Li Wan or Xue Baochai, who is the perfect daughter-in-law in Mrs. Wang's mind?

This is an interesting question. Both Li Wan and Xue Baochai are the daughters-in-law of Mrs. Wang. Generally speaking, as long as there are two or more daughter-in-laws, the mother-in-law will compare them in her heart. So, in the heart of Mrs. Wang, the mother-in-law, who is better among the two daughters-in-law, Li Wan and Xue Baochai?

The answer is obvious, Xue Baochai wins. Li Wan was more virtuous than talented. He was more than capable of self-cultivation, but not enough to manage his family.

Modern people like to call flashy women vases. The so-called flashy means that they are beautiful but have no practical talents, so they are suitable for displaying at home as decorations. In fact, there were also vase-style women in ancient times, but due to different aesthetics, beauty was regarded as high in virtue rather than beautiful in appearance. Therefore, the ancients liked to enshrine those with high virtue but no talent and place them as vases in appropriate places to enhance their reputation.

Therefore, in ancient times, "virtue" and "ability" were separated: those with high virtues were virtuous, and those with high talents were capable. There were too few people with both virtue and talent, so we had to support the sages and let the capable do practical things. .

Li Wan is a vase among ancient women. He has high morals and low talents. He is only suitable for offering sacrifices and lacks the ability to take on specific affairs. There is no doubt about Gao. The Li family originally belonged to a scholarly family. "Both men and women in the family are all reciters and readers." However, his father Li Shouzhong praised women's virtues to the extreme, so Li Wan's education became emphasizing virtue. He doesn't value talent, "it's just a matter of reading three or four kinds of books such as "Four Books on Women", "Biographies of Lienu", and "Collections of Xian Yuan" so that he can recognize a few words and remember these virtuous women from the previous dynasty." The purpose was to make Li Wan a virtuous daughter.

Father Li was very successful in educating Li Wan. After Jia Zhu’s death, the young and widowed Li Wan became the vase of Jia’s family. “Although he was widowed in his youth, In the midst of the beauty and beauty at home, she is as dead as a dead tree. She is completely unknown and unknown. She only knows how to serve her parents and adopted children, and outside, she accompanies her sister-in-law and waits for her to recite needlework." This kind of behavior of hers won the Jia family a virtuous reputation.

However, reputation is just something that sounds good to the outside world. It is like a gorgeous robe. Only the person who wears it knows how good it is.

Because Li Wan is not good at talent, she is not good at it. In order to highlight this point, the author deliberately asked Wang Xifeng to retire due to illness in the fifty-fifth chapter, and Li Wan was promoted to the position of manager, and only one example was used to embody Li Wan. Lack of talent means she cannot be a master.

This episode is called "A foolish concubine who humiliates her own daughter to gain leisure and deceive her young master into taking risks." It mainly talks about one thing: Tan Chun cooperates with Li. The housekeeper Wan happened to have his uncle pass away, so Aunt Zhao came to ask for more money for the funeral. On the one hand, her mother was being arrogant, and on the other hand, Tan Chun was in an extremely difficult situation because of his evil intentions. Most appropriate. This is the most important thing that tests Li Wan's housekeeping ability. As the eldest daughter-in-law, she can not only calm Aunt Zhao, but also deter the troublesome slaves. More importantly, she can also save Tanchun from being humiliated. Whether she was a family member or a eldest sister-in-law, Li Wan had an obligation to do this, especially to protect her sister-in-law. If it had been Wang Xifeng, she would have slapped Diao Nu Wu Xindeng's wife in the face and said angrily. Scolding Aunt Zhao.

Li Wan added fuel to the fire and intensified the conflict: "Auntie, don't be angry. He couldn't blame the girl, he was so full of things that he wanted to pull, but he couldn't express it with his mouth. "This sentence alone shows that Li Wan has no talent as a housekeeper and disregards ethics for personal affairs. Just as Tan Chun retorted to her, "Whose girls are pulling slaves? ". If you really want to engage in personal affairs, you can't say it openly. In front of so many people, in public, doesn't this make Tanchun more difficult to do?

