When you are excellent, allow others to hurt you.

Excellence in life is graded. What level are you in?

Excellent in the first level:

Second-class Excellence:

The highest level of Excellence:

Either vulgar or outstanding.

And the reason why you have been hurt repeatedly is because you are excellent at the second level. At this point, you should allow others to hurt yourself, from "some" to "a lot"

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Something happened to my relatives recently. I slipped hundreds of group messages one by one, and learned that the top students of my relatives' families were highly expected and secretly climbed over the wall to play games with their roommates in the middle of the night.

Last week, relatives went to school to deliver soup and found an unopened box of Yellow Crane Tower in the pocket of children's school uniform, which gave the class teacher a nervous reminder. Unexpectedly, the class teacher caught "Xiong Haizi" in the Internet cafe near the school in the middle of the night.

Relatives are lying in the hospital bed with stomachache. The son was full of guilt and spit out: "Mom, everyone is like this. If I don't do this, others will laugh at me. "

"Laugh at you? Laugh at you for what? Is the college entrance examination important or a joke important? " Relatives were so anxious that they almost cried.

"But I don't want to be different from others. I don't want to stand their ridicule." The relative's son replied stubbornly.

"Son, if you don't get this grade, people will laugh at you for not smoking, skipping classes and playing games?" The relatives asked calmly, leaving the son speechless.

Without excellent grades, others will not pay attention to themselves at all, because they are no different from others. Moreover, the "can't play" and "can't be crazy" laughed at by others are actually disguised attacks on good grades.

Knowing this truth, the children of relatives finally have a heart.

Only ordinary people need to choose between Excellence and vulgarity. As a result, it is obvious that most ordinary people choose the latter. What about the excellent one? They don't have to make a choice at all. What they need to do is to prevent others from making vulgar decisions for themselves.

It turns out that it takes courage to accept your Excellence, which means that you are different from ordinary people, and you should be prepared to be laughed at and attacked.

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People are popular and there are many rumors.

Zhu Xun, a famous host, studied in Japan in his early years and successfully entered CCTV after returning home. Because of his outstanding ability, Zhu Xun quickly gained a foothold in CCTV and made it to the top stage of CCTV Spring Festival Evening for three consecutive years.

One day, Zhu Xun and her colleagues were preparing a live TV broadcast when they received a strange phone call. The other party asked her if she had made dew point porn in Japan that year.

There is no smoke without fire, and soon rumors are flying everywhere. The world's worst words of scolding women have been run by Zhu Xun, but in fact, the highly hyped film is "Girls Following the Fashion" co-produced by Zhu Xun and K?ji Yakusho, the top Japanese actor at that time.

Zhu Xun laughed it off, but she called her mother for fear that her parents could not stand it. On the other end of the phone, Zhu Xun's mother told her with a smile: "There are the most golden apples full of trees. Silence is golden at the critical moment, and it is not too late to say it when clarification is needed. You are a public figure, allowing others to hurt you! "

As a public figure, you should allow others to hurt you. This sentence full of wisdom and strength, like a wake-up call, echoed in Zhu Xun's ear. It turns out that those who defile her, slander her and hurt her are naked jealous of her Excellence!

If she is not good, who will stare at her?

When you are excellent, others hurt you, which just proves your Excellence, and you allow others to hurt you, which just shows that you have the capital to resist others' harm.

Bo Huang once said that when you become famous, you will find all the good people around you. Isn't this ironic remark a proof of the hard process of an ordinary person becoming an excellent person? When you change from weak to strong, all the bad guys around you become "good guys".

But you should know that these "good people" are not sincere and good, but pretenders who wear masks and make a new face. Their nature is to continue to cause harm.

What is born strong? Good people are always on their guard. Besides flowers and applause, there will be poisonous snakes and abuse.

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Before, I didn't understand why the girls who grew up together would collectively isolate one of them, because she was admitted to a good university.

Now I think clearly, because she is not at the same level as the other girls. She flies higher and farther, and others can only look on coldly.

Excellent people are often more painful.

Once in a chat, my friend told me unintentionally that a colleague in his company had a good friendship with him and wanted to study abroad. That colleague has a doctorate.

"All doctors, still tossing?" I don't understand.

After listening to a friend's detailed explanation, I realized that the doctor is in charge of a group of undergraduates in the company, but some people still refuse to accept him, because even if he is a doctoral student, there are only 2 1 1 985 undergraduates.

Just because he realized that he didn't surpass others more, he chose to go abroad for gilding, improve his ability and shut others up.

I can't help but think of a passage:

To the layman, a little, a little more, is nothing at all. Only by greatly surpassing others can we highlight the boundary between Excellence and mediocrity, which is the great power of Excellence.

Therefore, you don't have to worry about the harm caused by Excellence at all. Allowing others to hurt themselves is forcing themselves to become better and throwing away many others, not a little. The envy and hostility of others will naturally turn into sincere envy and sincere love.

I think the highest state of Excellence is like the classic dialogue between Hanshan and Pickup.

Hanshan asked: There are people who slander me, bully me, insult me, laugh at me, despise me, belittle me and cheat me. What should I do?

Pick him up and say, just bear with him, let him go, avoid him, bear with him, respect him, ignore him, stay a few more years and look at him.

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Excellence is a habit, and people usually don't like Excellence until they get used to it.

Look at him, his grades are so good, but he doesn't even have a bosom friend; Look at her again. She must be very tired and unhappy in order to win all kinds of competition prizes.

People's antipathy just exposes their inner fears. They are too good to have friends. They are isolated because of their uniqueness. They are different from the general public.

Why are you afraid? The root cause is not so much fear as envy of others' aura, perfect resume and excellent performance. Therefore, it is actually very difficult to admit that others are better than themselves.

Therefore, when you become excellent, others will disdain to admit it. You should always be prepared to be hurt for no reason. The excuse for others to hurt you is precisely with the help of your excellent magic, which is the fatal pusher of the weak and the poison of human jealousy.

However, whether ordinary or excellent, we must always understand that the Excellence of others has nothing to do with you.

In the same way, it doesn't matter what others do to you because of your Excellence, it has nothing to do with you. Don't care, don't be upset, laugh it off and take it lightly.

The heart is supported by injustice, and Excellence is smoothed by pain.

No matter how much gossip you listen to, your ears will not wear out. Let others talk. No matter how vulgar you are, you won't be blind. Let someone else do it. You can be yourself, but listen to the wind and rain.

May the excellent you become more and more excellent.