Finally my dream came true and I had a big fight with my mother-in-law.

Before I got married, I heard others say that my mother-in-law and daughter-in-law were contradictory, and I always felt that this kind of thing would not happen to me.

I thought that as long as I exchange my heart for my mother-in-law like my own mother, there should be no problem, but this is not the case in reality …

I had another dream recently:

One cold winter, I was cooking in the kitchen. Suddenly, an old woman selling side dishes came. She is kind and reminds me of my grandmother. I also sold vegetables with her when I was a child.

Seeing the dishes sold by the old man, her mother-in-law planted them and put them at home. I'm afraid my mother-in-law won't be happy if I buy it. Although a little reluctant, I refused.

Feeling that the old man is cold and hungry, it is not easy to grow vegetables, feeling sorry, give him a bowl of hot rice …

Unfortunately, my mother-in-law just came home from outside at this moment. Seeing this scene, she rushed over and dragged the bowl away, revealing a bad mother-in-law's face, which made people feel scared ...

In this way, we had a fierce argument, had a big fight, and I was woken up …

This year is the seventh year of her husband's marriage, and she has been with her mother-in-law for six years. After marriage, I seldom go back to my mother's house.

My husband and I met someone nearby. At that time, just after the Spring Festival, we were both forced to date by our parents. Later, we learned that we were junior high school alumni and he was one year older than me.

After chatting on the mobile phone for two days, we met. My husband looks honest and treats me well. Both parents are farmers.

After discussing with my parents, I asked my husband to invite an introducer and his parents to my house to propose marriage.

My mother-in-law was sincere when she first went to my house, saying that she had no daughter and would definitely treat me as her own daughter. At that time, I actually believed it and agreed to this marriage without asking for a house. My parents also agreed.

My mother-in-law gave me the first impression that honest rural women are diligent all their lives.

I promised not to buy a house because I wanted to live with my mother-in-law. She can help us when I have children. In-laws are old, so they can take care of each other conveniently.

Before I got married, I lived in my mother-in-law's house. At that time, I didn't have to do anything I have to try my best to make ends meet. I feel that my mother-in-law really treats me as her own daughter.

Later, I gave birth to our first child, a daughter. Because my in-laws have given birth to two sons, I like her granddaughter very much. My in-laws treated her like a princess, so I naturally became a queen.

Before giving birth to a second child, my mother-in-law still treated me as before, helping me cook, wash clothes and tidy up. Although I didn't say anything to her, I was in awe of her.

When our daughter just turned one year old, her mother-in-law urged us to have a second child. I didn't agree at the time. I didn't expect the child to get pregnant unexpectedly when he was fourteen months old. Later, I learned that my husband did it on purpose.

With the support of my husband's family, I decided to leave a little life in my stomach. At that time, the reaction during pregnancy, the shape and hardness of the stomach were completely different from those when pregnant with Dabao. We all thought it was a boy.

Although I have no preference for boys, who doesn't want to have both children?

But at the moment when the child was born, everyone's heart was relieved. I tried to comfort myself: my daughter is also very good. If she is well trained, she can still do something when she grows up, and others can't get it if they want it.

On the surface, my mother-in-law seems to be indifferent and take care of Bauer and me as when she was born, but her attitude has obviously changed a lot.

My mother-in-law sends me meals regularly and quantitatively every day, but she never asks me if I eat well. I was often hungry at that time.

Sometimes my mother-in-law goes to work in the fields, leaving my eldest daughter to take care of me. In the second half of the month, she went out to work every afternoon without consulting me.

At that time, it may be because there are too many things every day, and I only want to take care of my children. Coupled with the pride in my bones, I didn't feel more bitter and tired.

Some people say that there are too many enmities in the next month, but women are weak and have great mood swings after giving birth, so they should take care of them. If she is wronged in the next month, she will really remember it for a lifetime …

My husband and I took care of our eldest daughter when she was a child, and my mother-in-law helped us share a lot of housework.

Since Bauer was born, when I took care of my two children wholeheartedly, my mother-in-law not only didn't help me, but also began to find fault with me, thinking that I got up late, the house was dirty, and my children cried and fell down, blaming me for a little problem.

When you are in a good mood, you run on me with jokes. I told my children that I am a bad mother and I can't take care of my children. Criticize them when they are in a bad mood. Although I didn't name names, I knew it was actually me.

Because she is an elder and has helped me before, I choose to submit to humiliation every time, and I am willing to endure anything for two children.

However, my humiliation did not bring family harmony. On the contrary, her mother-in-law became worse, often swearing alone, which made her family restless.

During that time, I often had nightmares about quarreling with my mother-in-law. In my dream, I tried to defend myself, and the whole person seemed to explode with anger.

My mother-in-law is also determined, and we are all venting what we dare not show in real life, as if to fight to the death.

Because in real life, I don't have the confidence and courage to defend myself, and I'm even more afraid that I don't know how to get along after I break my face.

