Talk about work, treat your colleague sincerely with your friends, and how did he treat you?

Is it necessary for me to strive for such friendship? What is the best way to deal with it?

Q:

Recently, I don't know how to deal with one thing. I hit it off with my new colleague. I often chat with each other, complaining about my dissatisfaction with the company, talking about my life, and occasionally shopping for dinner. Slowly, I treat her as a friend and talk about everything.

It wasn't long before she became close to another new colleague. I obviously felt left out. She knew that I didn't like that new colleague very much, which made me jealous. I thought I was too sensitive.

I understand that she doesn't really treat me as a friend. I reflected on whether I had too many negative emotions, or whether something made her unhappy before alienating me, but I didn't treat her as an emotional trash can, but I really treated her as a friend, and she knew it.

On the whole, she is a nice person, smart and good-natured, but some of her actions make me feel uncomfortable, but when she says it, she is so melodramatic that people don't care about your feelings and thoughts at all.

A:

(1) It's irrational to be friends with a new colleague, and it's even more foolish to share her dissatisfaction with the company. No new colleague would like it.

(2) People come to a new company with expectations and sincerity. On the one hand, you don't solve your own problems, on the other hand, you are saying that her choice is wrong. No one wants to stay with someone who is always negative. It is normal for her to stay away from you. Don't treat people with sincerity without saying anything, but look at what you say.

(3) Don't think about whether you should strive for friendship. It is more practical to think about how to adjust your mentality. When you become a positive and optimistic person who can bring positive energy to others, you don't have to strive for it, and friends will approach you on your own initiative.

Q:

I am 29 years old, and I met my current girlfriend by chance. She is 21 years old. We have been talking for 9 months, but now I feel more and more inappropriate.

She is too young to be financially independent, mainly because I spend money on clothes, shoes and food for her. She may not be able to stay here in the future, and her parents are at a lower level, driving a cart and cleaning. My parents are professors, so my parents don't agree, and their family's economic conditions are much worse than ours.

Maybe I'm selfish. Considering comprehensively, this girl may not be suitable for me, but she gave me her first time and was very loyal to me. What should I do? Very tangled.

A:

(1) To put it bluntly, you are struggling to break up and be a good person? This is probably your consistent attitude. In the early days of knowing this girl, you should have this understanding: she may need you to spend more money when she is young (think that you may not be much better than her when you are 21 years old); Family background is not as good as yours

As a 29-year-old, I knew these things at the beginning of love, but you didn't think it was a problem, because this girl is young, simple, kind and heartless compared with girls of the same age, and will not consider your conditions or evaluate your maturity. You enjoy her youth and beauty, and feel stale when you get it, so you want to break up after comprehensive consideration.

(2) Selfishness means selfishness. Don't talk about the level of parents. If you really think that the level of parents is too low to match your family, please admit that you are duplicitous. You chose the daughter of such a low-level parent's family voluntarily, and no one is much better than anyone else.

(3) As far as your current state is concerned, please make a happy choice, put away all these inappropriateness regardless, and manage your feelings well. If you want to divide, please make appropriate compensation to the girl according to your conscience. If you get along in such an unequal position, you will not respect her. At the same time, we must also admit that we are a scum in this matter, which is no big deal. Everyone is timid and irresponsible. It is better to recognize ourselves before making more mistakes than to harm both of them in the future.

Q:

There is a problem that has been bothering me for many years. From the beginning of college until now, I always do things badly and learn things slowly, and I always can't understand what others tell me, and I understand it slowly. I have tried many ways to solve this problem, but it just doesn't work.

sometimes I am in a hurry and have extreme ideas about such a situation. Why can't I do the same thing when others can understand it immediately? For a long time, I have no confidence in what I do. Sometimes I think I am a burden to my parents. I also want to do well. I also want to work hard. I have been like this for a year.

I always feel that I am inferior to others, and I didn't believe it before, but it turns out that I am inferior to others. What should I do?

A:

It turns out that you are just inferior to others, so accept this. Being slower than others does not mean not understanding. Just practice more in slow places. Don't use your ideas to understand problems, and solve them. Communicate with different people and see how others think.

