Learn to shut up all your life! Have smart people learned to talk less?

Language is like a double-edged sword. If used properly, it can open up a life path for you. If used improperly, it will harm others and not benefit themselves. In the end, you will only leave yourself with a bunch of bitter fruit.

Speaking is an art, and Aso has a saying in The Art of Not Speaking:? If your relationship with the other person is equal, then the time you have and the time you talk are 50%, and the time you don't talk is 50%. ?

It can be seen that not talking is the same as talking, and talking is to express your own views and opinions. Not talking is listening to other people's ideas, which is a sign of respect for others and a kind of cultivation.

Really smart people can not only talk, but also talk? Shut up? .

Everyone has different experiences, values and ideas. When the two sides disagree, they are good at it. Shut up? Playing the fool, not everything needs to be serious, just know what is right and wrong in your heart.

Smart people always divide their words into seven parts, leaving room for everything. Aggressiveness is not a good thing, it will only make interpersonal relationships worse and worse. If you talk too much, you lose. What to say and what not to say should be divided into different occasions. Only caution can achieve great things.

02. Know how to speak on different occasions and be good at it? Shut up?

Someone put it? Chatty? As an advantage, I feel that people with this ability are popular outside. In fact, I know how to speak on different occasions and am good at it. Shut up? . Because you're good at this? Shut up? Everybody, carry it clearly.

In Love O2O, Bei Weiwei often helps a little boy make up lessons, and then the boy's parents drive Bei Weiwei back to school in a luxury car. This passage happened to be seen by Cao Guang, an alumnus. No matter whether it is true or not, he took photos and praised Bei Weiwei for being kept by others.

Because of this misunderstanding, Bei Weiwei didn't want to make friends with Cao Guang, and even hated him.

Bad words hurt people in June. People who can't control their mouths and can't speak fluently always leave a bad impression on others, so they often miss many opportunities in life.

The power of language is very powerful. The more you talk, the better. Sometimes it is appropriate? Shut up? It is the wisest choice.

03. Know how to respect others and be good at respecting others? Shut up? Listen attentively.

Carnegie once said in the weakness of human nature:? Being a good listener and encouraging others to talk about themselves is one of the ways to make others like you. ?

Know how to respect others and be good at respecting others? Shut up? Listen. Good at it? Shut up? People who listen are more popular.

The TV series The Legend of Chu and Han mainly tells the touching strategic war between Liu Bang and Xiang Yu. Xiang Yu is good at fighting. He fought with Liu Bang more than 70 times in his life and never lost. However, although Liu Bang suffered heavy losses in the war, his territory grew bigger and bigger. I can't help being confused. Why?

The reason is that Xiang Yu is not good at listening. Even after winning the battle, his men went to Liu Bang. In contrast, Liu Bang is more popular. And Xiang Yu's only capable person? Fan Zeng, still won't listen, so the final outcome, xiang yu fiasco.

Don't move your mouth when it is time to move your ears. Be good at listening to others, not only show respect for each other, but also show your own cultivation and connotation.

Benevolent people have different opinions, and wise people have different opinions. If you don't listen to other people's ideas and opinions, your vision will become very narrow.

Good at it? Shut up? Listening and giving others the opportunity to express themselves can often make people see your generosity and your good qualities, which will make you more popular.

04, know how to leave three points, know how to be timely? Shut up?

Good at it? Shut up? Some people, when talking to others, go easy on each other, in fact, they also leave a good retreat for themselves.

Thirty years in Hedong, thirty years in Hexi, no one can say what will happen in the future. Don't judge others at will with your own eyes, and be timely when you shouldn't say it? Shut up? .

Qin Li plays a poor girl Yu Fei in the TV series Bright Life. She met a rich girl, Ling Ye, and they became very good friends.

When Ling Ye found out that her fiance was in love with Yu Fei, she did not hesitate to ask her mother to pursue Yu Fei. Ling Ye's mother is relatively strong. In the face of the plain Yu Fei, her words are aggressive, and she makes Yu Fei worthless.

Maybe it's nature. Because of a series of things, Ling Ye's mother found that Yu Fei was her own daughter. When she tried to save Yu Fei's heart, it was too late.

Words spoken are like overflowing water. Some words hurt people invisibly. It is not necessarily a good thing to say it, but it hurts each other's feelings.

Knowing how to leave three points is to leave a way out for yourself. Even if you fail at something and hit yourself in the face, it won't be too ugly.

People who talk big often feel ashamed after failure, and also make others look down on him more and never want to have any contact with him again.

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What are really smart people good at? Shut up? .

If you want to win the favor of others, you must calmly deal with what happened, try to shut up where you can, and say more and make more mistakes. Sometimes being a bystander can help us understand the trend of things more clearly and make the best response.

Zhu Ziqing said this sentence silently. Your words should be like stars at night, not firecrackers on New Year's Eve. Who wants to set off firecrackers all night? ?

In a word, different people may have different ideas. You can't let others take your jokes seriously, and you can't treat your truth as a joke.