Have you ever heard of how miserable grandmothers over sixty years old had it when they were wives?

After living in the village for more than half a month, I found that there are many women over 60 living alone in the village. Most of them are widowed. Their children work and live in the city. They only come back to visit them on their days off. .

If nothing goes wrong, the daily life of these mothers-in-law will be as set. They get up when the rooster crows, wash up, and then cook a pot of porridge, which is enough to eat for a whole day. After breakfast, I went to take care of the vegetable garden, and spent the rest of the time sitting in the yard basking in the sun, smiling as I watched young people and children chasing and playing in front of the door.

Occasionally, I see two elderly couples at home. Their lives seem to be much more vivid. We were inseparable every day, eating together, walking hand in hand on the country roads, occasionally chatting with the old man across the river, and the days seemed to be happier.

For those women who live alone, men have long become a memory, a handful of dirt. Rural women rarely remarry, let alone a 60-year-old woman. Therefore, if their wives are gone, they will either live alone or leave their familiar environment to live with the children in the city. Granny Zhang, 64 years old

My wife passed away from a cerebral hemorrhage the year before last. After my wife left, I lived with my son for a while. I couldn’t get used to living there, so I came back.

My legs and feet are still convenient now. I can prepare three meals a day, so there is no need to cause trouble to the young people. My son is also considered filial. He comes back almost every Saturday and Sunday and brings me some rice. I can still grow vegetables myself, but I can’t eat much by myself.

The days are so long, and when I’m bored, I hang out in the village and occasionally play mahjong with my old sisters. My life is pretty good. Nothing. What I fear most is getting sick. A few days ago, Mrs. Chen next door passed away. I heard that she had a heart attack and fell beside the bed. I am afraid that one day I will leave like this silently without even seeing the children for the last time. Out of desolation.

If you ask me if I still need a man at the age of 60, I would like to say that what a 60-year-old woman needs is not a man, but companionship. No matter you are a man or a woman, you will not feel lonely and helpless as long as you have a companion by your side. Mrs. Chen, 60 years old

My wife and I have been married for almost 40 years. When we were young, we often quarreled and even got divorced once. Even though my face is full of wrinkles now, I was still a beauty when I was young. Marrying my wife was completely the intention of my parents. At that time, their family conditions were relatively good, and they would have meat to eat after marrying me. Although she was not very willing, she still got married. There was no relationship between the two of us originally. I was a bit young and energetic at that time, and I always felt that he was not good enough for me, so we often quarreled after marriage.

One time he made a move, and I became completely angry and insisted on divorcing him. Two years after the divorce, the two remarried for the sake of their children.

The children are gradually growing up, and the relationship between our husband and wife is getting better and better. When I was 50 years old, I almost died due to heavy bleeding caused by uterine fibroids. When I woke up and saw the man next to me wiping tears, I really felt that this man was really good.

Although we still quarrel and find fault with each other over all kinds of trivial matters, we all know in our hearts that it will be sad if one day there is no one to quarrel with.

We are inseparable wherever we go now. As long as we don’t see each other for more than 24 hours, we will feel very uncomfortable. We will worry about whether the other person will not be able to eat well or sleep well alone. The children all joke that we were enemies when we were young, but we become like husband and wife when we are old.

For women, even if they have children and grandchildren around their knees, they are not as warm as the people around them. Children's lives belong to children, and only when you are with your wife can you feel that this is your own life. Granny Wei, 61 years old

I should be considered an outlier in the village. After all, not many women are still looking for a wife at the age of 60. My ex-husband died young and I was already a widow when I was 45 years old. At that time, my two children were still young, and my husband's family didn't want me to remarry, so I softened my heart, so I took care of the two children and ran the family by myself.

Now that my two children have grown up and have their own families, I have retired. My current wife and I have known each other for a long time. He is a village doctor in the town next to ours. His wife also passed away a few years ago.

Because I often went to see him for medical treatment, I gradually became familiar with him.

Actually, it took a long time for us to decide to be together. After all, we are at this age. You know, people in rural areas are formidable.

However, he said something that I think makes sense. He said, "We have lived for most of our lives for others. Can't we live for ourselves in the remaining few decades?" ? ”

Fortunately, our children can understand and accept the feelings between us. It doesn’t matter what other people think, I live my life for myself.

When people heard that I was still looking for a man at the age of 60, they said I was shameless, including some women who were also widowed. To be honest, at this age, who still thinks about that? I just want to have someone around me to talk to, someone who can understand the cold and the hot.