The "naughty child" cried and rolled in the street, and the post-90s mother calmly played with her mobile phone, and netizens also praised her

Do you still remember how you got into trouble with your parents over toys when you were a child? To say that this is still a technical job, it pays attention to the right time, place and people. This should never be done when only parents are present. There are toys and they must be beaten. If relatives, friends and outsiders are present, parents will usually give in for the sake of face.

But when those born in the 1990s who have played this trick also become parents, what will happen if they do the same thing to their children?

Recently, a netizen in Xiamen, Fujian Province shared a video of parents born in the 1990s VS naughty children, which aroused heated discussion among netizens. It can be seen from the video that the location is probably at a subway station. A child is rolling around on the floor next to the beverage vending counter and crying loudly. People were coming and going in the station, attracted by the cries of the children.

Turning around, I saw the child’s mother standing beside her calmly. After waiting for a long time, she even started playing with her mobile phone, letting her child act out, just to see who was embarrassed.

Netizens commented after seeing this: "Children, get up, these are all leftovers from your parents' play", "Mom: cry, cry, I will buy you a Golden Throat lozenge later", " This is a standard and scientific method to let children understand that crying is useless. Once corrected, it will benefit them for life."

Although it is a joke to say that parents play the rest, but it is true that if the child cries and the parents give in, then one is equal to the other, and the child will understand how to grasp the parents' weaknesses in the future. When you achieve your goal, you are truly a "naughty kid" worthy of the name.

Therefore, children are not born with bad tempers. They like to lose their temper and act out. Looking at it from another perspective, it is actually because of the unconditional love of their parents.

So, what should parents do to help their children control bad tempers and cultivate good tempers?

Adults know different emotions and react differently, but children actually do not understand the differences between different emotions. Sometimes children lose their temper not necessarily because of anger, but because of loss, frustration, or sadness. However, children do not know how to express their emotions, and in the end they can only choose a relatively simple way to vent their temper.

Parents can usually use their own emotions to teach their children to distinguish between different emotions and behaviors, and to distinguish between emotions and behaviors. Simply put, it means letting children know: It is normal to have emotions, but to lose your temper and hit others. It's just not right.

There is no rule without rules. Parents usually set some behavioral rules for their children at home, such as: going to bed early and getting up early, not watching cartoons during meals, etc. But in fact, emotions can also have rules. Make it clear that children know that it is normal to have different emotions and that it is normal to be angry, but behaviors such as throwing things and hitting people when angry are not allowed.

The rules are clear, and children are strictly disciplined according to the rules. However, parents must first set a good example and do not punish their children excessively when they lose their temper, nor do they indulge their children.

Emotions are sometimes contagious. When a child starts acting up, crying and making a fuss, many parents will yell at the child and try to drown out the child. In fact, at this time, parents need to stay calm. Only by staying calm can the problem be solved better.

Parents can adopt appropriate cold treatment, just like the post-90s mother in front, don’t be afraid of embarrassment and leave their children alone. On the one hand, it can help children relieve their emotions, and on the other hand, it can also let children know that their parents will not compromise because of their crying. It can also help children understand that losing their temper will not solve any problems. They can only calm down and communicate with their parents. And on this matter, the whole family must unite the front to avoid the mother's cold treatment and the grandmother coming out to comfort the child immediately.

After the child calms down a little, parents can first calm the child's emotions, and then communicate with the child to find out the reason for the child's tantrum. Don't take it for granted, what do you think of your child? Only by finding the root of the problem can you truly solve the problem. After asking for the reason, parents can appropriately divert the child's attention away from the point of anger. Deal with emotions first, then problems.

This point actually echoes the previous four points. Sometimes parents have worked hard for a long time and made countless preparations to help their children release and manage their emotions, but they did not expect that the children still cannot do it. , as it should be.

But in fact, this is a continuous training process, and one of its cores is to let children know the consequences of losing control of their emotions.

After all, children and adults enjoy different treatment. If an adult loses control of his emotions, there will be many people to teach him and alienate him. But if a child loses control of his emotions, he may receive more criticism from his family. and the care and comfort of relatives and friends around you. Therefore, it is difficult for children to understand the cost of losing control of their emotions.

This requires parents to take a firm stand, distinguish rewards and punishments, and establish rules to let their children understand that they cannot lose their temper at will, otherwise the consequences will be serious and they need to be punished and pay the price.

Of course, if a child can control his emotions well or release his emotions in a more positive and healthy way, then parents should also reward their children through some practical actions.