"Ode to Joy": Fan Shengmei's tragedy is not only because of her family, but also because of her outlook on life. What do you think?

When we watched "Ode to Joy", we kept talking about the tragedy that Fan Shengmei (transliteration) suffered because of her hometown family. If she were not from her family of origin, according to her income standards, she should be able to live very well in Shanghai. However, if we study deeply, we will find that Fan Shengmei's main tragedy lies not only in the drag of her family, but also in her wrong understanding of money.

Even with such a family, if she has a down-to-earth attitude, she can live well in Shanghai. In fact, how many of us don’t live like this?

1. I just want to change the status quo by getting married

Fan Shengmei chose to stay in Shanghai after graduation and despised Wang Baichuan , mainly because she wants to marry a rich man. She hopes marriage will save her.

She never wanted to be alone.

In the opening sequence of "Ode to Joy", Fan Shengmei (transliteration) is preparing to go on a blind date. After returning from the blind date, Qiu Shaoqing asked her how she was doing. She said he was a good-looking civil servant, but when she first asked if she could buy a house with him on a mortgage, she turned him down.

She said that if she wanted to, they had plenty of them, and there were even many individual entrepreneurs who were doing very well. But she refused.

Because she wants to marry a rich second generation like Qu Lianjie.

Perhaps because of her family, she wants to marry a rich man so that she can eat and drink and no longer struggle to make ends meet. that's right. What woman doesn't want this?

However, after she has been in Shanghai for ten years and in such a vanity fair, she should wake up. Those rich people, those big bosses, didn't want to marry her at all. They just regarded her as a "vase" and a meal on the table as a "decoration" with a smile.

If she wakes up earlier and finds a down-to-earth person, maybe ten years later, she will be able to establish herself in Shanghai. With careful calculation, she was able to save a sum of money in case her father fell ill.

If you want to change your destiny by getting married, you will only make your life difficult.

2. No specific skills at work

Fan Shengmei’s work ability is actually very strong, but unfortunately she did not improve her work ability to make more money.

I still remember forgetting to turn off the water pipe when doing laundry at night. Water leaked from downstairs and came up angrily. Qiu Yingying and Guan Yu had a dispute, and Guan Yu's brother came to help resolve it.

When Qiu Jin told Fan Wenzhong about this, Fan Wenzhong said that Qiu Jin did the right thing. At that time, An Di had a question in her mind: She used to think that Fan Shengmei was very capable, but why was she wandering in the middle? It was not until that incident happened that she realized that Fan Shengmei was an old employee of the office.

She wanted to say a word of warning, but thought about it again.

What is Fan Shengmei’s problem?

Refuse to take responsibility. In other words, at work, she will use sneaky "smartness" to escape from things.

Or she doesn’t want to work.

She may dream that one day she can marry a rich man, quit her job, be a full-time wife, and enjoy life at home.

But can this fantasy become reality?

I think she can refer to Luo Zijun in the first half of my life.

When Fan Shengmei changed jobs, Qu Xiaoxiao said: "You are very suitable to live in the city center." Later, Fan Shengmei also began to work hard, and her life began a new chapter.

If a person wants to change the status quo, he must insist on cultivating himself. This is the fundamental way to change your destiny.

This money is spent on vanity

Where a man spends his money, that is the life he lives.

Fan Shengmei is really poor. She works hard to make money, but can't afford famous brands. Instead, she could only buy high imitations, which was Qu Xiaoxiao's joke.

But without a family, can she still afford famous brands? Isn’t her family’s ten years of wealth just a house full of clothes and designer bags?

In In another ironic scene, Fan Shengmei, who lives in a rented house, pays for flower arrangement classes because she thinks they will be useful one day.

Wouldn’t it be fun to learn flower arrangement with a group of idle housewives?

If she is more discerning, or really wants to find a rich second generation through this course, then she should Study some MBA and other courses to improve yourself and help her get to know the rich second generation.

In "Shanghai Women's Guide", Haiyan is also learning English because she meets someone nobler than herself.

Only by working hard to improve your own level can you enhance your own structure, optimize your social circle, and satisfy people who truly appreciate you.

Improve yourself, not please others. When you are good enough, charming when you smile, and relaxed when you do things, you will find that it is not difficult to get what you want, and the people you like will be attracted to you unknowingly and take the initiative close to you.

We may not be able to live like Andy all our lives, but we can live with ourselves and live more comfortably. Only by constantly improving yourself can you pull yourself out of the quagmire of your family.

It can be said that Fan Shengmei’s tragedy cannot be entirely attributed to her original family, and she should also bear a large part of the responsibility.