Do this exercise every day: You think today is the most worthwhile problem to learn. Try to list 35 different solutions or methods, and keep records every day. After one month, you will find the difference. Inspirational talk about work: what the boss tells you will always be beneficial to him

1. For the boss, what they value first is personal interests, followed by factional interests, and the interests of subordinates who are not within their own faction will never be considered by the boss.

2. When a person encounters a situation where he doesn't know when to offend others, it is that he used to talk nonsense and do things blindly, and finally harmed the interests of others.

3. You have been praised for decades. In the end, all your colleagues become your bosses and the people who praise you. Then you will understand that you are a real loser.

4. If you are dissatisfied with the company, you should secretly look for a new position, but before you find it, you must never show any emotion. You should work harder than ever and seize all resources.

5. sacred work in everyone's daily affairs, the ideal future lies in doing it bit by bit.

6. There is nothing with real value in the world that can be obtained without hard work.

7. It is the laborer who uses his hands, the helmsman who uses his hands and his mind, the artist who uses his hands, his mind and his heart, and the salesman who cooperates with his hands, his mind and his feet.

8. The three major problems of losers are servility, inertia and shirking responsibility. I don't think independently, and I listen to my boss for servility. The boss stirs you to move. I don't know what to do on my own initiative. It's inertia. If you don't mix up, blame your boss, blame the workplace and blame the society, in order to shirk responsibility.

9. We learn to think in the process of our labor. As a result of our labor, we know the mystery of the world, so we really change our lives.

1. The more setbacks in life, the more insights in life; One more fall in life, one more experience of struggle.

11. Action is a good medicine to cure fear, while hesitation and procrastination will constantly nourish fear.

12, the choice, only this way, the other is a dead end. Such self-confidence can't be cultivated overnight. You must not expect those children around the age of fifteen. Before you get this belief, you have to suffer from grief and shed tears. But this is good, it should be like this ...

13. Belief does not necessarily lead to success, and without faith, it will definitely fail.

14. No matter how long the road is, you can walk it step by step. No matter how short the road is, you can't reach it without taking your feet.

15. I know what labor is: labor is the source of all joy and all good things in the world.

16. The quickest and surest way to conquer fear and build self-confidence is to do what you are afraid of until you gain a successful experience.

17. It is necessary to have a heart-to-heart talk with the boss occasionally, but it should be targeted.

18. No boss will be kind enough to give tangible benefits to honest people. Inspirational about work: what the boss tells you will always be beneficial to him

1. For the boss, what they value first is personal interests, followed by factional interests, which are not the interests of subordinates within their own faction, and will never be considered by the boss.

2. When a person encounters a situation where he doesn't know when to offend others, it is that he used to talk nonsense and do things blindly, and finally harmed the interests of others.

3. You have been praised for decades. In the end, all your colleagues become your bosses and the people who praise you. Then you will understand that you are a real loser.

4. If you are dissatisfied with the company, you should secretly look for a new position, but before you find it, you must never show any emotion. You should work harder than ever and seize all resources.

5. sacred work in everyone's daily affairs, the ideal future lies in doing it bit by bit.

6. There is nothing with real value in the world that can be obtained without hard work.

7. It is the laborer who uses his hands, the helmsman who uses his hands and his mind, the artist who uses his hands, his mind and his heart, and the salesman who cooperates with his hands, his mind and his feet.

8. The three major problems of losers are servility, inertia and shirking responsibility. I don't think independently, and I listen to my boss for servility. The boss stirs you to move. I don't know what to do on my own initiative. It's inertia. If you don't mix up, blame your boss, blame the workplace and blame the society, in order to shirk responsibility.

9. We learn to think in the process of our labor. As a result of our labor, we know the mystery of the world, so we really change our lives.

1. The more setbacks in life, the more insights in life; One more fall in life, one more experience of struggle.

11. Action is a good medicine to cure fear, while hesitation and procrastination will constantly nourish fear.

12, the choice, only this way, the other is a dead end. Such self-confidence can't be cultivated overnight. You must not expect those children around the age of fifteen. Before you get this belief, you have to suffer from grief and shed tears. But this is good, it should be like this.

