Why don’t today’s children like to visit relatives during the Chinese New Year? It has a lot to do with parents

During the holidays, children are the happiest. Not only do they have all kinds of delicious food, but they also have all kinds of new clothes. The happiest thing is that the children You can get a lot of lucky money.

But as children grow up, they become less and less interested in visiting relatives.

Although times are constantly improving, the love between people has gradually become weaker. In the past, most people lived in the same courtyard, and it was normal to fight and fight. However, nowadays, everyone lives in their own suites and often closes their doors.

Today’s parents only focus on their children’s grades. In order to make their children learn better, they will go to great lengths to enroll their children in various cram schools. And children are tossed between daily school, cram school and home, and they have no time to make friends at all.

It is precisely because children have been focusing on studying for a long time that their interpersonal relationships have not been exercised and their emotional intelligence has not been well exercised, resulting in children who have a shy and introverted personality. When children are in a strange environment, especially when they are asked questions by strangers, they will become more and more disgusted.

Today’s parents like to compare, especially using their children’s academic performance as bragging rights. When children do not do well, parents will scold their children in front of everyone. Some parents will even share their children's embarrassing stories and make everyone laugh in front of everyone.

But little did they know that what the parents thought was a joke actually hurt the child's self-esteem and made the child feel very uncomfortable, so the child was very reluctant to visit relatives.

Visiting relatives during the Chinese New Year is a very festive thing, and it will also strengthen the relationship between many relatives. This is why parents want to take their children to visit relatives.

When visiting relatives, parents will let their children perform in public in order to liven up the atmosphere, and even tell embarrassing stories about their children. Even for the sake of face, parents and relatives tend to compare their children's academic performance and expose their children's shortcomings.

If the child himself is very resistant to visiting relatives, then parents should learn to respect the child instead of being tough or forcing the child.

Some parents want to visit relatives just because they don’t want others to gossip, so they will be very hypocritical in dealing with all kinds of relatives. But when they respond hypocritically and let their children act together, such forced things will bring great psychological discomfort to the children, so the visit with relatives will turn from a happy event to an unhappy one.

If a child is willing to go with his parents to visit relatives, there will inevitably be a lot of jokes during the conversation because the child's communication skills are not very good. Therefore, when children make jokes, parents should take the initiative to help their children smooth things over and teach them how to address relatives.

When a child does not know how to answer when asked by a relative, parents should smooth things over in time so that the child's nervousness and embarrassment can be alleviated to a certain extent. When their children are most embarrassed, parents should stand on their children's side and support them in a timely manner.

Visiting relatives during the Chinese New Year is a very happy thing, so parents should let their children willingly follow them to visit relatives instead of forcing their children to visit relatives. Only when a child truly wants to visit relatives can the child achieve true happiness.