The child is afraid of being teased, which may be Pinocchio syndrome. Parents should not take it seriously.

Generally, children have strong self-esteem and thin skin, and don't like their parents to openly talk about their shortcomings, such as wetting their pants, and get zero points in the exam because they are afraid of being laughed at.

However, many parents in China always enjoy it. The more you are ashamed of your child, the happier you are, and you never take your child's feelings seriously.

I have an uncle of this type. Whenever a family gets together, what parents talk about most is children's affairs. The uncle likes to tell stories about his children, ranging from children fighting with classmates and tearing their clothes to children wearing socks of different colors in the morning.

My uncle's son, that is, my cousin, blushed when he heard this and bowed his head and begged, "Dad, will you stop?" The adults looked at each other, but his father was talking about the excitement, completely ignoring the children's feelings. "I'm full!" My cousin ran out as soon as he put down his chopsticks.

In fact, this phenomenon has appeared in many families. Adults treat children's privacy as a joke, and children's self-esteem is hurt. In the long run, it will easily lead to disharmony between children and parents, and may also lead to Pinocchio syndrome.

When Pinocchio is mentioned, many people may think of Pinocchio, a puppet with a long nose when lying. In fact, this is a psychological term, also called "phobia of being laughed at".

People with this symptom are very worried about being teased, and they will be extremely uneasy and sensitive to possible teasing in social activities. They will observe the surrounding environment and people present, looking for the possibility of being teased and laughed at, and even attribute the laughter they hear to self-mockery without any evidence, and then they will entertain foolish ideas and intensify their emotions.

Psychologists speculate that the reason why these children are afraid of being teased is related to their growing environment, that is, children are often ridiculed, ridiculed and attacked by their families, elders and peers when they are young.

0 1 "vulgar" teasing the baby

Some adults deliberately say something like "If you are naughty, your parents will not want you" when teasing your baby. They felt very proud when they saw their children crying because of fear and fear. This kind of "vulgar teasing" behavior not only has no jokes, but also makes children feel extremely insecure and afraid of the laughter of such elders.

Take the child's defects as talk material.

Children with physical defects will feel particularly inferior, afraid that others will look at them differently and be afraid of being discussed and laughed at. There are also some less obvious defects, such as poor physical coordination, stupid mouth, stupid brain and so on. Parents always talk about their children's problems with everyone. In fact, children are very reluctant to let others know.

Parents attack and laugh at their children.

There are also some parents who like to compare other people's children with their own children and then attack them. In fact, children are already excellent, but they still can't meet their parents' expectations, which will make them feel frustrated and inferior. Ordinary parents' outspoken and sarcastic words will also make children doubt and deny their own value.

0 1 family relationship

Undoubtedly, children are often teased by their parents, and they will feel inferior and sensitive and unwilling to be close to their parents. After entering adolescence, children are more rebellious to their parents. Once parents talk about themselves to outsiders, they will lose their temper, run away, smash things and so on. The psychological damage suffered by children is indelible. Over time, the parent-child relationship is cold and distant.

02 interpersonal communication

For such children, laughter does not mean happiness, but ridicule and degeneration. It is difficult for them to distinguish malicious jokes from well-meaning taunts, and they are also very sensitive and extreme to well-meaning jokes. And because they are afraid of being teased, they prefer to be alone, and they don't like social activities and interpersonal communication. Over time, they became withdrawn and eccentric.

Children with "fear of being laughed at" either lack humor cells or can't make jokes. They are actually eager for warmth and acceptance. Therefore, parents should give their children good protection and play jokes on them carefully.

0 1 Parents should create a warm family environment.

Parents should realize how much harm their "jokes" will do to their children, refuse "vulgar teasing" and don't joke about their children's privacy or defects. They should empathize and respect their feelings. Parents should create a warm family environment and provide their children with a sense of security with love, encouragement and tolerance.

Comfort the child when he is teased.

If the child is teased by other elders or friends, parents should comfort the child in time and heal the child's heart with warmth. At the same time, parents should also cultivate their children's psychological endurance, don't care too much about what others say, cultivate their children's "diamond heart", and don't be "blx" because of a joke or two.

There is a saying: only when the party who is being joked feels funny can it be called a "good joke". Parents should not only know how to play jokes on their children, but also teach their children not to play jokes on others casually, and should know how to put themselves in others' shoes. If they are teased, will they feel offended and disrespected? Respecting each other means respecting yourself.

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