Sometimes I think a lot when I meet things that are not going my way. What should I do, so afraid of getting sick?

Don't think too much, it's not a disease, it's just a mental hint, but if you keep thinking like this, you'll be ill for a long time.

This is because in life, we often involuntarily produce all kinds of bad ideas. When we have these ideas, we always don't care and think it's nothing. After all, everyone will think.

But these ideas will lurk after they are generated. As soon as we encounter all kinds of unsatisfactory or bad things, these thoughts will emerge, leading us to associate more, which is why when we encounter unsatisfactory things, we will always think more and more.

Especially for some people with low sense of security, the situation of such people is often more serious, because if this happens frequently, it will have a certain impact on the human body, such as being depressed every day and always being scared. In this state, no matter what you do, the chances of change will be greater.

In fact, it's easier said than done, because it depends on the individual and whether you can get through it yourself. Don't always have too many bad ideas every day.

If you are afraid and think at the same time, of course, you will only think more and be more afraid, and some things are more likely to happen.

Think more about happy things. If conditions permit, take some time to run every day. Or find yourself something to do, read books, cultivate some hobbies, chat with friends and have a heart-to-heart talk with parents.

In short, don't let yourself have too much time to think. Over time, this phenomenon will gradually disappear.

First, don't chew it.

The past years are like spilled milk, which can't be collected. No matter what happens, good or bad, it doesn't matter, because the result can't be changed, and no amount of thinking can help. Nine times out of ten, there are problems in life. Whose life is completely smooth? You are always trapped in your unhappy past, and you are bitter and useless to yourself.

J.K. Rowling, the author of Harry Potter, was not accepted by any publishing house at the beginning of her writing. Some people even laughed at her as an ordinary housewife, which was wishful thinking. But Rowling didn't feel depressed and give up because of others' blows, but continued to contribute. After several twists and turns, Harry Potter was successfully published and unexpectedly sold well. Since then, she has been unable to accept it.

Second, don't worry about the future.

The future hasn't come yet, don't worry. Sociologists have done experiments. In fact, more than 90% of what a person is worried about has never happened. If you worry about the future every day, you are punishing yourself with every day now, which is really a great loss. On the other hand, if we can't stop anything, we will definitely come, so it's no use worrying. Let's just let nature take its course. There is an old saying that everything will be solved in the end. "

In those days, Jason Wu spent all the money at his disposal to prepare for the Wolf Warrior. Before the film was finished, he gritted his teeth and mortgaged his house before he got a sum of money to finish the film. Isn't he worried that the movie box office is not high, and he will lose his wife and lose his soldiers? Of course, he was worried, but since it was something he loved, he put aside his worries and put caution to the wind. As a result, everyone knows that he not only earned the box office, but also won the word of mouth.

Third, live in the present and grasp the present.

The past cannot be traced back, and the future is unknown. Only doing what you are doing now is the best policy. Set a goal, concentrate on moving forward, make progress every day, get stronger every day, go your own way and live your own life, which is better than anything else. In other words, do your best to do what you have. In terms of probability, doesn't it also reduce the probability of bad things in the future?

Although Su Dongpo, a great writer, is well known, his career is tortuous and he has been exiled many times. However, he has always maintained an open-minded and optimistic attitude, solved local difficulties, recited poems, enjoyed flowers and the moon, studied cooking, lived up to every day and had a good time every moment. He once said that life is worth living as long as you can see the pine and cypress and the bright moon. Only in this way can people live a full life and live the quality of life.

In short, your state of mind determines your future. Don't turn your heart upside down just because of a little trouble outside. After all, life is a practice, and we are all on the road.

It's okay to think like this. It means that you have realized your problem. Don't worry, it will be fine. So, what should we do? Personal advice may not be right, but I hope I can help you from the bottom of my heart.

Everyone has unpleasant moments, so we must face them correctly. We often say that nine times out of ten things will go wrong in life. Yes, there are not many things that go right in one's life, but things that go wrong often happen. This is to remind us to have a normal mind, not to complain, not to exaggerate the pain and troubles. Read more books on weekdays, such as weekly, weekly and Carnegie's.

