The mate selection criteria for 35-year-old "leftover women" were announced. What "two words" did most men say?

It is said: "Men should get married when they are older, and women should get married when they are older." A few days ago, my 32-year-old cousin was urged to go on a blind date again.

My cousin was particularly repelled by the blind date. He even had a big fight with his parents in order to refuse the blind date.

After asking, I found out that my cousin didn’t want to go on a blind date, not because he didn’t want to marry a wife, but because he thought the blind date method was useless because he was still single after so many blind dates.

My cousin said: "No matter what, he will not go on a blind date, because in his opinion, a blind date is not only embarrassing and embarrassing, but also like a transaction, and he will never meet true love."

My cousin even said: "There are no good women who need blind dates, because women with good conditions don't need to go out on blind dates at all. Generally, women who go out on blind dates are basically over their age." These women either want sky-high betrothal gifts or they worship money, so they never get married."

After hearing what my cousin said, I felt a lot. I neither agreed nor objected, because a few days ago, I saw the spouse selection of such a 35-year-old female netizen on the Internet. standard. When this leftover female netizen announced this standard for choosing a mate, it stirred up a lot of waves and triggered discussions among many netizens.

The mate selection criteria of this 35-year-old female netizen are as follows:

I am a Shandong woman, 35 years old, with an appearance of 7 or above, a height of 163cm, a college degree, a stable job, and a monthly salary. 3000 with five insurances, you can support yourself. Born in Shanxi, she is an only child. Her parents work in farming and her family owns an old house.

I am now looking for a marriageable man, over 180cm tall, under 38 years old, other requirements are not high, I just want her to love me, write my name on the house before marriage, and give me a bride price of 300,000 yuan, please prove it. He loves me, and his annual salary of more than 500,000 yuan proves that he can support a family. Only a car and a house can be considered a complete family.

I don’t know why my luck is so bad. I have become a 35-year-old leftover girl, but I still haven’t met my Mr. Right. Whenever I reveal my criteria for selecting a spouse, someone will scold me, saying that I am a money-worshiper, and that I deserve not to get married. But in fact, those scolding me are all worthless men who have no future. That's why you scolded me.

Those who scold me have no qualifications at all, because whether it is love or marriage, it is always fair. Everyone has the right to choose. Men can choose to look taller. Beautiful women with better bodies, why can’t women choose better men.

No matter how good a woman is, she will face great controversy. So I don’t care, because those people and I are not from the same world at all. Women nowadays don’t worry about getting married at all. It’s not that I can’t get married, it’s just that I don’t want to get married. If I want to get married, I can do whatever I want. Get married.

Marriage is a lifelong thing, and I don’t want to make do with it, because a high-quality single life is definitely better than a low-quality marriage. My parents often advised me, saying that at this age, it would be the same for anyone I marry, and that if I don’t marry, I won’t be able to get married in the future.

Now I am particularly entangled, I really don’t know what to do? Should you stick to your own standards for marriage? I don’t know if I will die alone?

There were many comments under this published mate selection criteria. Although most of the replies were from men, most of the men said the word "deserve it."

@ Mr. Zhou: She deserves it. If she wasn’t so picky, she wouldn’t be unable to get married.

Mr. Zhou said that what a woman is most afraid of is not knowing how to be satisfied, because when a woman does not know how to be satisfied, then this woman will be spoiled for choice, and then no one will like her, and in the end she can only look down on her. She became an older leftover woman by herself.

Many women say: "Men who are talented are ugly, men who are handsome do not make money, men who make a lot of money do not care about their families, those who care about the family are not promising, and those who are promising are not romantic. He is unreliable, and he who is reliable is cowardly.

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But in fact, it’s not that these men are not perfect, but that those women don’t know how to be satisfied, so they say these picky words.

Mr. Zhou said that a person who is not A woman who knows how to be content and then gives up what she has left will deserve it. She will never be happy for the rest of her life.

@Mr. Chen: She deserves it. If she didn’t overestimate herself, she wouldn’t be unable to marry. Get out.

Mr. Chen said that what a woman fears most is that she has no self-awareness and always overestimates herself.

The reason why this older leftover woman has never married is because of her lack of self-awareness. It's not because she was really unlucky and didn't meet her true love, but because her own conditions didn't meet the standards for mate selection, so she ended up like the leftover woman she is now.

It is precisely because of this overestimation of herself that she looks down on the men who like her, and others look down upon her. It is also because of this choice that she Until now.

Mr. Chen said that if this woman does not change her criteria for choosing a mate, then he is sure that she will never be able to get married and will not be happy because she can meet her requirements. Basically, all men look down on her conditions.

The editor has something to say:

In my opinion, I very much agree with the above two men, because for a woman. Generally speaking, if you never know how to be satisfied and don’t recognize yourself clearly, then as they say, you may never get happiness in your life.

Take the above lady’s choice of mate. In terms of standards, let me talk about them objectively.

Although I am not qualified to make irresponsible remarks about her standards for choosing a spouse, I still want to give her some advice, if she really wants to get marriage and happiness. , then lowering her mate selection standards must be something she must do.

Because at her age, her own capital is no longer worthy of her mate selection standards.

In reality, there are always people who say: "In this era when there are more men than women, women don't have to worry about getting married."

But in fact, it's not women who don't have to worry about getting married, but those outstanding women. Don’t worry about getting married. Except for a few outstanding women, most ordinary women are actually worried about getting married, because age is their greatest asset. Once they are older, they will become older leftover women.

For most ordinary women, a woman’s own capital will depreciate with age, so a smart woman understands that at her best age, she should marry the best person.

Of course, for this woman, she should not give up on herself and marry anyone casually, because as she herself said, marriage is a lifelong matter, and it must not be a trivial matter. Who to marry? It's really far off.

In my opinion, as long as she appropriately lowers her standards for mate selection without violating her own principles and bottom line, it will definitely be feasible.