At the wedding, the bride had to change her name and call her mother-in-law by name. Was her mother-in-law right?

I don't think it's a reasonable fee to change your mouth.

Although I have seen many readers mention that there is indeed a change fee in the folk custom of marriage in my hometown, it is established and everyone agrees.

Some people even said a definite amount, one in a million, no more, no less, which can not only represent good intentions, but also won't cause conflicts over this money.

to tell you the truth, I was quite depressed after listening to it. Really, isn't it much? The so-called change, is not renamed mother-in-law as "mom" and father-in-law as "dad"? Just two words, a word of five thousand dollars, can really be described as "a word of gold", so expensive to change, can really be called not much?

whether it's a folk custom agreement or not, I personally don't recommend changing the fee, which is an embarrassing fee. If it's a small red envelope, it's just enough. If it's really online, I really think it's too much.

Changing one's mouth is always about one's feelings and wishes. I don't think calling parents should be tempted by this kind of reward, or forced by threats.

When feelings arrive, what is called out is the true feelings. Don't just put on a show. This "parents" should be a kind of identity recognition, which is to be closer to each other and make life easier.

It's so utilitarian that you can only call your parents if you give money. If you don't give money, shouldn't you call your parents as a new wife? What is the significance of this fee? I'm afraid it's to further alienate the two sides!

and so on, such as getting off the bus, opening the door and so on. Every time I talk about these expenses, someone will always refute them. My hometown is famous, which is not comparable to the bride price. But I want to tell you that these expenses are really unreasonable and really shouldn't be so trivial. Even if there are, this is a matter of "meaning", and I don't care at all.

It's natural to say that some people are willing to pay more and pay for these expenses according to their family situation, but for most ordinary families, it's really unnecessary to take it too seriously. Otherwise, it's not just a matter of hurting feelings, ruining marriage, but also slapping yourself in the face.

in the final analysis, these expenses are all for the wedding. If the wedding is really ruined, these expenses will have no meaning. Don't make a mistake about this. It's not these expenses that make the wedding, but the wedding bears these expenses. The wedding must be done smoothly, and these expenses will do.

more or less can be discussed in private, but don't make a temporary overweight and kill a comeback on the spot. In fact, expenses are trivial matters. When you conceal the other party and demand the other party by coercion, it is not only a matter of expenses, but also a matter of integrity and quality.

Sometimes you think it's worth fighting for "what you deserve" and the so-called face, but looking back, when you put forward these unreasonable demands and ruined your quality, you lost all your face.

The so-called face and respect are not blessed by these expenses, nor given by others, but earned by yourself. Don't put a lot of unnecessary meaning into these expenses. They don't have such a big face. In fact, it is not others but yourself who will eventually lose face.

Many people are like this. With excessive self-confidence, they feel that they can hold the whole court, and the chess pieces they release will definitely kill the opponent by surprise, win the opponent and make him bow to himself.

what they don't know is that marriage has never been won by only one party. This is often the case. You think you won, but in fact you lost more things. The so-called "winning" is just an illusion.

When you talk about marriage with the mentality of winning the other party, and pay special attention to every expense, you are doomed to lose your marriage at the starting line. You lose your feelings, trust, respect and competition.

Hu Meng lost like this. She lost completely. She felt that she was sure to make a profit, but when her fiance called off the wedding, she knew she had lost. She gambled that her boyfriend didn't dare to get angry at the moment and didn't dare to promise her anything, but nothing was absolute. When she understood this truth, it was too late.

Everyone familiar with Hu Meng knows that Hu Meng's personality is actually quite perverse. Although her family conditions are average, as an only child, she is excessively favored by the elderly on both sides, which makes this girl somewhat arrogant since she was a child. She once joked that she was a "Xiong Haizi" when she was a child.

She can pinch people with her fingernails, and all the children around her are afraid of her. If she wants something, she must get it, and her parents must buy it 24 hours a day. She is simply a devil incarnate.

Hu Meng is actually a very smart girl, with excellent academic performance and fine features, which have also become the capital to make her proud. Just like a charming girl in heaven, she has never suffered any major setbacks and obstacles since she was a child, and she has never tasted the taste of failure and frustration until she met Tan Yue.

Tan Yue is Hu Meng's boyfriend. Tan Yue is Hu Meng's college classmate and fellow countryman. Tan Yue has been fond of Hu Meng for four years in college, and they are also friends. During this period, Tan Yue once confessed to Hu Meng. But at that time, Hu Meng was very popular, and there was almost no empty window. Tan Yue said that she was a friend, more like a spare tire with no regrets, caring about Hu Meng and silently caring for her beside her.