Read more books and study more, and knowledge will dissolve people's feelings and calm people's emotions.

I haven't had a good time since last year.

First, when I was traveling in Jinggangshan, I suddenly had a cerebral infarction, which caused my left leg to lose control and forced me to interrupt my trip and go home for treatment.

I had carotid artery stent in my senior year of medical university, and then I moved to several hospitals for rehabilitation treatment. It's been five months now, and I can hardly take care of myself.

65438+ Since1October 27th, the house has been isolated from my home, and it has been more than two months now.

Because there is little activity at home, I urinate frequently to 10 times a day, and my mouth is dry, so I should keep drinking water. In my spare time, I wonder if I have diabetes.

I wanted to go to the hospital for examination, but I was afraid that the hospital would not check it, so I dragged it down unconsciously.

One day, my wife and I joked that if I got diabetes, I would have a permanent special disease.

His wife said reproachfully, "You're just scaring yourself. Think about it, nothing will happen. "

I know this is my wife comforting me, and I don't want to think too much.

However, I don't feel so good about myself. Seeing that I am getting thinner and thinner, I hope that the epidemic will pass early and I can breathe more fresh air outside.

Hello, let me talk about my opinion. One is that the mind is too heavy. A lot of things can't fit. It has a great influence on your body and mind. So is my wife. Because of a little contradiction. You will think of many unhappy things. This is called moving a hair, pulling one hair and moving the whole body. In fact, some things have passed, and it's no big deal. The most important thing is to put your mind right. You can read more relevant books. To be a man, you must be atmospheric. But also know how to tolerate each other. Of course. What's going on here? As long as you don't make mistakes in principle. The rest are small things to me. Another is that lovers should communicate more. I can't let go of many small things, so I always remember him. This wound will be difficult to heal. There is another thing that is particularly important. Is to adjust your mentality. Whether many things are successful or not. Complex or simple. It all depends on one's view on this matter. And practice. Or ideas. The past is the past. If you stick to him all the time, you will be the one who gets hurt the most in the end. As we grow older, we have to go through many things. You can't be unhappy because of a little thing. it is not good to do this. Finally, I wish you can adjust your mentality. I believe tomorrow will be beautiful.

If you are in a bad mood when you encounter unpleasant things, you should give yourself some positive hints in this case.

Unhappy things can lead to depression, which is a normal emotional reaction. Everyone will have it, and it will get better after a while.

Depression, disappointment, pessimism and lack of self-confidence can easily lead to negative feelings of inferiority, and the more you think about bad things, the more negative they become.

This will seriously affect yourself, so always enjoy your mood and enhance your confidence in life. When you have nothing to do, you can go out for a walk, relax yourself, invite friends to sing, decompress yourself, think more about happy things, walk and relax yourself.

Learn to divert attention. When you are in this mood, divert your attention and do more happy things.

In fact, this problem can't be entirely your fault. Nowadays, there is great social pressure, and many people live in the shadow of this problem. Long-term depressed emotions can not be vented, and it is easy to be depressed. You must learn to guide your thoughts. ...

This is a person's psychological refraction reaction, which can also be said to be a conditioned reflex! Usually we often say that a person is cranky, alarmist and has something on his mind for no reason. This is the psychological reaction! Why is there such a psychological reaction?

Mainly because many things in life can't be let go, especially negative energy, which makes me sad. I can't accept it, and I can't get past it! In other words, the backlog of emotions is inherent and not released in time! In this way, psychological conditioning will naturally occur after encountering what is inside, in retrospect!

The only way to solve this problem is to face it, not to escape, not to refuse, then to accept, allow and finally let go. When you let go, there will be no more conditioned reflex! Even if you think about it, you won't be sad, paranoid or worried!

Too much imagination, too much emotional backlog to a certain extent, will affect the body and make the body uncomfortable. This is disease, and all diseases begin with psychology!