13. Belief does not necessarily lead to success, and failure without faith will definitely lead to failure.

14. No matter how long the road is, you can walk it step by step. No matter how short the road is, you can't reach it without taking your feet.

15. I know what labor is: labor is the source of all joy and all good things in the world.

16. The quickest and surest way to conquer fear and build self-confidence is to do what you are afraid of until you gain a successful experience.

17. It is necessary to have a heart-to-heart talk with the boss occasionally, but it should be targeted.

18. No boss will be kind enough to give tangible benefits to honest people. What is a true friend's sentence

Laziness and poverty are always humiliating, so everyone will try their best to hide their property from others and their laziness from themselves.

The chaste autumn has quietly passed away. The changeable sky is always the sky, and the unchangeable friendship is always the friendship. May the faint chill gently touch your life's fatigue, and the rustling winter wind convey my heartfelt concern: keep warm in cold weather!

Thank you for coming into my life and playing the role of a friend. Maybe you are not the only best, but you are the best in my life!

Time can erase our memories, but it can't erase our footprints and my thoughts about you. Time can win our lives, but it can't win the laughter and my blessing to you!

true friendship depends on nothing. It doesn't depend on career fortunes and status, and it doesn't depend on experience orientation and situation. In nature, it rejects utility, ownership and contract, and it is the mutual echo and confirmation between independent personalities. It makes people alone and not alone, and interprets the meaning of their own existence. Therefore, the so-called friends are just those who make each other live more comfortable.

Friendship is not a bunch of flowery words, but a warm greeting; Friendship is not a perfunctory hug, but a knowing look.

Friendship, a noble and beautiful friendship based on mutual respect, deep sympathy, never malicious envy of others' achievements, and cultivate a sense of collective interests above all else.

I miss you like rain. At every moment when I miss you, your name lingers around my heart and is easily bound by you. No struggle, no change, just want to feel a love beyond the soul with you quietly, even if it is only fantasy, I will play the protagonist happily. I won't cry, because the tears are full of your name. I will cherish it and care for it with the love of my life! Miss like rain, at every moment of loving you!

the lake is surrounded by continuous peaks. The lake is green and crystal clear. When there is no wind, the level is like a mirror, white clouds and green mountain shadows are reflected on the lake, and the mountains and waters are in harmony. Fish, large and small, shuttle through the water, as if swimming between mountains and white clouds, making people feel like they are in a fairyland.

A happy mood is a gift from God, so always be happy. Don't let the cool breeze blow your mood and blow away your happiness. Remember to wear more clothes in late autumn and smile happily.

My blessing relieves your worries, my prayers open your peace, my greetings connect your happiness, my thoughts keep your wishes, and I inject a fountain of luck into you every day. May your boat of happiness sail every day. Miss you.

It is true that life is plain, and it is bliss to live and work in peace and contentment. Tonight, we will be happier with your blessing and greetings. Let you and I cheer together and shout together for tonight: Welcome the Spring Festival, everyone is happy, and it is really happy!

It's hard to find a bosom friend in life. As the saying goes, a friend is easy to get, but a bosom friend is hard to find.

Sincere affection, my friend, listen to my noise, comfort my depression, relieve my heart, freeze the ice and cool the scenery, raise a glass to friends, and be intoxicated for three times, which is the same as the sound, but also rich in poverty.

A true friend doesn't need you to say anything grandiose. One look is enough to heal any wound in your heart; A high five is enough to condense any joy; A smile is enough to resolve any misunderstanding.

A happy mood is a gift from God, so always be happy. Don't let the cool breeze blow your mood and blow away your happiness. Remember to wear more clothes in late autumn and smile happily.

The continuation of friendship comes from the heart. No matter how many connections there are, as long as there is a sky in each other's heart, an occasional greeting will bring a knowing smile.

Let the troubles go away with the wind, let the drizzle wash away the fatigue of the day, smell the flowers and listen to the birds, and your mood will settle at this moment, learn to find peace and be good at straightening out your mood.