Tan Yue is not a fool either. He likes dreaming, but he is not so infatuated as to be stupid. He also talked about love during the period, and finally ended up dead. Hu Meng is the same. Her love is a little hot for three minutes. After the passionate period, she no longer cares so much about her boyfriend. Plus, she is too unruly and capricious, and she loves to toss people. Her boyfriend finally can't stand Hu Meng's breakup.

When she graduated, Hu Meng wandered around in big cities for several years. In recent years, she has worn off a lot of pride. She found that the outside world was really not so friendly to her. After all, everyone came out to work, each doing his own job, and no one would deliberately spoil her.

Later, she quit her job, hid in her hometown town, took a stable but decent job according to her parents' arrangement, and began to make plans for her future life. What is a woman's lifelong sustenance? She should also think about this question.

All the promising young people around her have gone to big cities to develop, or some of them are married and have children, and few of them are single. Just when she is worried about herself, Tan Yue comes into Hu Meng's life.

Tan Yue also ventured outside for several years. Although this boy is not so smart, he can bear hardships, which is an excellent quality that many young people lack now. He worked outside for several years and came back with a sum of money to start a bakery chain.

He was far-sighted. At that time, the "online celebrity style" was not popular in small towns, but it was popular in big cities. He introduced the store directly to his hometown. That year, he earned a lot of money, not only recovered his money, but also made a net profit of nearly 4, yuan. Although the store traffic was not so big later, he made a reputation and repeated customers, and the store was able to operate stably. He was also a relatively successful entrepreneurial case.

At that time, Tan Yue finally broke up with his girlfriend because of emotional problems. It happened that he heard an old classmate say that Hu Meng had returned to his hometown, and he thought he was hopeless. After all, Hu Meng had a high vision and wanted to develop in a big city, but he didn't like a small-town youth with little ambition.

But now that Hu Meng is back, his heart is full of hope. With the psychology of giving it a try, he wants to contact Hu Meng and get in touch with her.

Hu Meng was suddenly contacted by an old classmate who once liked herself. It was an accident and a surprise at the same time. She finally felt that she had recovered some long-lost self-confidence. She remembered that the boy once liked himself very much, and after knowing that he was getting along well now, she came back to find her. Needless to say, Hu Meng knew something about it. After all, she was a smart person.

Tan Yue is careful not to tell her long-lost love, and always tries to find an excuse to ask Hu Meng out, but in fact, his little idea has long been seen through by Hu Meng. The reason why Hu Mengzhi didn't put it through was that he was half-hearted and enjoying the sense of superiority that was valued.

Later, Tan Yue felt that it was about time, so he confessed to Hu Meng, who deliberately delayed for nearly a month, saying that it was an assessment period, and finally "reluctantly" agreed to Tan Yue, and the two of them were officially together.

There is a saying that "those who are loved have nothing to fear", which is true. Two people in love, the one who loves more, always work hard, and so do Tan Yue and Hu Meng. Hu Meng knew that Tan Yue liked herself, and her nature began to be exposed. She was angry and unreasonable. Tan Yue had to coax her all the time, and Hu Meng wanted Tan Yue to spoil her unconditionally.

"Your fault is your fault, and mine is still your fault. In short, what makes me angry is that you have a problem and you must apologize to me." This strange theory, Hu Meng said of course, Tan Yue is also good-tempered, perhaps because he loves him too much, which makes him humble. No matter how much reluctance his girlfriend says, he will eventually compromise. Compromise again and again makes Hu Meng feel that he has an absolute advantage in this love.

Two people have been together for a year and a half, and their feelings are stable under the support of Tan Yue, so they are ready to get married. Tan Yue has been preparing for a long time to propose marriage, which Hu Meng pointed out must be. Originally, Tan Yue was a pragmatic person who didn't know much about romance. He felt that both parents agreed, but there was no need to propose marriage, but Hu Meng refused. In order to round his girlfriend's dream of proposing marriage, he took great pains, while Hu Meng pretended not to know anything and accepted this "unexpected surprise" in front of everyone.

But somehow, after this proposal, Tan Yue began to feel a little sympathetic. Suddenly, he felt that his girlfriend was really pretending, and he had to propose at the gate of her company, so that everyone knew that she asked him to crawl at his feet like a queen and enjoy it.

One carat is not a small sum. If you want to get married, you need a bride price to buy a house, and your newly opened branch also needs money to turn around. However, Hu Meng insisted that a woman must have a diamond ring, and said that it is worthless under one carat. This diamond ring is also one of the reasons that makes Tan Yue feel a little unhappy.

