime.

In the face of this farce, my first thought is that the 4-year-old child was "sheltered" by his parents to evade tickets.

What it's like for a 4-year-old child to be taken out in full view and labeled as a fare evader, looked at with strange eyes by people on the plane, or scolded loudly by people in a hurry.

I can't imagine how much psychological shadow this incident will cause him.

It is not uncommon for children to evade tickets in China.

I have seen many parents whisper to their children to "bend over" and "bend their knees" when buying tickets to measure their height;

Pass the subway ticket gate and hold the child tightly in front of you to pass quickly;

Or when the train ticket inspector comes, quickly hide the child in the toilet and hide under the seat;

Some parents even pretend that they don't know their children and look on coldly when their children are questioned by ticket inspectors. ...

Looking at the child's reluctant expression and listening to the impatient voice of parents urging "hurry up and bow your head", I really don't know how to describe it.

Although they are taught to be "honest and trustworthy" in class, they are led by their parents.

Parents take advantage of petty gain, but how to calculate the loss due to the conflict and distortion of children's inner values?

A family that cares about love and petty advantages cannot do without a broad-minded child.

Read such a news:

Ms. Wei from Wuhan usually likes to be greedy and cheap. She often brings drinks, fruits and stationery from the company home, and often shows off what she brought home today. I didn't expect my 6-year-old daughter to remember these words. Once in her company, her daughter took 100 yuan directly from her colleague's desk.

In the face of Ms. Wei's questioning, her daughter confidently said, "Mom, can't you take something from your office?"

Children's social behavior is mainly accomplished by observing and imitating the behaviors of important people in real life. Parents are the most direct imitation objects in the process of children's growth.

Children will decide their future behavior bias by observing the results of their parents' implementation of this behavior.

In other words, if parents often take advantage of their children and are proud of it, then children will internalize this behavior into their own code of conduct.

Therefore, parents must not take it lightly. Your every move will affect your child's life.

Don't let your child lose the overall situation because of that little advantage.

A family that is always crying poor can easily destroy its children. It is like a pervasive chronic poison, brainwashing children from time to time, and finally leaving them nowhere to escape.

Some parents especially love to cry about their children's poverty when they know that the conditions at home are not bad. They often say: "There is no money at home, only by studying hard can we make money." "You know how difficult it is for us to make money, so save it." "Don't compare with others. Nothing at home is comparable to home. "

These words invisibly give children a strong psychological hint: I am poor, I can't compare with others, and I can't afford to lose.

A group of friends told me that the concept of money instilled in her by her parents since childhood is that all expenses except eating and wearing warm clothes are unnecessary.

Therefore, she is afraid to talk about the toys she wants to play with, the things she wants to buy and the happiness she should have.

At that time, her deskmate had an automatic pencil case, which she was particularly envious of. But I dare not touch it or borrow it from my deskmate. Because she is afraid that she will break it and can't afford to pay for it.

After graduating from junior high school, my classmates made an appointment to go out to play together. She hesitated and talked to her parents over and over again.

As soon as mother heard that she was going out to play, she first scolded her in front of all her relatives and said that she was wasting money. Say that finish, he took out twenty dollars from his pocket and gave it to her. He said, "You can only spend fifteen dollars, and give me the rest. You spent all your money on meat today. "

On that day, she was so anxious that she refused to spend a penny except for the bus fare of two yuan. Besides, I don't want to go out with my classmates anymore.

Feeling guilty about spending money is the most common feeling of parents crying about their children.

Children who grow up in poverty are afraid of eating good food and wearing good clothes. When they see expensive things, they subconsciously tell themselves that they don't like them and choose cheap ones. Even watching a movie is a luxury, and I feel that I am a burden to my family.

I have a classmate who sells breakfast at home. Her parents often say to her, "We only earn a few dollars by standing for half an hour." So every time she spends a dollar, she will fall into deep remorse and feel that her parents have to stand in the cold wind for half an hour.

She always told me that every time she bought something a little more expensive, she would be uneasy for a long time. When you come into contact with people with higher consumption levels, you feel that you are not like them and dare not talk to them.

Also, when I go to the mall, I dare not try on clothes and lipstick. Only by visiting cheap shops will you feel safe. I haven't heard the name of the brand that my colleagues are chatting with, so I can't read it and dare not say it.

Reluctant to travel, never flown; There is no topic to chat with others, and you can't talk.

Gradually, her friends became less and less, her knowledge became more and more shallow, and her heart became more and more inferior.

Poor support is not a problem in itself, but how to support it is a problem.

Real poverty is to let children understand that they have to pay if they want it, and don't lose courage even if they are not rich; It is better to let the child feel the heaviness and bitterness of life prematurely than to cry in his arms, and stifle his feelings and desires for money.

Parents are the best role models for children. When educating children, the first thing parents should do is to regulate their words and deeds. In March last year, a mother scolded her son on the train because he didn't "cooperate" with the fare evasion. What's more, after the train conductor stepped forward to dissuade her, the mother actually pushed her son to the train conductor.

On the T 168 train from Nanchang to Beijing West, the conductor led the conductor into the hard-seat car to check in as usual. In carriage 5, a brightly dressed lady pointed to a boy behind her and said to the conductor, "conductor, my son is only in the first grade of primary school. If he is not too tall, you don't have to buy a ticket." Looking at the boy whose height has obviously exceeded 1 m2, the train conductor said that he needed to see the measurement results, so he took the boy to the measurement place at the door of the carriage for measurement. The results show that children are really super tall and should be given tickets.

"My son, I know, he was not tall when he took off his shoes." After the measurement, the woman threw this sentence. For the woman's question, the train conductor brought a newspaper to the ground, helped the boy take off his shoes, and let him stand on the newspaper and re-measure. The results show that this boy is still super tall. What everyone didn't expect was that after seeing this result, the woman suddenly grabbed the boy's ear and cursed.

Seeing this scene, the train conductor realized that before measuring the height, the woman wanted her son to bend his legs and "pretend to be short" to avoid checking in. As a result, the honest son didn't listen to his mother. Facing the angry woman, the conductor tried to persuade her. Who knows that the angry woman actually pushed her son to the conductor and said, "I have no money." If you want to make up the ticket, you can take the child away. " Then stood up and walked to the door of the carriage alone.

Just when the conductor was in a dilemma, the boy who had been silent took out a red envelope from his pocket and said, "Auntie, I am in the fourth grade this year 1 1. This is my lucky money. I can make up the ticket for myself. " Then take out a hundred-dollar bill from the red envelope and hand it to the conductor. Many passengers gave their thumbs up to the boy's honest practice after seeing it. At this point, the child's mother seemed to realize her gaffes, turned around and came to the conductor and made up a child ticket of 34.5 yuan.

If a child thinks she is a' poor man' from an early age, she will be a' poor man' all her life.

Remember, in "in the name of people", project director Zhao's embezzled money was plastered all over the wall, but he didn't dare to spend a penny. After the fact of corruption was exposed, he only said: our family has been farmers for generations, and we are afraid of poverty!

Children who cry and grow up poor always have a sense of scarcity in their hearts, which is called "scarcity mentality" in psychology, that is, "the more they lack, the more they care."

If the concept of "lack of money" is instilled in children from an early age, children are likely to form a strong "money worship", sincerely feel that money is a good thing, especially eager to make money, especially unwilling to spend money, thus seriously affecting their cognitive judgment.

The most terrible thing about poverty is not material poverty, but the thinking mode of falling into poverty.

Poverty thinking is like a kind of inheritance. Whether children want to inherit it or not, it will be engraved in their lives.

Poor for a while, poor for three generations.