Recently, I found that my body was a little different, so I refused my husband's needs every time. Who knows that he doesn't understand at all and suspects that I am unfaithful to him.

I endured physical discomfort and my husband's misunderstanding of me, and finally took time out to go to the hospital for a gynecological examination. After some examination, the doctor told me that it might be cervical cancer, and the specific result will have to wait for a few days. The doctor's words came as a bolt from the blue. I stayed where I was, and my mind went blank ... I don't know how I got home, but I only know what the doctor said.

In the evening, my husband came home from work, and I told him what the doctor said, but he was indifferent. He also said that my private life was disorderly, and I asked for it. I suddenly feel that I am the biggest joke in the world. I don't know what to do if it is really cancer, and how to continue my life in the future.

Psychological problems are a very serious social phenomenon at present, especially among children, which makes people feel sad. How many people are in despair, how many families are on the verge of collapse, and most people are still in the dark and don't know the truth and the way out. That's terrible!

What I want to tell you is that all the so-called psychological problems, no matter what type, no matter how serious, no matter how complicated the symptoms are, actually do not exist at all. Why are these so-called mental diseases so difficult to cure? Because we have been solving a non-existent problem, how to solve it? The result will only cause more and more serious problems. Obviously, all negative emotions are normal emotions that everyone has, just like breathing. If you have to solve it, you can only solve your life, which is why many people finally choose to go to a dead end. Most people will let go of negative emotions quickly, but we can't. We must solve it, even if the larger foe breaks through, the result will be more and more serious. As we all know, there is no need to solve the problem unless it is solved. No matter how hard life is, there is nothing to let go of. Life is a drama, so why be so serious and bother yourself.

I want to tell you that it is a very wrong choice to choose to end your life. Ending life is not the end of pain, but just the beginning of another endless pain. Life will never end, and every life has its meaning.

Anyway, what is the essence and truth of these so-called psychological problems? Knowing this, all the so-called psychological problems will be solved. Because it doesn't actually exist, of course, there is nothing to solve.

Some people say, how can it not exist? The problems we face in reality are as real as the pain we bear in our hearts. We just can't sleep, our symptoms and diseases are real, I just can't see any hope of life, and so on. These pains obviously exist. Isn't it self-deception to say that it doesn't exist?

Yes, everything is so real to you. What I want to say is that these so-called real situations are only results, not causes, but also superficial phenomena, not essence. They are not static. To solve these so-called psychological problems, we must start from the root causes. Whether through psychological counseling or drug therapy, everyone is using phenomena to solve phenomena and problems to solve problems. Instead of solving the problem, it will continue to worsen.

All psychological problems, no matter what kind of negative emotions, will be manifested as uncontrollable thoughts, constant thinking, unable to eat, unable to sleep, physical and mental fatigue. They just want to understand that the more they think about it, the more uncontrollable the vicious circle will be until it collapses. This is because in this process, our energy will gradually run out and we will lose the ability to control our own thinking more and more. In the end, even our own lives will be given up, which is an illusion of low energy state. In that energy state, even a sesame seed will become a mountain and crush itself.

In this case, only by increasing energy can it be changed. This energy is not only eating and resting, but more importantly, it is to stop the erosion of negative energy (negative thinking) and constantly improve positive energy. To break the vicious circle, stop thinking (you will never think about it, and you will never think about the result) and turn to positive thinking to save energy. With positive energy, you can control your own thinking and everything in your life. With positive energy, the problem that bothered you in the past has changed from watermelon to sesame.

So how do you stop thinking? We just can't help thinking! In fact, we can't control our thoughts because negative energy (all negative emotions) is so powerful that we are controlled by negative energy. Because different people express different negative emotions with negative energy, there are all kinds of so-called psychological problems, which are essentially the same.

As long as the essence is grasped, all the so-called psychological problems naturally do not exist and do not need to be solved at all, because there is nothing to solve. No matter what your situation is, no matter how serious it is, no matter how real and difficult the real problem is, no matter how serious your health is, even if you are terminally ill, there is only one root cause and one solution. Find the root cause, all the problems in life are soap bubbles.