This is also why Later, the foreshadowing was laid by Li Wan's mother and son taking care of themselves and not caring about everyone else. The most important thing in family management is to take into account the overall situation, not just the interests of the small family.

This can be seen. It can be seen that if Li Wan were in charge of the family, although she would not be as domineering as Wang Xifeng, she would be very selfish. She would never be able to bring harmony to the family without thinking about her mother and son.

This is the result of her father's education. He "didn't let her study very much." In addition to learning how to be a virtuous woman, she failed to learn her mind and vision from books, and she did not know how to deal with problems from a big picture. Lack of talent for family affairs.

Xue Baochai has both ability and political integrity. He can convince people with his virtue and has a strong ability to deal with problems.

Xue Baochai is also a person of high moral character, but her moral character is different from that of Li Wan. She has both the virtues of a woman like Li Wan and the virtues of a gentleman like a "high scholar in the mountains".

Li Wan’s style of female virtue was a compulsory requirement for women in the society at that time, and it was an external form. However, the gentleman’s virtue of the “high scholar in the mountains” came from the heart. In other words, Li Wan's virtue is only for others to see, but Baochai's virtue is both internal and external.

So, in the eyes of everyone, Li Wan is a Bodhisattva, and people should stay away from him. It looks good from a distance, but it is inaccessible. Not long after Baochai entered Jia's house, he "won the hearts of his servants" and was someone with whom he could have a close relationship.

This is the essential difference between the two virtues, and it is this difference that determines their attitude towards life and their ability to deal with problems.

Taking the same example of temporarily helping the housekeeper Tanchun, Li Wan valued the small family over everyone, and focused on pulling in close relatives, but Baochai was a "little benefit to the whole body" and paid more attention to the interests of the group. This is a The thinking and height that managers should have.

It can be seen that Baochai is a perfect talent with both ability and political integrity: when she is not involved in management, she can convince people with her virtue; when she is involved in specific management affairs, she can solve problems through her ability, Let everyone benefit.

Cultivate yourself and then manage your family, and take care of everyone in the family. This is the quality that a head of the family should possess. Based on her own experience and situation, Mrs. Wang needs a daughter-in-law with both political integrity and talent.

The virtues and talents of Li Wan and Xue Baochai were compared above, but in Mrs. Wang’s heart, which one did she value more? This is a very subjective view, but this subjectivity is the core of this issue. Which daughter-in-law does Mrs. Wang think she is most satisfied with?

To answer this question, we have to analyze it from Mrs. Wang’s perspective.

Mrs. Wang is also a person who values ??virtue but not talent. She has more than enough virtue but lacks the ability to manage the family. This is the main reason why she changed from a "really loud and quick" person to a wooden person. As the head mother of the house, she lacks the ability to manage the house and can only hold on. How can she still have the mind and energy to do the things she likes?

Yes, ability cannot be achieved through force, it is a kind of wisdom. Without this kind of wisdom, you will get twice the result with half the effort, and it will be difficult to achieve results even if you work hard. With this kind of wisdom, you will get twice the result with half the effort, and you can achieve remarkable results easily.

When Mrs. Wang manages Rongguo Mansion, she is really trying to catch up. She has no intention and no ability. The energetic Wang Xifeng came to help, but he was exhausted. The painful lesson made Mrs. Wang understand that things like being in charge of the family should be done by capable people.

Whether the two brothers Jia She and Jia Zheng separate or not, Mrs. Wang needs a capable daughter-in-law to take over her position as mistress. If the family is not separated, Wang Xifeng will be exhausted and has no hope of coming back; if the family is separated, Mrs. Wang needs to place more hope in her daughter-in-law.

Which of the daughters-in-law, Li Wan and Baochai, can take over Mrs. Wang’s position as mistress? Of course Baochai is more suitable. First of all, in terms of moral character, Li Wan and Baochai both meet Mrs. Wang's requirements, but in terms of ability, Li Wan and Baochai are simply incomparable.

Therefore, in Mrs. Wang's heart, Baochai is a rare talent and the most perfect daughter-in-law.