My girlfriend asked for a bride price of 2, yuan, which is quite a lot in the local area. With the diamond ring, the full house and the woman's name, the whole set has basically emptied the pockets of young people in this town. Although it is a little unpleasant, Tan Yue still thinks it is worthwhile to marry the woman she has always loved.

Tan Yue is a long-lasting person, but it's a pity that Hu Meng isn't. She thought for a long time before deciding to marry Tan Yue. Although she likes Tan Yue, she is far less than Tan Yue. She thinks Tan Yue is particularly easy to control and has a decent job before deciding to marry him. She only thinks about herself and doesn't care about Tan Yue's mood. Sooner or later, such two people will have conflicts, but no one will.

After Tan Yue met all Hu Meng's requirements, the wedding date was set, and the date soon arrived. Everything went well on the wedding day, but at Tan Yue's house, when they changed their minds by offering Tan Yue's parents tea, there was a problem.

Perhaps it was Hu Meng's vanity, and she wanted to show her position in her husband's family in front of everyone. At first, Hu Meng said nothing, but when it was time to pour the tea bowl, she suddenly stopped and made her own demands.

"It's easy for me to call my parents. I have to pay a change fee of 6 thousand yuan, which is also a good luck."

Hu Meng's mother-in-law was so happy that she was ready to pick up the tea bowl long ago. Her hand stopped in the air for a long time and she could only put it down with an embarrassed face. Tan Yue didn't expect this at all. Hu Meng didn't even say hello to himself at all. In front of so many people, he must be angry.

"Hu Meng, what are you doing? Why didn't you say something about the 6 thousand yuan change fee in advance? Now that it's all here, my parents are not prepared. Where can I get you this money? "

Hu Meng, on the other hand, was very calm and in no hurry. She put the tea bowl aside, brushed her knees and stood up.

"Don't worry, it's too late to prepare now. I'll wait here. I'll change my mouth whenever the fee for changing my mouth is in place."

This sentence really angered Tan Yue. In front of parents and relatives, Hu Meng's words were too decisive and ugly, and he showed no mercy. If there were only two people, Tan Yue could understand this, but in front of so many people, he really felt that this woman was unreasonable. For the first time, Tan Yue really lost patience with Hu Meng and lost her former love.

It's the first time, too. Tan Yue didn't follow Hu Meng's advice: "You don't want to change the confession fee. I'm in charge. It's impossible to give this money. You can either continue to get married or go back to your parents' house. I'll give you two choices. It's up to you!"

Hu Meng was shocked by Tan Yue's words. It was the first time that she heard Tan Yue say cruel words to herself. The first thought in her heart was not that she had really done it, but that Tan Yue dared to talk to herself like this. She felt very humiliated in front of so many people. Go back. This is not her style. If she continued to get married, she couldn't swallow this tone, and immediately she came up with an idea.

pretending to be obedient, she continued to pour tea with a teacup, but instead of "Mom", she called out her mother-in-law's full name.

if you don't give me the fee for changing my name, then I don't need to change my name. It's because your family is not honest and asks for it. Hu Meng was thinking this in her heart. She felt particularly frank when she finished. Anyway, Tan Yue can take care of her. Tan Yue loves her after all. Even if she said malicious words, she didn't believe that Tan Yue would really treat her. Her heart was so sure, but then something happened that made her more "frank".

Before Hu Meng could react, she was splashed with tea. It was Tan Yue who threw tea in her face in anger.

"Hu Meng, it's really nice of you to successfully touch my bottom line. Do you know what to do and what not to do? You're crazy now, like a bitch. I'll wake you up!

I'm telling you now, we're done. Please give me back all the wedding rings and bride price now. If you don't get married, you're too expensive. I can't afford a word. If you leave now, I never want to see you again. "

Hu Meng was directly pulled out of the house. She left angrily. She thought Tan Yue would catch up as before, but she thought too much. Tan Yue didn't even look at it, turned around and left, closing the door behind her.

Hu Meng was dumbfounded, and she was kicked out just after entering her husband's house. She couldn't afford to lose this man, but she was too ashamed to go back and call the door, so she had to go back to her parents' house in despair. Later, Tan Yue did very well. He went to the door and asked for all the things he bought for Hu Meng. He didn't talk about it at all. He took it back and left. Now Hu Meng's intestines are regretful, and his face is lost. There is no way to regret it.

if a person doesn't love you, what he can do is beyond your imagination. Tan Yue is like this, he used to love.