What is the root cause? The fundamental reason lies in the wrong three views and the wrong pursuit of value. At present, it can be said that 99% people in the world are pursuing the wrong things. Pursue material things, all kinds of desires, pornography, unfilial, do not cherish life, only know to take but do not know the meaning of life is to give rather than take, and have pressure (have to pursue a specific goal or requirement). Because of these wrong views, every thought, every word and every action in our hearts are directed at desires and needs. There must be a desire behind every negative emotion. There are also many parents who impose these misconceptions on their children, blaming others for hurting their children and blaming themselves. All our desires and negative emotions are negative energy, which will be constantly entangled and amplified. In the end, positive energy will be less and less, and even we will be proud of negative energy and ashamed of positive energy. Isn't this a common phenomenon in modern society? Why do most people live in pain? This is the general source. Everyone's performance is different, some are physically ill, some are mentally ill, some encounter setbacks or disasters, and so on.

When we get the so-called mental illness, we begin to blame others, think that we are unlucky and think that heaven is unfair. In fact, God is the fairest. Every mistake you make, you have to bear it yourself. And everyone is choosing to avoid responsibility, but how can they escape? Some people want to talk to a psychological counselor, but actually talking is releasing negative energy, which will not only solve the problem, but also attract more negative energy. Some people hope to solve it through drugs. It's obviously a matter of heart. How to solve the drug? Isn't that ridiculous? Others want someone to help them. How does the other person in your heart make it work? How can others understand your whimsy under negative emotions?

You live in a dream and only wake up. Who can interpret dreams? Wake up. What's the problem?

To solve this problem, you must first understand where you are wrong and that no one is punishing you. It's not just your own fault. The universe is the fairest. If you are still happy when you are wrong, it is really unreasonable. In fact, it's nobody's fault outside, it's all your own fault. Don't complain, just reflect on yourself. The theory of family origin simply doesn't exist. Are harmful. You decide your own destiny, so don't give yourself any reasons or excuses. Don't think that it is caused by all practical problems such as family environment, others bullying you, interpersonal tension, lack of money, stress, physical illness and so on. Wrong, these problems are also phenomena, the result of three wrong views, and the result of the same root as your psychological problems are all appearances and have the same root of mistakes. Even if these problems are solved, your psychological problems still exist and there will be bigger problems to remind you.

Every pain reminds you that you are wrong and makes you turn around quickly. Once you look back, pain loses its value of existence. The sea of misery is boundless, and turning back is the shore. As long as you don't look back, the pain will follow you. Behind every pain, there is a persistence and a desire. Only let go of persistence and desire. The past is the past, and everything is of my own making. No one has hurt you, and no one can hurt you. Accept what you are facing. This is the result of what you have done in the past and cannot be changed. What we can do now is to recognize our mistakes and correct them. From now on, keep positive thoughts, words and behaviors, stop spreading and releasing negative energy, including at home and on the Internet, starting from the side, starting from small things, starting from housework, helping others, dedicating yourself, letting go of selfishness, desire, material desire, honoring parents, cherishing all life and fearing nature. These are the true meaning of life, returning to humanity. Where can there be psychological problems? Where are the life problems to be solved? Where does it hurt? What's unfair?

Also, parents whose children have problems, please let their children go, put them down, don't care too much, and let them go. Internet generation, less contact with video games and pornographic websites, stop killing children with drugs! ! !

Finally, I can tell you that I used to be a so-called serious mental patient for more than twenty years, no matter how desperate and helpless I was. Now, I have been born again. I hope to share my experience gained with blood and tears with you, and I hope to help more people who are still trapped in the bottomless abyss of pain come out. I hope to save more families and children on the verge of collapse.

Thinking that you have so-called psychological problems and trying to solve them are the real reasons and the beginning of all the pain. With the process of solving, the pain is getting bigger and bigger. This is the fundamental difference between normal people and so-called mental patients.

