Man Psychology: Why can't I fall in love with a woman who often chats with me?

Do boys like girls who talk to him often?

My answer is no.

In our daily life, we often see girls chasing boys. Although women chase men's barriers, the final outcome may be declined. I gradually understand one thing, that is, people's feelings for another person can be confirmed quickly. "Inadvertently start chatting and then talk until there is no other person" is a small probability thing, which may last for a long time, but most of them are attracted from the beginning, just like reading a book, more or less attracted by the title and cover.

First, frequent chatting will consume your mystery. The more you talk to men, the less mysterious you are. After chatting for a long time, the man will be dull, because he has no desire to explore you and has no freshness.

In love, the mysterious inner world of a woman is the goal pursued by a man. No matter how long you have known each other, mystery will always be a preservative for your feelings.

In the harem, Zhen Xuan's spectacular dance blinded the emperor's dog's eyes. He was very happy:

How many surprises do you have that I don't know? Sit next to me.

Think about it. If the emperor knew from the beginning that Zhen Xuan was a good dancer, would her spectacular dance still amaze the emperor?

Just because Zhen Xuan hid his strength from the beginning, he can surprise him at the back!

So, let a man guess you, and he will always follow you.

When he thinks he already knows you well, you give him a little surprise, so that he will have mood swings and unlimited desire to explore you, and your feelings will always be fresh.

Second, the chat content is trivial, and men will think you are boring. We know that men and women are really two completely different species, and their thinking, behavior, interests, hobbies, psychology and so on are very different.

When men chat with men, they may talk about the economic situation, football and basketball, news and current affairs, and some colorful jokes.

But when a woman is chatting with a man, I have heard a man talk about an ambiguous object:

She is so boring! Ask me what I'm doing and eating every day, nag about some chicken pieces and dog pieces every day, and even tell me when you see someone quarreling on the road. Sometimes I often send me some celebrity gossip, and I have chicken soup in my heart. I'm speechless!

I thought she was interesting at first, but now I think she is a particularly boring person and has no interest in her at all.

You see, you have said everything you want to say. Without a deep knowledge reserve, you can't talk about new tricks. In the end, your chat content is just trivial and will be boring.

This kind of chat content has no practical significance in men's eyes, which will make men think that you are shallow and tasteless like boiled water.

Third, is chatting a plus item, not a magic lever to incite love? Falling in love is like making an examination paper. Chatting is a short answer at best. Even if you write three pages and don't do other questions, you won't get a passing grade.

Appearance, knowledge, style, living habits ... multiple-choice questions are always ahead of them.

So we got Zhihu's answer.

To tell the truth, in fact, most of my relationships are "noisy", and I am particularly confused. Is it true that others fall in love by opening a room, and I have to fall in love by opening a bar?

Then after confirming a relationship, I asked him what he really liked about me.

Although this kind of question often fails to see the deepest truth under the desire for survival, without exception, every time the answer is not the fact that we are chatting, and most of them are "multiple choice questions"-style, habits and appearance. ...

Just like when you open this article, the cover and title play a decisive role in any case.

To tell the truth, chatting often is just a reward.

There is a saying that girls usually like each other when chatting with one person every day.

At first glance, it is a question of quantitative change and qualitative change. But I ask you, will you chat with someone who asks you "Have you eaten" in the morning, tells you to "drink more hot water" at noon and tells you to "go out for a stroll" at night? Don't!

Only if he is handsome enough to catch your eye, or just meets a trait you like, can you support the two of you to chat.

Good love must be the kind that makes the "multiple choice questions" in front of you uncomfortable and makes the "short answer questions" behind you cool.

"Do boys like girls who often chat with themselves?"

Girls who are eager to catch up with that person will not ask this question, and girls who abide by the principle of "taking the initiative to suffer losses" will not ask it, but will only ask us-those of us standing in the middle.