How to treat people, when you are down and out, don't pretend to be poor?

Pretending to be poor will only make people more disgusted, look down on it, and see no hope of this person turning over, which will make people feel that he is down and out.

A person's maturity and success depend not only on the height he stands at the top of the mountain, but also on his resilience when he falls to the bottom. If you plan to beg after failure, you can pretend to be poor, otherwise it is worthless!

When people are down and out, there is only one way to turn over, driven by everyone's contempt and ridicule. People look down on you and think you are worthless. Your flattery will only prove them right!

Being miserable and loveless all day long seriously affects people's mood. As we saw in the intensive care unit, it was dignified and depressing. Who likes this atmosphere? Similarly, who likes to feel your failure all day? Does such a person deserve to be looked up to? Is such a person qualified to have friends and love? People have no responsibility or obligation to bear your negative emotions.

People will sympathize with beggars, but they will not be willing to marry them. Because everyone yearns for positive, sunny and energetic positive energy. So a person's state is very important!

The reason why people suffer great failure is that it shakes the foundation of life and hits people's confidence in the meaning of life, thus causing the soul to fall into great pain. However, no one has the responsibility and obligation to take it for you, and it is useless and meaningless to turn it over.

Therefore, if a person wants to turn over after being down and out, he first needs to dare to face up to and face his own failure and accept that his previous success is worthless today. Dare to face up to your "weakness" is the beginning of "strength", and clinging to past success as the only sense of superiority will only make you more and more unbearable.

You should resolutely give up what you are most afraid of losing at present, and cling to what you don't want to let go. Those things are just a burden and will tie your hands and feet. Don't think highly of yourself just because you have succeeded, but accept the fact that you have nothing.

If you have bid farewell to your youth, are no longer young, and are no longer at the peak of your physical function, then don't fight against setbacks by fighting your body, which is often not worth the candle.

Fully face up to your current situation, reposition yourself with your own advantages and accumulated experience for many years, and find out your competitiveness.

1 What can I do now?

What do you have that many people don't have?

Why is it better to choose you than others for the same thing?

Remember, there is only one downhill road at the top, but at the bottom, all directions are upward.

Come on, I have been down and out, I can stand up, so can you!

If you turn yourself into a donkey, don't complain about others riding you. Few people can help you when people are down and out. Because most people are snobs, it's good not to fall down when you are down and out. Don't expect others to help you, everything depends on yourself.

The wall was knocked down by everyone and the drum was smashed by everyone! If you don't get in the way, ask for more happiness. Most people will come out when you are about to succeed, and then a bunch of people will come out to accommodate them. Obviously there is no credit, but there is always such a group of people to share the fruits of your victory. When you are strong, you will find good people around you. Because they dare not bully you, despise you, even a group of people who compliment you. Because they all bow to the strong and pour water on the weak.

Don't lose your ambition when you are down and out. You must stand up and don't let others see your jokes. Stay away from people who are right and wrong, and make more friends with people who are positive. It's no use pretending to be poor. No one will sympathize with you. The more down and out, the more unfair it is. Because in the real world, you have money, others hate you, you have no money, and others laugh at you. Only when you are strong can you feel true fairness.

Tell me about my unforgettable experience. From the day when the company went bankrupt in 14, I was burdened with more than 30 million debts, and faced with the pressure of creditors every day, but there was no way to solve this urgent need. Among many creditors, an old lady named Shen Yi did the most.

Aunt Shen is an investor introduced by a friend. When my business was in full swing, the old man put 6,543.8+0,000 yuan of demolition money in our company. Dividend 30 thousand to the elderly every quarter. In fact, this money is also invested in the wrong way. At that time, because the previous payment was not settled, I was in a hurry. It happened that the arrival of Shen Yi at this time solved my urgent need. When I settled the payment and prepared to return Shen Yi's money and interest, Shen Yi offered to invest the money in my company. In this way, Shen Yi's money has been put in the company for five years, and the dividend of 30,000 yuan per quarter has never been less than that of Shen Yi.

When the wind is downwind, everyone lives in harmony. Aunt Shen earns a lot of money from me. Every important festival, she also carries a lot of things to give me gifts. However, after the company declared bankruptcy, Shen Yi was completely different from before. She sits in my office every day and accuses me, exaggerating the facts with other creditors. I am criticized by them every day like a counter-revolutionary. No one can stand this environment. In desperation, I simply don't even go to the company and stay at home every day. A few days later, Shen Yi came to me with several creditors. When I opened the door, Shen Yi shouted at my face with a piece of red paper covered with inkpad. Although I dodged in time, my face was still covered with red mud. But I have completely lost my spirit, just scraping my face with my hands and sighing. Several people rushed to the door and sat opposite the sofa.

Aunt Shen said strangely that life is not bad, so it seems that she left a successful career.

I was speechless, just sitting on the edge with my head down.

Seeing that I was silent, she continued: Can you hide from monks and temples? You don't want to acquiesce and tell you that I have lived most of my life and met nothing. It's natural to pay back debts, so don't pretend to be noble here.

I said confusedly, Shen Yi, I really have no money now. I swear on my personality.