My mother-in-law is also due to her status as a "good mother-in-law", and every time people can't find out that she is scolding me.

However, my heart is still not reconciled to these grievances. I always intensify contradictions and prepare for the worst. On the contrary, it turns out that my worries are unnecessary. When you try your best to defend yourself, even the best people will make way for you.

In this way, I will no longer be timid, timid and afraid of quarreling with my mother-in-law. I didn't expect things to be as bad as I thought when I wasn't afraid …

The cause of the incident was my eldest daughter's first autumn outing in kindergarten, because the child was still young and needed to be accompanied by her parents all the time, and I still had two treasures to take care of.

When I think that many children in my daughter's class are old enough to go to school, there are still a few people at home who follow me. Sometimes there are only two people who pick up the children after school. I always pick them up alone with Bauer, which makes me feel unbalanced and disgusted …

There is also a tug-of-war this autumn outing. Many children are accompanied by both parents. Time is running out. I shouted angrily to my husband: I won't make money today, so I will go on an autumn outing with my children. How can I bring up two children by myself?

But my husband wants to go out to set up a stall while the weather is good and doesn't want to rest. After all, there are two children at home, and the financial burden is very heavy. Let his mother-in-law who is just about to go out help take care of Bauer.

Mother-in-law looked unhappy, picked up Bauer and lost her temper there: I am unlucky this year, and no one can control me next year!

What she means is that if we let her look after the children for a while, we will look after her!

I'm even angrier. I immediately stopped and asked, Mom, who cares about you?

My mother-in-law replied: I am talking about my son.

I knew my mother-in-law would say this, so I asked her: can't your son let you take your granddaughter down?

My mother-in-law retorted: I didn't say no!

I said: you don't want to bring it, you put the child down for me and earn your money!

Hearing this, the mother-in-law said confidently, what's wrong with me making money? I don't make money, just sit at home like you? Look who doesn't make money outside these days. Isn't it enough to take care of the children alone?

Mother-in-law's words completely angered me: am I sitting at home? Did the two children grow up this big by themselves?

I took a deep breath. In order to avoid losing control of my emotions, I asked, tell me, which grandson is crying at home and nobody cares, and grandma is still outside just making money?

My mother-in-law asked me: What are you doing when the child is crying at home?

I replied: don't I have to cook, wash clothes and clean the house? I don't know who makes a hullabaloo about every time he comes home and sees the house dirty and messy!

Mother-in-law immediately changed the subject: that won't do. You can go to work. Give me both children. I promise to take good care of them.

I asked: How do you take care of them? Are you responsible for the children when you say this?

Mother-in-law said: just eat and wear warm clothes!

I question: Do you think it was thirty years ago? Just eat and wear warm clothes. That's your standard. I gave birth to the children, and I am responsible for them!

My words left my mother-in-law speechless …

Later, because of time, I took my eldest daughter to kindergarten alone, and when I left, I also saw my mother-in-law's weak expression and attitude.

This is the first time I have quarreled with my mother-in-law. I said a lot of things that I usually want to say but dare not say, and my heart was extremely happy and comfortable.

When I arrived at kindergarten, my husband called and said, my mother said how I married such a powerful wife! If she says one thing, you can say ten!

In this quarrel, I made my mother-in-law look at me with new eyes. Before, my good temper turned into cowardice. Later, I understood that when I should fight for myself, I must not shrink back …

Later, I came to understand that the main contradiction in the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law comes from the conceptual differences created in different times. Daughter-in-law can't go back to her mother-in-law's time and realize her mother-in-law's suffering, and it's hard for her mother-in-law to understand that her daughter-in-law in this era lives an idle life ...

I have lived with my mother-in-law for six years, and even if I think her mother-in-law has gone too far in life, I will be polite. There are many words hidden in each other's hearts, which have produced many contradictions.

As daughters-in-law, we are outsiders. When I first married my in-laws, I was probably a family member. Our in-laws are also polite and will tolerate our little mistakes and laziness.

However, as we spend more time together, there are more and more trivial matters at home, and contradictions from all sides will accumulate. Living habits, parenting concepts and consumption levels have gradually widened the gap.

If we don't communicate and deal with these problems in time, it will lead to more and more contradictions, more and more tension in family relations and more and more difficulties in getting along with family members …

Whenever we have problems, we are always used to finding reasons and faults in others, trying to correct their faults and change others …

The more such problems, the more contradictions there will be, because all the problems are rooted in themselves, and the emotions of others have nothing to do with themselves, and their emotions have nothing to do with others.

My mother-in-law is from the previous generation. We cannot change her. We can only influence her by correcting our shortcomings in behavior and habits.

The key to the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law lies in the son of mother-in-law and the husband of daughter-in-law As long as the relationship between husband and wife is well managed, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law will get closer and closer …

I am a second-born mother in rural areas who is uneasy about the status quo. I love life and writing. I hope my story can touch you and my words can inspire you. Thank you for meeting me!