Why do you choke when you open your mouth?

There is a person who cannot speak very well. He chokes people to death when he opens his mouth. He is the kind of person who chats to death when he opens his mouth. As soon as he opens his mouth, the other person will be furious to death. As a result, everyone in the village was afraid of talking to this person to avoid bringing bad luck. There was a wedding and wedding event in the village, and they were not willing to let this person attend. This man was anxious, and after repeated requests, his neighbor agreed to take him to a banquet, on the condition that he could only eat with his head down and not speak. The man quickly nodded in agreement. On this day, a family in the village held a full moon banquet for their children, and the neighbor took this person to the banquet. This man really only ate and said nothing during the dinner. He devoured a big meal. After he was full of wine and food, the host saw off the guests. When he walked to the door, this man let out a long sigh of relief and spoke. Li: I didn’t say a word today! If your children have some problems in the future, don’t blame me! The owner was stunned on the spot!

This is a true joke. My friend told it at least three times on different occasions. The first time I heard it, I laughed until I shed tears. When I heard it again, I couldn’t laugh anymore.

Do you see why this person chokes people to death as soon as he opens his mouth? Is he simply low in IQ? I think it's caused by lack of education and disrespect for others. He lacks the respect he deserves for others, so he cannot consider and bless others with good intentions. He does not expect good things from others, but only thinks that others will be unlucky. A person with a dark mentality will not bless the other person deep in his heart, so what he blurts out is often a weapon to hurt others. Moreover, this kind of person is still the type to evade responsibility. He hopes that others will suffer misfortune, but is unwilling to take any responsibility. Instead, he hides aside and watches the joke. If the other party is really unlucky, he must be the one standing by and not only watching, but also adding insult to injury.

In a word: words are the voice of the heart, and those who speak evil words must have a good heart and not much good.

I have a friend, Da Liu, whose words are not very pleasant. I also have a friend, Xiao Wang, who makes people feel like spring breeze every time he speaks. I often tease Da Liu, "Can you learn from Xiao Wang? You see how many people can talk, but Da Liu always twists his head, can you learn it?" Don’t learn! One time we all had dinner together. During the dinner, Xiao Wang praised Xiao Yang and me, saying that the two beauties were getting younger and younger. They looked like eighteen years old! Xiao Yang and I were very excited when we heard it. Who doesn’t like to hear good words? However, before we could laugh, Liu added: What are you saying about eighteen years old? I think they look like eighty years old! Ouch, my God! My and Xiao Yang's smiles immediately froze after hearing this! No words to answer! I was forced to talk to him to death today! Xiao Wang saw that Xiao Yang and I looked embarrassed, so he quickly smoothed things over and said, "How do you talk like a big Liu? Don't you think these two beauties are becoming more and more temperamental, energetic, beautiful and cute?" The people around him also denounced Da Liu. Under the siege of everyone, Da Liu said, "I was joking."

If it is a joke, this joke is a bit cold!

We often joke with acquaintances, but jokes need to be divided into people, time and occasions. There are people who are not very familiar with the dinner that day, so this occasion is not suitable for making such jokes. Moreover, jokes should be good-natured and not meant to belittle or mock others. It is better to say less if it makes people feel psychologically uncomfortable.

In the final analysis, chatting to death and hurting others still lack respect for people. China is a country of etiquette. What is etiquette? In fact, in the final analysis, it is respect for others, etiquette means respect. If you respect others, you will put yourself in their shoes, think in their shoes, and do not do to others what you do not want others to do to you. On the contrary, using vulgar language and choking people to death with one sentence may appear to be a lack of etiquette, but deep down it may be a lack of respect for people.

Many people who choke others with their words will excuse the harm they have caused to others by saying that they have a straightforward personality and do not mince words. In fact, speaking is an art that requires learning and continuous improvement. Yes, character can also be reshaped through continuous learning. Therefore, whether one speaks well or not has little to do with character and is more closely related to self-cultivation. Once you have achieved self-cultivation, you will take into account the feelings of others, respect others, and be merciful.