Before I could continue, Aunt Shen interrupted me: Personality? How many of you have personalities in business? Greedy, snobs! We ordinary people earn some hard-earned money, and you cheat us to squander it! Stop pretending to be pathetic here! I can't help it Get the money!

People around me echoed Shen Yi's voice, and I was overwhelmed by their momentum, holding my head in my hands and saying nothing. In fact, it is useless for me to say anything at this time unless I pat the money on the table. But at that time, I was penniless. How could I compete with others?

Shen Yi beside her is getting more and more excited, and has been completely immersed in her passionate speeches with climaxes. If you are tired, take out your cup and break it. After a few sips of water, he continued his impassioned speech. My ears are full of her endless voice, thinking that you should accept the avatar quickly, which annoys me.

The reason why Shen Yi dared to come to my house to make trouble was confident. Because she knows that there are tens of thousands of tons of goods in my yard that can be processed and have not been seized. So the purpose of her coming here is not to get the money, and to take the goods to pay off the debts. However, those goods are my last hope. After hearing her ultimatum, my spirit has completely collapsed.

I said to Aunt Shen in tears, can you stop selling goods for a while? That's my last hope. Where can you pull these things? Please be merciful, as long as the goods can go out, you guys will take a penny. Okay？

Aunt Shen snorted after hearing my defense, and sneered slightly: liar, do you think I will be fooled by you? Hurry up or pay. Or pull the goods

There is nothing I can do, but my heart is burning with anger. Suddenly I yelled at them to get out, and Shen Yi was startled by my sudden voice. She looked at me with anger, and her eyes seemed to flash with timidity. Shen Yi paused for a moment, then threw out a sentence: I'll give you a week to pay back the money, so I'll see you in court. Then he swaggered away with a few people.

Looking at my messy home, I fell into despair. The bank closed my company account. Although the goods have not been seized for the time being, they must take the next step after evaluating the assets, and they have clearly told me that the goods cannot be moved before the results come out. Otherwise, you will bear legal responsibility.

A week later, Shen Yi called me, but I didn't have the courage to answer it because I didn't know what to say. After several consecutive missed calls, Shen Yi sent a three-word message "See you in court". Not long after, the summons arrived as promised. I had a long debate with Shen Yi and others in court, but the fact that I owe money is unshakable. My purpose is to show that I am unable to repay it now. After I took out all the asset declarations and capital flows, the court supported my present situation, but Shen Yi and others asked the court to detain me and put me on the list of untrustworthy people. Because the facts are conclusive, although I was not detained, my name has remained on the blacklist ever since.

For more than two years, I have been confused and live a life that is worse than death every day. Aunt Shen often calls me and asks me when I will pay back the money. And I just begged for perfunctory words, and I didn't get even a little understanding from Shen Yi. Of course, without income, you can't pay your debts, so Shen Yi is even more flustered.

Later, with the encouragement of my family, I slowly walked out of the shadows. When I regained my courage to face life, my first thought was Shen Yi. For the first time in three years, I called Shen Yi and invited her home. After hearing my voice, Shen Yi was silent for a while and agreed to my request.

Like three years ago, Shen Yi was sitting in the center of the sofa, while I was still sitting on the edge. The difference is that I lost my former decadence and loneliness, replaced by positive sunshine and gentle and powerful words. Shen Yi narrowed his eyes carefully and looked at me. For the first time, a long-lost smile appeared on his face.

I took out 10 thousand yuan from my pocket and put it on the table. I said, Aunt Shen, from now on, I will pay you more every month. I give more if I earn more, and give less if I earn less. But I promise you, it won't happen.

Aunt Shen looked at the money on the table and sighed. Do you know why I didn't call you later?

I shook my head.

She continued: because I can see that you really have no money. I really have no money. Why should I force you? If I force you to death, won't my money be more uncertain?

I nodded.

Shen Yi looked at the money on the table and then at me. I used to push you so hard because I didn't see any hope for you. Your performance disappointed me. To tell the truth, I have made a lot of money from you, but my principal is still there, even if you give me a time and give me a few words of hope. I wouldn't even force you to come this far. But what did you do besides pretending to be pathetic? Today, my mother and I untied the knot. I'll take half of the 10 thousand The rest can be returned to others.

After that, I counted out half of it and put it in my bag, and then continued to say to me seriously: Son, I am not that kind of ruffian rogue. You did it, which made me think you couldn't do it. Don't blame your aunt. I am not short of money now, but I am short of your gift. Today, you returned the gift to me. You are not a stingy person. If you have it in the future, give it, and if you don't, say it. But you'd better not lie to me

To tell the truth, I was moved by Shen Yi's phone call. I mistakenly thought she was just an ordinary old lady. In fact, her heart is as transparent as a mirror. If I had raised hope and taken practical action, it might not have happened. And this phone call woke me up like a pot of cold water, which became the key to establish communication with all my creditors.

Since then, I have never been depressed or depressed. Because I know that no matter how hard it is, I will go on. Only if I don't give up can I gain others' understanding and give them hope. As I said before, now you live not only for yourself, but also for those who want you to come back to life.