The order of appearance is very important in relationships

Most of Wong Kar-Wai's movies are about stories about obsessed men and women, such as "In the Mood for Love" and "Days of Being Wild", but I love "2046" the most.

There is a line in "2046": In fact, love is time-sensitive, and it will not work if you meet it too early or too late. If I had known her in another time or space, maybe the ending would have been different.

I like this sentence very much. For a couple who cannot be together, if the appearance time of any one of them is changed, the ending may be different.

Fate may be beautiful, but it may be more of a regret.

Because in relationships, the order of appearance is really important.

1

My friend fell in love with her boyfriend when she was in college and they were sweet for 3 years. Even in the graduation season, which is the breakup season, they are still in love as before. After graduation, the two went to Beijing to work hard together. I have always felt that the two of them could be together for more than 5 years, which is really enviable, but what is regrettable is that not long after these words were said, the two broke up.

The reason is that the woman’s parents feel that the two of them have reached the age of marriage and have been dating for so long, so it’s time to get married. However, her boyfriend said that his career was not stable and he wanted to work hard for a few more years and wait until he had everything before marrying her.

My friend knew that her boyfriend was a very career-minded person who was eager to succeed and get ahead, so he never mentioned marriage to her boyfriend again.

It is human nature to like the new and dislike the old. As time goes by, the original love gradually fades away.

Gradually, my boyfriend came home later and later, and many times he came home smelling of alcohol. He no longer asked her if she had eaten on time. When her aunt came, she just said to drink more hot water and went to the hospital alone when she felt unwell. She thinks he doesn't care about her, and he thinks she's not gentle and considerate enough. Until a friend accidentally saw the sexy messages on her boyfriend's phone, they had a big fight.

My friend decided to break up and immediately changed jobs and cities. Although her new job is tiring, she gradually forgets the hurt caused by her ex-boyfriend.

Until a few days ago, she sent me a WeChat message saying: "He came to me again and said he couldn't let me go." After hearing this, her best friend was in a daze. When she was still struggling with whether to forgive the boy, she realized that the boy had not broken up with his current girlfriend. If the best friend agreed to him, he would break up with his current girlfriend. I said: "Then what if you don't agree? They won't break up? Then what will you become, a mistress or a spare tire? Will he settle down for you? I suggest you forget it, there are so many good men in the world "More, find another one."

Men are greedy, thinking about white roses and liking red roses. When I married Red Rose, I found out that it was just mosquito blood. When I married Bai Yueguang, I found out that it was just grains of white rice that fell while eating. After experiencing both, he suddenly realized that neither was what he wanted.

Sometimes, the best time to appear is after he has settled down. Even if it is not stunning or refined enough, it is enough to have you in his eyes.

? 2

Xiong Dailin and Aaron Kwok have been together for seven years, when everyone thought they would eventually get married. However, amid everyone's expectations, they ended up without any problems. Netizens sympathized with Xiong Dailin. Seven years, how many seven years can a woman have in her life? She gave it all to Aaron Kwok. But in the end, it still didn't come to the end.

Aaron Kwok married Fang Yuan, an Internet celebrity who is 22 years younger than him, and Xiong Dailin also married into a wealthy family.

After all, it depends on fate when people are together. Guo Kesong is Xiong Dailin's person, and Fang Yuan is also Aaron Kwok's person.

Many people say that why Guo Tianwang, who has always been lukewarm about marriage, suddenly put marriage on the agenda after meeting Fang Yuan, but has never been together with Xiong Dailin for seven years. Can you take that step? This may also be the crux of the problem, why he has no desire to get married after seven years together, but this time, in such a short period of time, he has the urge to get married. Maybe it was just because, at this time, he happened to want a stable home, and she happened to be by his side.

Three

In a relationship, the right time, right place, right people, and the order of appearances are different for each relationship. It is best to show up when the other person needs you most. It doesn't matter if you show up too early or too late. Good thing, order is important. For some people, the first one is the most important because it is their first love; for some people, the third one is the most important because they have experienced it and know better how to love others. It just varies from person to person. In the end, how to maintain a good relationship depends not only on the order, but also on how to manage the relationship. No matter how good the start is, if the process is not managed well, there will be no good results.

Bieber and Selena have been on and off for seven years. Fans always thought it was over, but in the end Selena fell ill and was hospitalized, and Bieber and Hailey got engaged. They met each other when they were 18 or 19 years old, which perfectly explained what it means - the purest love at the best age. At that time, Bieber and Selena also put marriage on their agenda. As a result, Selena's family strongly objected because they could not forgive Bieber for hurting Selena. Hailey has been with Bieber for a long time, and the two have always been good friends from childhood to adolescence. As he grows older, bad boy Bieber also matures. He understands that he and Selena have been on and off for seven years, and they already know each other's personalities, strengths and weaknesses. Which one is more important, Selena's love for him or his own love for Selena? Bieber knows how much Selena loves him.

And Hailey stayed with Bieber when he was at his lowest, which can already shake a man's heart. No one can predict the future. Bieber has fallen into a trough and doesn't know whether he can return to the top. All the wrong things he has done have even made his mother stay away from him. At a time when the whole world was blaming her for abandoning her and waiting to see her own jokes, Hailey was always by her side, encouraging herself. Hailey's tolerance and forbearance made her finally win Bieber's heart.

Speaking of which, I have to mention Jay Chou and Quinlivan. Jay Chou, who is extremely chauvinistic, competitive, and ambitious, meets Kun Ling, who is sweet-looking, always considers him, and has no ambitions. It is a match made in heaven.

In love, the ideal order of appearance should be not too early and not too late. If you get to know someone too early, you will feel aggrieved and sad. If you get to know someone too late, you will miss too much and be helpless. I hope we can all meet someone who understands and cherishes us at the right time.