Many people say they can't let go. Nothing can't be let go. People have to put it down when they die. No one can take it away. If you don't put it down, you will continue to suffer on your back. There is no choice, and no one can help you put it down. The only way to let go is to accept, accept what others and yourself have experienced, and accept everything that may happen!

Friends with feelings, I hope everyone will forward more. Helping others is helping yourself.

When people are free, it is easy to think, especially those who stay at home for a long time or live at two o'clock and one line for a long time. It's easy to come to a dead end if you think about a little thing. When I thought about it, I would think of other unpleasant things. As a result, negative emotions poured in and the whole person became bad!

This is actually excessive worry! It is a worry that has no factual basis!

For example, a girlfriend sends a WeChat to her boyfriend, and the other party doesn't return for a long time. At this time, the woman will start to speculate: "Does he want to ignore me?" "Did he meet another woman?" "Is he going to break up with me?" In this way, people's mood will get worse and worse, and everything will be worried.

However, these speculations often lack factual basis, and these untenable speculations can easily lead to a person's mood getting worse and worse. The reality is probably that my boyfriend is busy with other things and didn't see the information on the mobile phone; Or I saw a message on my mobile phone, but I didn't take the time to reply.

So what you worry about is often your own subjective imagination, which is purely much ado about nothing. These bad things often don't happen.

Festinger, an American social psychologist, has a famous judgment called Festinger's Law:

10% of life is made up of what happens to you, and the other 90% is determined by your reaction to what happens.

In other words, 10% of things in life are beyond our control, while the other 90% are beyond our control.

Festinger gave an example in the book:

When Cusdin got up in the morning to wash, she put her high-end watch next to the washstand. His wife was afraid of getting wet, so she took it and put it on the dining table. When my son got up and went to the table to get bread, he accidentally bumped into the ground and broke his watch.

Custine likes watches, so he gave his son a beating. Then he scolded his wife with a black face. The wife was not convinced and said that she was afraid that the water would wet her watch. Custine said his watch was waterproof.

So the two men bickered fiercely. In a rage, Custine didn't eat breakfast and drove directly to the company. When he arrived at the company, he suddenly remembered that he had forgotten his briefcase, so he immediately turned around and went home.

But there is no one at home. His wife goes to work and his son goes to school. Custine's key was left in his briefcase. He couldn't get in the door, so he had to call his wife for the key.

When his wife hurried home in a hurry, she knocked over the fruit stand on the roadside. The stall owner grabbed her and asked her for compensation. She had to pay a sum of money to get rid of it.

After getting the briefcase, Custine was 15 minutes late and was severely criticized by the boss. Custine was in a terrible mood. Before leaving work, I quarreled with my colleagues because of a trivial matter.

The wife was also deducted the monthly attendance award for leaving early, and the son participated in the baseball game that day. Originally, he was expected to win the championship, but because he was in a bad mood, he was eliminated in the first game.

In this case, the broken watch is 10%, and the following series of things are the other 90%.

It is because the parties did not manage the 90% that this day became a "troublesome day".

Imagine if Cusdin reacts differently after 10% is produced. For example, he comforted his son: "Never mind, son, it doesn't matter if the watch is broken. I'll take it to repair it. " In this way, if the son is happy, the wife is happy and he is in a good mood, then nothing will happen next.

It can be seen that you can't control the previous 10%, but you can completely determine the remaining 90% through your mentality and behavior.

Therefore, when you encounter something unsatisfactory, the first thing to do is to stop complaining, stop indulging in your negative emotions, and come out quickly!

Many times, as long as we think about it carefully, we will find that many things are not as bad as we thought.

Maybe what you were worried about last week may not be a problem this week.

And what I am worried about this week will naturally be solved next week.

This is not the same as "being prepared for danger in times of peace", nor can it be the same as "being worried when you are born, and being happy when you die", because maintaining a moderate sense of urgency can make you more fully prepared for the future. But excessive anxiety is harmful, which will only consume too much psychological energy and make people feel physically and mentally exhausted.

As the saying goes, "everything will be solved in the end", stop complaining and actively do what you should do now, then the problem will be solved.